will you or did you have a baby shower for baby #2?

HoneyMaidChocolateyChip · January 2016

Is it appropriate to have a shower for baby #2 if you had a shower for baby #1? Thanks!!

Bear14+ · January 2016

I had a baby shower in 2014. No way would I be comfortable with another shower. I don't even want people to get any gifts.

hockeyfan42 · January 2016

Had one for DD in 2011. None this time. I think it's tacky.

fishwife799 · January 2016

I didn't plan on having one and then my friend threw me a surprise one. Mostly just got some diapers and a few outfits. I was very grateful for it and that my friends wanted to celebrate baby #2. The same friend keeps telling me I need to have one for this baby. In my circle of friends it's very acceptable to have them after baby one. The last shower I went to was for a 3rd baby and I was happy to get her something. I know its controversial but they look at it as a celebration of the baby.

Emztron500 · January 2016

Not sure what to answer. I am not anticipating having a baby shower. I don't think anyone will throw me one, but they might. I have 6 siblings so if they want to do something to celebrate the last baby on our side of the family, cool. I'm not going to say no but I also wouldn't ask them to invite all my friends etc.

Sydvicious08 · January 2016

I did. My LO's are 18 months apart. However, I lived 6 hours from my family with my first so family just did random gifts when we visited. With second we had moved back home and my cousin decided to throw me one. I personally think if there is going to be a second, make it a casserole shower. The guests bring a frozen/freezer safe meal for after the baby is born. I've seen it be normal and looked down on. It really depends on your social circle.

m8881 · January 2016

Nope. They embarrassingly gave me one at work but I was really embarrassed by it. Ugh. No personal/friends/family shower for number two or this 3rd baby will be had. We got rid of all of our baby stuff but will just rebuy it. We will go a lot simpler this time too. I had way too much stuff for my boys.

HoneyMaidChocolateyChip · January 2016

Thanks! I was thinking that it might be a bit tacky but was curious what the going trend was. My MIL suggested it a while ago for baby #2 and I wasn't sure if a shower per baby was normal.

lyoash31 · January 2016

I was dead set against a shower for a second pregnancy, especially since my son is just about three, we saved all of his baby stuff, and we purposefully bought it all in gender neutral colors. However, when my family found out we're having twins, my mom and sister insisted on throwing me another one. I tried talking them out of it. I feel that it is my and my husband's responsibility to provide for the children we choose to have. Although we weren't expecting two, and that now means we do have to buy some more things we weren't originally planning on needing (two car seats, double stroller, etc), it's still our responsibility. I finally agreed to a small second shower with the agreement that the invitations will explicitly state "Please, no gifts." I do have a baby registry, but it is a shopping list for me and won't be shared. If people really want to bless us with a gift, our registry is searchable. We're also not buying two of everything and will evaluate our needs for things as we go.

adiaz132003 · January 2016

Assuming you have stuff left over from the first child I don't think you need one. But if there is stuff you need you can always have a celebration (I never thought it was fare to celebrate the first child but not the others). Start a registry if you want and let your guests decide. If they want to get you something you can say "well are do have a registry at ___ but we are not expecting gifts. This party is just for fun". That way the guests don't feel like they have to buy you anything.

Eta: if you have guests who insist on gifts tell them to send them instead of bringing them to the party or if they bring them just out it away or in the car. You wouldn't be opening gifts if front of anyone and You don't want people who didn't bring something to feel like they were supposed to.

KayDray15 · January 2016

I am so on the fence about this! This is my husband and I's first baby together, but I have an 8year old son from a previous relationship. I really don't want to have a shower, but his mother and aunts want to throw one since for them it is a first baby. I would rather have a "BaBy Q" after baby is born. Have everyone over to just eat and meet baby. No gifts.
I don't know how to politely tell my MiL that I would rather not have a second shower.

LDSJM123 · January 2016

I had a daughter 9 years ago and this baby will be my husband and I's first baby together, and the first baby on his side. My mom and best friend have asked to host a shower for me. So I agreed, but we are keeping it intimate. I know this can be controversial, but since it'll have been 10 years since my last baby when the shower takes place, I have people that enthusiastically approached me about hosting, and all of my friends/family have asked when/if I was having one, I don't think (for us) it's "wrong". If anyone that gets invited has a problem with the idea that it's my second shower (technically the last one will have been last decade!) they are free to not come. I wouldn't want anyone there that wasn't comfortable. I personally, wouldn't have an issue going to shower like this if I was invited to one.

newbabymakes4 · January 2016

We are not having another shower, DS is only 19 months old so a lot of the gear we have is still very usable for the new baby. But we will have a small gender reveal party with some of our close friends (no gifts) just so we can have a little party to celebrate this baby.

BlueJuice · January 2016

I voted 'no,' which aligns with my general sentiment on the subject, and we are not planning to have a shower with this baby (actually #3). HOWEVER, I want to add that I think there are situations in which having a shower for a second baby is probably still acceptable. Mostly these have to do with whether the group of people who would be invited have had the chance to celebrate your maternity in the past. Not so much with whether or not you need new baby items for the upcoming baby. I think the PPs who are having a first child in a new relationship (especially where it's the father's first baby) are pretty reasonable in holding one, because of course the father's family would like to celebrate the occasion.

Boonhilde · January 2016

I could understand a second one if the second child was a different sex than the first, but even then you don't need too much more than what you already have.

I've heard of "meet baby diaper parties" where you bring diapers and meet the baby after the baby's born...

noslen0519 · January 2016

DD was born in 2013, and for the few things I need, I wouldn't feel comfortable having another shower. We already have everything we need and were team green for her as well, so everything is usable. If we have a boy this time, I'm sure friends will gift us boy clothes when they come to visit, but I DO NOT want another shower.

FallieB · January 2016

I had asked about this one as well. I'm pregnant with my second, and she will be 8 1/2 years old when my second is born. The advise that I got was to have a sprinkle, a get together to celebrate baby number two. I actually got a lot of support for a sprinkle or a shower. Baby sprinkles seem to be a trend that is growing in popularity and I think I even saw an article on the Bump.com somewhere about this trend, and one that is gaining in popularity and is becoming more accepted. I'm not sure if I will agree to have a small shower or sprinkle, but I do plan on doing something to celebrate the new baby even of after it is born (a BBQ at the house, meet and greet, or some sort of get together), and I'm not going to advertise the registries that I'm going to sign up for. This is a tough one, but do what you feel comfortable doing, and good luck!

bsumter0330 · January 2016

In the African American community this is not so taboo for multiple baby showers...the belief is that every child deserves celebration. I'm not doing a registry or anything and I'm not expecting a shower but I certainly wouldn't say no if someone offered. I hosted 3 showers over 5 years for my best friend and she had plenty of people who showed and brought gifts, other friends as well.

MDKC14 · January 2016

We won't have a traditional shower but we'll still be having a get together. I don't feel like my second deserves less of a celebration than my first. If people want to bring things then okay, cool. If not, okay cool.