Infertility

Til it happens to you...

I'm not sure if this is an appropriate post, but I wanted to share this anyway. I was listening to a morning radio show yesterday and they were discussing Lady Gaga's song "Til it happens to you." I personally haven't heard the song before yesterday and it was written for a documentary about rape victims. The video is graphic, so I didn't want to post it so it wouldn't upset anyone (you can find it on YouTube.) Anyway, I just found the song fitting to what we're all going through. The words don't talk about rape specifically so the song can be applied to a number of instances/situations. I said to myself "even I had no idea what women with fertility issues were going through until it happened to me." The song touched me and I shed a tear while thinking of my own struggles. Just wanted to share it as I feel like playing it for people when they ask me when I'm having kids finally. <3 
***History & TW in Spoiler***

***bfp & child warning***
TTC - since 2014
7 rounds of Clomid - BFN
IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN
IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN
IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN
IVF #1 - March 2016
Retrieval #1 - April 2016
FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017
Trying for baby #2...
FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN  
No more embryos left; switched to a new RE
IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019
IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019
FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - DD: Born December 2019
Trying for baby #3...
FET #4 - October 2021 - BFP!!! - Due June 2022


Re: Til it happens to you...

  • Thank you for sharing. I agree that the video is a bit disturbing, but the lyrics are lovely, and very true.
    About us:
    Me - 28, Lean PCOS
    DH - 31
    Married June 2010, TTC since March 2014
    Blog: ourbinarystar.com

    FET cycle #3 Transfer July 28th 2016, Triplets born healthy on February 26th 2017 at 33w1d!

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  • Such a lovely post, and so very appropriate, so thank you for sharing... love stuff like this. I'm going to go find it/listen to it right now. Probably won't watch the video. I'll use my imagination instead related to our struggles as infertiles. 
    xx
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    Started TTC April 2011
    Me: 32, DH: 32
    Diagnosis: Endometriosis

    • 2012 - 3 Rounds clomid - all BFN
    • 2013 - 1 Fresh IVF with 2 day 3 embryos - BFN
    • 2014 - 1 Frozen IVF with 2 day 5 embryos - BFN
    • Took a long break, continuing trying naturally
    • Feb 2016 - Biopsy = Endo, DH sperm improved from 1% to 6% morphology
    • March 2016 - Fresh IVF cycle with acupuncture & intralipids: 20 eggs retrieved (17 mature), 7 ICSI'd fertilized, 9 naturally fertilized. 16 total embryos!
    • April 8th - 2 embryos (1ICSI and 1 Natural) transferred. (7 blastocysts frozen), April 18th - Beta = BFN
    • Sept 23rd - Lupron Depot Injection for Endo control
    • Nov 15th 2016 - Started daily Lupron Injections for upcoming FET
    • Nov 22 - Baseline US/BW - Intralipid Infusion - Start Meds for FET with immune protocol
    • Dec 16th FET transfer of 3 embryos (1 - AA, 2 - BB)
    • TW below
    • Dec 22nd - first ever bfp (very faint lines FRER & cheapie)
    • Dec 27th Beta = 192, Dec 29th Beta = 379
    • EDD - Sept 5th 2017

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  • I hadn't heard the song before, and the words are beautiful.
    I never knew how it felt, and am a little glad I haven't spoken with anyone before that went through infertility. As I might have said the same things, done the same things as some of my friends that really have no clue. Which sometimes, even though they mean well, is utterly hurtful without them realising.

    Thank you for sharing.

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  • Thanks for this I will listen to it soon. I have completely been the clueless person mostly thinking the thoughts rather then say them out loud (thank goodness) but I definitely had no idea. With that I try to be patient with people, but also find myself making stuff up in my head of what people are thinking b\c of the ignorant thoughts I use to have. This has definitely in a way made me a more humble and patient person and I thank God for that. Love to you all and baby dust.
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