Switching jobs, when do I say something?

Re: Switching jobs, when do I say something?

• folamij member

  January 2016

  I just recently re-entered the workforce following a layoff and then bedrest. I told them in the first week after I accepted the job and they were very gracious about it. Never feel guilty about something that is going to be good for you and your family. You don't owe them any additional information imo.

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• and_peggy member

  January 2016

  Well it's actually against the law to be fired or not hired due to being pregnant. I personally would tell them as soon as you can. It's important to be upfront and honest with an employer. But it's also your business. They don't need all the details but they deserve to know what will be going on so they can have a plan in place for when you're gone for maternity leave.

  

  
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• RMLandy member

  January 2016

  I'd say something before accepting the position. You won't be entitied to FMLA so they do not legally have to give you maternity leave. In your position, I'd want to know what leave I'd be getting before taking the job.

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• folamij member

  January 2016

  I should clarify my post. I knew upfront what leave I would be getting. @aehogan90 makes a good point that they can't deny the job simply because of pregnancy but it's hard to know if that's the reason you didn't get the job since no potential employer will admit that's the reason they didn't hire you.

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• jenbrinson07 member

  January 2016

  Thanks ladies. I was going to wait until they offer me the position, then let them know I'm pregnant and make sure we can coordinate a mutual plan. I want to discuss leave. If I work at home, I can take a couple weeks off then at least work part time the next few weeks. However, I was worried since I'm not entitled to FMLA. I just don't want to bring it up until I have an offer. Thank God I can still hide it. I'm just starting to show, but sure I can pass for chubby, lol!

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• josie12367 member

  January 2016

  I wore a patterned shirt and an unbuttoned tailored jacket to my interview at 20 weeks to hide my bump. She offered me the position during the interview and I accepted. I then told her immediately. She was appreciative that I told her then, but acted like it was no big deal. I also discussed maternity plans with her as well to make sure we were on the same page since I don't qualify for FMLA and I'm an hourly employee. It was nice to have it out in the open as the next time I came in for my first day (two weeks later) I had "popped" and it was obvious at that point. I say be upfront after you get the offer

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• southerngirlgetsfit member

  January 2016 edited January 2016

  This is tricky. I am in the same boat as you and I'm still unsure what to do. I'd personally feel better telling them during the interview or before I accepted the position. I just feel like it would be a little inappropriate to accept then say, "oh and in xx many weeks I'll need to be out for several weeks to have a baby. Surprise!"
  
  ETA: Not that either way is "wrong", and as pp said, they may deny you of the position and cite reasons other than pregnancy, just to avoid being unethical..but I'd rather not get the position, than accept it and spring the news on them right after. I feel like it would make them less likely to trust me for some reason. Not necessarily how everyone is, just how my paranoid mind works lol

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