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Baby inconsolable at night?

babybluubabybluu member
in January 2016 Moms
My baby is going on 6 days old and all during the day she nurses as much as she wants and even falls asleep after feedings. But after 9 pm rolls around it's a whole different story. She shows all the early hunger cues, so I try and get her to feed. She tries for maybe 30 seconds then pushed off screaming bloody murder. Last night it was an ongoing battle with literal constant screaming until 4:30 am when I broke down and fed her a bottle of formula, which I've done every night since the day after she was born for the same reason. And what do you know, she falls right asleep. I don't want to formula feed or supplement and everyone I've talked to said to just stick with offering her the breast. But I don't know how I'm suppose to do that. Nothing I do consoles her( I think I've tried everything). So she's exhausted and hungry. I can't win. I'm scared that I've ruined her since offering that first bottle in the hospital. The ONLY time she has a bottle is at night when she's crying like that. Does anyone else have this problem? Is it possible to not supplement anymore?? If so, what can I try? Btw my milk is in too
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  • stephanienjerstephanienjer member
    Have you tried supplementing at the breast? I have a neat little tube that I can tape to the side of my breast to give her a little supplement while she's latched naturally. Alternatively, have you tried giving her a pumped bottle? I'm wondering if she just wants the bottle or the formula at night...
    No solutions here, just a few things to consider.
    Good luck. We've had a hard first few days, too.
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  • mcongdon18mcongdon18 member
    edited January 2016
    Peeking over from December board. I might have a few guesses, my milk came in slow. I never got the engorgment I just slowly started seeing the colostrum be more milky (I would pump to try to increase supply after DS was done). Maybe your milk hasn't fully come in? You have to keep sane mama but him suckling says to make more milk, your body doesn't get that message if you supplement. Is it you're too engorged? I know at night when the milk tanks are full DS will pull off ( probably because it's too much) and he will get cranky and fussy. To help that of I'm too full I'll use the manual pump and pump some out so its not coming out full force. Stick with it mama and take a deep breath, maybe consult with a lactation consultant? Our hospital had free ones we could make an app with anytime. Good luck!
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  • ChrissyD1203ChrissyD1203 member
    Yes this was my baby but she grew out of it. I did the formula thing 1x a night for a few nights but went back to breast after my milk came in and it's working fine. I think if you try again eventually it might work - hang in there. The first week was really really tough but week 2 was much better.
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  • danasphillipsdanasphillips member
    So here's the thing- breastfeeding is more work for babies than bottle feeding. When they are tired it's easy for them to get frustrated trying to latch and all that while bottle feeding is a bit more passive for them, so they can kind of sit back and be a little lazier about it. I don't suggest using formula if you want to exclusively breastfeed. Instead, why not pump for that nighttime bottle until she grows out of it? Then you don't have to worry about your supply being affected and YH can even give it to her while you get a break to relax.
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  • babybluubabybluu member
    WineBaby122 said:

    So here's the thing- breastfeeding is more work for babies than bottle feeding. When they are tired it's easy for them to get frustrated trying to latch and all that while bottle feeding is a bit more passive for them, so they can kind of sit back and be a little lazier about it. I don't suggest using formula if you want to exclusively breastfeed. Instead, why not pump for that nighttime bottle until she grows out of it? Then you don't have to worry about your supply being affected and YH can even give it to her while you get a break to relax.

    I'm gonna try that. Last time I did I couldn't even produce an ounce so she was still hungry. It was like half an oz. maybe now that my milk is in I can get more

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  • babybluubabybluu member
    ChrissyD1203 said:

    Yes this was my baby but she grew out of it. I did the formula thing 1x a night for a few nights but went back to breast after my milk came in and it's working fine. I think if you try again eventually it might work - hang in there. The first week was really really tough but week 2 was much better.

    Thank you! I will definitely be glad for this part to be over :/ but I don't want her to grow up either lol
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  • babybluubabybluu member
    mcongdon18 said:

    Peeking over from December board. I might have a few guesses, my milk came in slow. I never got the engorgment I just slowly started seeing the colostrum be more milky (I would pump to try to increase supply after DS was done). Maybe your milk hasn't fully come in? You have to keep sane mama but him suckling says to make more milk, your body doesn't get that message if you supplement. Is it you're too engorged? I know at night when the milk tanks are full DS will pull off ( probably because it's too much) and he will get cranky and fussy. To help that of I'm too full I'll use the manual pump and pump some out so its not coming out full force. Stick with it mama and take a deep breath, maybe consult with a lactation consultant? Our hospital had free ones we could make an app with anytime. Good luck!


    I'm not too sure what engorgement feels like. When I wake up after supplementing my boobs feel sore like someone punched them. They don't feel hard or anything. But now I can squirt milk out (weird lol) and can make it drip out when I couldn't do that with the colostrum. Idk it's all so confusing.
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  • babybluubabybluu member
    stephanienjer said:

    Have you tried supplementing at the breast? I have a neat little tube that I can tape to the side of my breast to give her a little supplement while she's latched naturally. Alternatively, have you tried giving her a pumped bottle? I'm wondering if she just wants the bottle or the formula at night...
    No solutions here, just a few things to consider.
    Good luck. We've had a hard first few days, too.


    Oh I've seen those. I'll ask my lactation consultant about trying one. That might help actually
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  • KimC2010KimC2010 member
    That was our last night. I haven't supplemented though. She woulf feed forever, and still rooted constantly. I have been a sobbing mess because of it. I desperately want to ebf. One of my nurses suggested pumping and using some of the milk to entice her to wake up and latch. We have a borderline jaundice baby so all she wants to do during the day is sleep. Night time wide awake and hungry.
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  • MssyMmmyMssyMmmy member
    This happened to me too. It does get better! I needed to supplement with formula for a while at night too. My midwife explained that the formula was to help give my baby enough strength so that he could Breast feed for longer. It worked great! I only have it in the house for an emergency now and he's gained a good amount of weight. Milk comes in a few days after birth but it takes a little longer for it to be steady. Each week slowly gets better both c-section wise and baby wise. I don't want to wish away new born time, but I can't wait until things get more consistent.
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  • AchaeAchae member
    @babybluu engorgement feels like your boobs are rocks and any touch is painful. I would second the pumping at night if baby is refusing breast then so you can up your supply but still feed baby your bm.
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  • Wicked4589Wicked4589 member
    We struggle with this. I talked to a LLL leader about it and she offered some suggestions. She thinks my milk was coming out strong and he couldn't handle it being so strong so he'd suck then pull off, suck, pull off and fight against it, etc. this goes on for 20 minutes. We tried different positions which worked (try recline position) and I also pump for a few minutes beforehand if I can. It takes away some of the forcefulness of my flow. It has helped immensely. Could be worth s shot.
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  • babybluubabybluu member
    I bought a little manual pump tonight so I'm gonna take that to bed with me tonight and see how that goes. I also had a conversation with a lactation consultant and she seems to think that baby doesn't eat enough during the day so she's starving at night. I told her baby always eats during the day but she falls asleep in a couple minutes. It never occurred to me that she wasn't eating enough during the day. So she said I have to keep her awake while she feeds and that is SOOOO hard. I get her naked, change her diaper, wipe her head with a cold wash cloth. Play with her feet and hands. Nothing works. This kid LOVES her sleep, at the least convenient times for me lol
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  • krrpe99krrpe99 member
    Mine is 6 days old too. She wasn't getting enough from the breast and I had to supplement (my milk still hasn't really come in.) I had a lactation consultant come to help, and I told her of the same fears of ruining her chances to successfully breast feed. She reassured me that we could get things going well and taper off the bottle.
    Just remember that you have to do what's right for your baby. If she needs some formula, then you shouldn't feel guilty. We do what we need to do for the love of our child.
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