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39wks and always fighting with the husband.

deedeecmc79deedeecmc79 member
in January 2016 Moms
I really am confused as to how I should feel. I am really getting sick of all the stupid arguments! For example, I mistakenly thought he was done asking a question and answered. So I get the 3rd degree on how I never let him finish a sentence. This is just one example of "stupid" fighting. I really feel crappie and I am starting to doubt when it will ever stop. I just don't even feel comfortable with him in the delivery room anymore. Sorry to unload just feeling really at a loss at this important time and needed to reach out :(
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  • ashhsaashhsa member
    I was like this at the end of pregnancy with my husband too... And now we are back to normal- honestly there is so much presure on the BOTH of you, hopefully once the bub is here you will forget all the small stuff- and my advice is you def want him in that delivery room! For your sake.
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  • deedeecmc79deedeecmc79 member
    Thank You :)
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  • kqualls5kqualls5 member
    We're the same way. I'm 40 weeks, and for the last few we just fight about every little thing. And it's almost like he has no sympathy for anything I'm dealing with. He knows labor is going to be hard and tells me he wishes he could somehow do it for me, but when I talk about round ligament pains, headaches, trouble sleeping, or painful BH's, he side eyes at me and says "other women probably have it worse". That's his favorite line, I swear. K cool yeah but that doesn't mean I'm not in pain, too. Sorry. I'm ranting.

    My mom told me her and my dad struggled the whole third trimester with all 3 of her pregnancies, so I'm telling myself (and you!) to try & stay positive. Maybe have a date night before LO arrives.
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  • alisongemalisongem member
    The last couple weeks of pregnancy we fought a ton. I think there was just a lot of built up stress and pressure and we had no idea what to expect. But as soon as we got to the hospital (we even fought on the way there!) there was a complete shift in his personality. He did amazing during the delivery and he's been amazing ever since. I think my nesting instincts miraculously went from me to him lol. Unless there's abuse involved, I'd let things blow over and hopefully you'll see a change once baby gets here.
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  • deedeecmc79deedeecmc79 member
    Thanks everyone :)
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  • MamaHollandMamaHolland member
    It's just all the anxiety, sleep deprivation, nervousness, etc. we fought Ike cats & dogs through christmas. It was crazy, then it all passed. Men are really nervous, worried & anxious too as the due date approaches & they don't really communicate it so it causes some friction or you can end up being at each throats & on edge.
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  • lolobellrnlolobellrn member
    Same here! I'm 40+1 and For the last 2 weeks we've fought over stupid things, like moving our bedroom furniture, what to eat for dinner, etc. I was feeling really down about it and discouraged that he wouldn't be supportive when the time comes, but I also realize there's a lot of stress and anxiety in the unknown and that has us both on edge. I agree with pp's if this is not ordinary for you guys id say brush it off and just make a conscious effort to communicate your feelings so they don't get the best of you! Good luck, we all have been there!
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  • GAgirlinSDakotaGAgirlinSDakota member
    SO and I fought so much at the end of my last pregnancy.  I warned him it was coming (been there, done that with exH) b/c I knew the anxiety would hit him.  Between that and my being over everything and on bed rest, of course things could get ugly.  He didn't listen, didn't want to talk about it, didn't want to plan how to handle it, and I was right.  This time around he's pulled his head out of his ass and actually listens.  It does get better again.

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  • sunnydlightsunnydlight member
    You're not the only one! Its hard being this hormonal especially when your husband doesn't understand what its really like.
    Mine does the same thing where he asks a question, will even pause, I'll answer then he'll get bitchy cuz i didn't let him finish. So i let him finish it and its the same freaking question asked a different way. Of course he expects and answer then gets doubly pissy when i tell him he just asked me and i answered it already.
    Mine got pissy with me last night because i had the decency to tell him I was cranky, not at him but just at life in general, and that I'm sorry ahead of time if I'm an ass towards him. You'd think he'd appreciate the warning that I'm going a bit crazy at the moment. But he snaps at me and says he didn't even do anything. Duh, thats why I AM apologizing to you right now you idiot!! Then he wants to know why I'm crying.... Freaking really! I just said I'm cranky and a little crazy and you yell at me for apologizing and you cant figure out why I'm crying?
    Sorry for rambling... But as you can tell you're not alone in the unreasonably argumentative husband department. I swear mine is more hormonal than me. Haha.
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  • mamabear89071516mamabear89071516 member
    Story of my life. I've been so cranky towards him my mom even mentioned something about it lol. We squabble all the time, and then make up, I can't wait to feel normal again!!
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  • ChrissyD1203ChrissyD1203 member
    We fought a lot the last few weeks too!
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  • LIly436LIly436 member
    Might be an unpopular opinion, but it is worth mentioning. Children don't always strengthen families and relationships - all this stress may lead to a break up. So, try to calm down and consider you SO feelings
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  • LIly436LIly436 member
    So sorry for caring 
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  • l4rkl4rk member
    Achae said:

    LIly436 said:

    Might be an unpopular opinion, but it is worth mentioning. Children don't always strengthen families and relationships - all this stress may lead to a break up. So, try to calm down and consider you SO feelings

    Since op is posting I'm sure she already recognizes the stress. You're just a peach.
    It was worded poorly but there is some validity to her statement. I think there's value in putting extra effort into working things out, rather than shrugging it all off as crazy pregnancy hormones, etc. Kids make things harder, not easier. If there are real issues there, best to get to the root of them now and not allow animosity to fester...
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  • LIly436LIly436 member
    Thanks. Sometimes, with all the hormones and huuuuuuuge discomfort, we forget, that SO's patience is not infinite 
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