Bad at baby sharing..

alisongem · January 2016

I hate when other people hold my baby... Other than my hubby and parents. I want to cringe every time I give her up and the thought of bringing her to family events with big groups of people make me so anxious. Anyone else feel this way? I know it's irrational but I hope it's somewhat normal. I never thought id be an over protective mom but I totally am...

Jessdub10 · January 2016

I don't find it irrational at all. I was the same way with my daughter. She is 3 now and I'm still very picky about who has one on one time with her.

Monilee1017 · January 2016

Normal. Word of advise, if you are going somewhere are don't want to share than baby wear. I have to go to a family function when baby is a week old. I am just going to wear her the whole time. I don't want everyone's hands on her when she is so little. This is what I did with my son when I had to go to a wedding when he was two weeks old. It works because they sleep so good when you wear them. So people just ask to see baby but don't normally kiss them because baby is right next to your breast.

ashhsa · January 2016

I'm okay for a little while- but then after person after person, and for a longer period of time I start to get a bit anxious, I haven't asked for her back yet- as it's always people I trust holding her so I know I just have to let myself adjust. I haven't had to deal with anyone Not in my inner circle as of yet- that will be a test!

UptownPearl · January 2016

I feel the same way. I love to share DS with my mom and DH, but when anyone else holds him I just want him back. I think it's because I trust my DH and my mom more than anyone else? I'm not sure, but I definitely feel a little anxiety when guests come to meet and hold him

kaym6 · January 2016

I didn't think I minded but we live out of state from all family so everyone who comes to see baby had to stay at our house for a day or two and I HATE it. I'm okay at first but then after hours and hours and DAYS of them being there I really just want my baby back and to be alone ugh I think it's normal. They're ours.

alisongem · January 2016

You guys all described what I feel- so that's good. Haha. I don't feel crazy anymore. @Monilee1017 baby wearing is a great idea! I'll try that!

PedsIsHardcore · January 2016

You don't have to adjust to it. This is your child, not theirs. These kiddos are super small, vulnerable and how mama wants it is usually in the kiddos best interest. We are having a few visitors but not going to anything with other people. We might go to Temple a month later but Rabbi would be the only adult holding her other than me and SO. And that would only be to do blessings.

sarahbeara25 · January 2016

We're doing our baby shower after baby is here, many friends and family are quite far so we figured two birds one stone kind of deal. I will be baby wearing for it, and while I will share my little one I also know my family and friends... they understand my neuroticness so if I ask for baby back they won't hesitate. Some of them even know my anxious body language well enough lol.

I definitely don't think it's weird or strange, especially with a newborn. Heck I'm scared that I will drop or mess up, others scare me even more lol.

A couple moms I know SWEAR by baby wearing at the big events as PP said. You may still get requests but you can just say little is comfy or that you prefer not to do in and out of the carrier, or sling/wrap, too often.

danasphillips · January 2016

Yup. Hate sharing my newborns, especially during cold and flu season. Think I can convince everyone to stay away until March?

TurtleMeg · January 2016

It's winter. People have germs. I totally get it.

kaym6 · January 2016

Also. If my baby is crying... Time to give him back. Not laugh at "how cute it is"

Hipshaker · January 2016

I became angry when pep ok held the the dd. Except for my husband. It's totally natural and normal.

UptownPearl · January 2016

I'm currently hiding in the nursery because DH's family is over. They think we're nursing. We're cuddling and watching tv.

BAUMGC39 · January 2016

UptownPearl said:
I'm currently hiding in the nursery because DH's family is over. They think we're nursing. We're cuddling and watching tv.

^^^ Hahahahahahaha -love this!!!!

OP- it's not irrational - you are the mother who created and grew this life. I totally felt that way with my first (still do sometimes at 20 months). Learn to baby wear - it totally helps at events especially with having a winter baby. Good luck!

sunnydlight · January 2016

So glad you posted this. I thought I'd be the only one this crazy. I don't even like other people watching or touching my dogs or horses. Why would I like them watching or touching my baby. It absolutly freaks me out to no end. I feel terrible about it because everyone is so excited because this is the first girl on my husbands side and the first grandbaby on my side. But I just cring and have near panic attacks at the thought of other people even looking at her
She's not even here yet so I'm sure this feeling will get even worse.

alisongem · January 2016

@sunnydlight yes!! My hubbys friends always tease our dog and cat when they come over and it always makes me anxious! Haha at least the cat can hold his own- our poor dog just takes it. But they're pretty good with holding the baby, I still don't like it though. I just want her all to myself!

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