Need a space to vent?

stillcozy · January 2016

Sometimes we all need to vent about things going on in our bmb in a private safe place. Feel free to comment here or message me if you would like to join.

ecwk · January 2016

You should probably post this in third tri too!

Lulucooks · January 2016

Guess the non pregnant ladies don't get to vent....

stillcozy · January 2016

Lulucooks said:
Guess the non pregnant ladies don't get to vent....

Ha come vent

and it's just to vent in general not just board specific

stillcozy · January 2016

This sounded like a great idea when I was in all sorts of, dr approved I should mention, cold medicine and then woke up today realizing it was pretty stupid! Note to self don't bump when sick

I vote to change this into a gif party !

BostonBaby1 · January 2016

@Lindsayleigh1989 YGPM

Thscary · January 2016

Since this is here, I am going to vent. I am new to this so I am not up on some of the lingo used on these boards. Before I start venting, I want everyone to know that we are going to love this baby so so much, BUT...

Is there anyone else out there that hasn't been over the moon excited to find out they are expecting? I know I should be so happy, especially after knowing so many people that had difficulty conceiving/couldn't conceive at all. I should be thrilled that it came so easily for us, but I haven't gotten around to being excited yet. Ever since I found out, I've been stressing over everything. I feel like a horrible mother already for not jumping up and down for joy.

I know the last thing I should be doing is complaining, but I am hoping there is someone out there that has felt the way I do?

1faceinacrowd · January 2016

Here's my vent for today:
My best friend keeps making comments about how fat I'm going to get during my pregnancy. Last night I sent her a snap chat of my DH and I at the store getting oreos (HE was craving oreos...lol) and she responded with her cheeks puffed out saying, "keep eating like that and you'll look like THIS!" She said something similar when she was over at my house a few weeks ago; she had brought small hot fudge sundaes for everyone, so I had one (didn't finish it though). Later in the evening, I had a bomb pop (a 100 calorie popsicle) to help with my nausea and she pointed out that I really need to "watch it" or I'm going to blow up like a balloon.
I eat healthy - lots of fruits and veggies - and my go-to snacks consist of yogurt and low fat cottage cheese. Sure, I've indulged in unhealthy snacks here and there, but honestly no more than when I'm not pregnant. I'm 11 weeks pregnant and while I haven't weighed myself, I don't think I've gained much of anything. I wish she'd lay off. -_-

irohspupil · January 2016

Thscary said:
Since this is here, I am going to vent. I am new to this so I am not up on some of the lingo used on these boards. Before I start venting, I want everyone to know that we are going to love this baby so so much, BUT...

Is there anyone else out there that hasn't been over the moon excited to find out they are expecting? I know I should be so happy, especially after knowing so many people that had difficulty conceiving/couldn't conceive at all. I should be thrilled that it came so easily for us, but I haven't gotten around to being excited yet. Ever since I found out, I've been stressing over everything. I feel like a horrible mother already for not jumping up and down for joy.

I know the last thing I should be doing is complaining, but I am hoping there is someone out there that has felt the way I do?

Hey @Thscary

I found out I was pregnant with my daughter the day before Thanksgiving 2014. I was NOT expecting it, and I was scared out of my mind. I couldn't even make myself excited. My DH was so happy about the news that I pretty much felt even worse about not looking forward to her being here.
However, by the time I started feeling her kick on a regular basis in the second trimester, I started to warm up to the idea of her coming. When I hit the third trimester, all I could think about was her arrival; I read anything newborn related and I'd spend probably twenty minutes a day in her nursery just smiling.

It's a HUGE, life-changing adjustment to make, and it's okay to not be excited.

nanner26 · January 2016

@1faceinacrowd
Wow! That is awful. How I would approach it is the next time she says something, I would just tell her that those kind of comments hurt my feelings. She wouldn't make those kinds of comments if you weren't pregnant, at least I hope not. Maybe once she sees that its not funny, she'll back off.
Or next time just give her this look.

1faceinacrowd · January 2016

@Hannah0726 That just made me giggle out loud.

I think she means well. She gained 40 pounds with her pregnancy and now, five years later, still struggles with her weight - something she had never dealt with pre-baby. I'm sure she just doesn't want me to suffer the same fate, but I have been pregnant before too, and lost my 20 pounds of pregnancy weight very quickly. It's like she completely forgot that I've been through this before and know better than to literally eat for two.

ecwk · January 2016

1faceinacrowd said:
@Hannah0726 That just made me giggle out loud.

I think she means well. She gained 40 pounds with her pregnancy and now, five years later, still struggles with her weight - something she had never dealt with pre-baby. I'm sure she just doesn't want me to suffer the same fate, but I have been pregnant before too, and lost my 20 pounds of pregnancy weight very quickly. It's like she completely forgot that I've been through this before and know better than to literally eat for two.

Why don't you just remind her of how super quickly you lost the 20lb last time? That will probably shut her up.

PrimRoseMama · January 2016

1faceinacrowd said:

@Hannah0726 That just made me giggle out loud.

I think she means well. She gained 40 pounds with her pregnancy and now, five years later, still struggles with her weight - something she had never dealt with pre-baby. I'm sure she just doesn't want me to suffer the same fate, but I have been pregnant before too, and lost my 20 pounds of pregnancy weight very quickly. It's like she completely forgot that I've been through this before and know better than to literally eat for two.

I wish you luck this time around having the same results. I do need to remind you that every pregnancy is different and so is every post partum experience. I lost my baby weight quickly both times, but almost 2 years later I am struggling to lose the weight I've managed to gain (without realizing it) the last 6 months. So...while she is obnoxious with her constant weight reminders, don't be equally obnoxious with crowing about how you lost weight quickly last time. She most likely has not forgotten.

penelope4612 · January 2016

PrimRoseMama said:

1faceinacrowd said:

@Hannah0726 That just made me giggle out loud.

I think she means well. She gained 40 pounds with her pregnancy and now, five years later, still struggles with her weight - something she had never dealt with pre-baby. I'm sure she just doesn't want me to suffer the same fate, but I have been pregnant before too, and lost my 20 pounds of pregnancy weight very quickly. It's like she completely forgot that I've been through this before and know better than to literally eat for two.

I wish you luck this time around having the same results. I do need to remind you that every pregnancy is different and so is every post partum experience. I lost my baby weight quickly both times, but almost 2 years later I am struggling to lose the weight I've managed to gain (without realizing it) the last 6 months. So...while she is obnoxious with her constant weight reminders, don't be equally obnoxious with crowing about how you lost weight quickly last time. She most likely has not forgotten.

*lurking*

@PrimRoseMama it's none of my business and you don't have to answer, but have you gotten your thyroid checked? If you haven't had weight problems in the past and suddenly you're putting on weight and having trouble losing it you might want to call your PCP if you haven't already. Sure, life happens, kids make it harder to do everything, metabolism slows down, there could be 100 reasons for this, but it's pretty easy to check your thyroid and worth it if you're TTC.

PrimRoseMama · January 2016

@penelope4612 : Not yet, but I probably should anyway. I am pretty sure something is up. Thank you so much for offering that bit of advice though. I have thought about it, but half of me is a little afraid to go and have something be up. I'm horrible about going to the GP. The OB has seen me more in the past 5 years than my GP. Embarrassing, I know. If I make it to the year of Active TTC without achieving pregnancy then I'll go for a full workup. Most of my weight issues have been eating like crap (I'm pretty sure that's most of it if I'm honest) and eating "toddler food" most of the time. I've been able to lose about 10 lbs just going back to my "normal" , healthier eating habits. Its a good point that you make though and if anyone else was in my position I would make the same. Thank you!

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