Anyone else not finding out the gender?

lwcbrooklyn · December 2015

My husband and I are excited to be surprised in the delivery room - it's our first baby. I'm actually finding it kind of funny how annoyed some family and friends are about this. There are so few surprises left, at least good surprises, that I'm really happy about our decision. We don't care about a pink or blue nursery anyway.

sarawifenow · December 2015

There are plenty of people not finding out the sex of their baby. We call them team green here. If you lurk around, you will see people announcing this stuff on HDBD threads and what not. I personally am team blue.

ETA: This poll was on the second page. https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12650965/do-you-know-what-youre-having#latest

TheThornBird · December 2015

Yup! And yea, it's hilarious how people react to it. Everyone is very concerned we won't know what color stuff to buy and warned us people would only give us things in one color- yellow. Uh, pretty sure if we knew the sex we would still be given things in only one color!

babykasper · December 2015

I wanted to be team green! But hubby really wanted to know! And then at our 13 week ultrasound the tech said BOY PARTS all excited and we just cracked up laughing! We had thought it was a girl! Maybe next baby we will be able to keep the surprise!

mschill22 · December 2015

I am really happy to be team green and am a FTM too!! I think not knowing the sex might be the only thing that helps me get through labor!

JennyS86 · January 2016

second pregnancy and second time team green! Makes delivery so exciting

pelicanesque · January 2016

TheThornBird said:
...warned us people would only give us things in one color- yellow. Uh, pretty sure if we knew the sex we would still be given things in only one color!

Hahaha so true!

Pregghers · January 2016

I'm also amused at how irritated some people are that we aren't finding out. My mother said we needed to send her pictures from the anatomy scan so she could figure out the sex on her own and "know what color clothes to buy." I sent her a head shot from the ultrasound and she was really irritated.

samclrk21 · January 2016

We aren't finding out the sex either! It's not important, all that matters is if baby is healthy. My family is fine with it but surprised since I'm an ultrasound tech and can scan myself any day to find out lol. I'm just happy baby is healthy and can't wait to hold this little one in my arms.

lwcbrooklyn · January 2016

I think we're all in agreement that this will make delivery so exciting!! Still daunting... but a surprise at the end!

emilyj77 · January 2016

Second time team green here too. In addition to making delivery more exciting, I think it makes the next 4-5 months more exciting too. IMO it seems like once you know the sex, then you name the baby, and then it's just a waiting game. Like the next months aren't hard enough already.

A friend told me that she did find out the sex of their first child, girl, so everything they had was pink. Even the big stuff that you wouldn't want to have to buy again for other children, like swings and play mats, etc. Something to consider.

My favorite way to answer the question "Do you know what you're having?", "Well we hope it's a baby, but it could be a pony!" And "Are you finding out the sex?" "Of course! In May when the baby is delivered." Lots of eye rolls with that one.

lwcbrooklyn · January 2016

@emilyj77 When people ask me what I'm having, I enthusiastically respond "A baby!" or "A human, I hope!" hahaha

emmaaulelei · January 2016

I've always planned on not finding out. My husband was a little irritated at the beginning but I think he's come around to the idea (not that he has a choice because I'm growing the thing).

My in-laws all think I'm crazy, and my #1 most annoying response I get is: "oh I could never do that, it's because I'm such a planner!"

What do you have to plan differently? I'm also a planner, I love my color coordinated calendars and spreadsheets! You plan for a baby, the gender doesn't even matter!

I picked out a nice gender neutral theme for the nursery (we're planning on multiple kids anyway so why would I choose anything else) and we'll buy a pack of gray onesies.

I've hear nurses say that deliveries where the parents don't know the gender are always her favorite

TEAM GREEN FOR LIFE

JennyS86 · January 2016

I asked our ultrasound tech who did our AS this past Monday how many people do Team Green these days. She said she sees only 5% or less Team Green, or one every few days. I was surprised it was that low!
Team Green #3!

BlueJuice · January 2016

I just had my Team Green ultrasound today, in fact. I mentioned this on Facebook, someone wanted to know what the 'verdict' (?!? haha) was, and my answer was, 'Um, baby looks healthy and very wiggly!' She was all 'you're going to be surprised? Who even does that anymore?!'

I was all..... 'me.'

epc5027 · January 2016

This is my third baby whose sex I will not find out until birth (I did find out with my 1st- I was really young, I didn't know there was a different option). I cannot recommend it more! There are so few surprises in life- this is a great one! And I've had all boys so far, so I think with that expectation and anticipation of having a girl, there could be some understandable disappointment when it's not. That is eliminated when you find out at birth, for me anyway. There's too much joy & excitement! I studied to be a midwife for a few years between high school & college & it was always so amazing when the mother or father would announce the sex. Even when you think you know, it's just always such an amazing surprise for everyone!
I don't get annoyance- all of our family & friends LOVE that we don't find out.

I do always get anxious though with ultrasounds. I hear so many stories of techs accidentally blurting something out, it gets me paranoid (probably unnecessarily). My doctor though did a quick heartbeat ultrasound recently & I told her how important it is that we don't know. It was just a heartbeat check (they have the worst dopplers, but that's another thing), so I thought it would be quick. But then she decided to look for herself! And almost tried to show me. And I had to look away & be like (again), "it's really important to us that we don't find out". It was definitely odd.

What is interesting is that I live in a large city, people are very talkative when you're pregnant. There are people who think that because I haven't found out, it means I have not been receiving prenatal care. It's a very interesting look at how different demographics think about & experience pregnancy.

Jessabelly · January 2016

We didn't find out with our daughter and didn't find out again. Best surprise ever!!!! Drives everyone around us nuts though. Lol

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