Nervous after sonogram. - Anyone else?

saguiniga · January 2016

Hello everyone! This is my first posting and I am a bit (this is an understatement) nervous. This is my first pregnancy and I moved about 45 minutes away from my former OBYN, who I loved. A friend recommended her OBYN, who is closer to my house. I had my first appointment and sonogram last week. During the sonogram, we did not see the baby's heartbeat. When I met with the doctor, she told me that either 1) I ovulated later in the cycle and we were too early to see/hear the beat, or 2) that it could be a miscarriage. She seemed to go in to much more detail about a miscarriage instead of the former, which was very upsetting. She suggested that I come in the following week for another sonogram, and go from there. This morning, I had my second sonogram, and we determined that I am 6 weeks and 1 day along, as opposed to 8 weeks, as we originally thought. We saw the heartbeat and I was thrilled. However the sonogram tech could not determine if the heartbeat that she heard was the baby's or mine. Also, my husband said that it seemed as if the tech did not measure the entire rump to crown area. (Granted, my husband has no medical training at all.) I met with the nurse practitioner afterward, and she said that the heartbeat seemed low, and that the baby hasn't grown too much since last week. She then went into the possibility of either 1) being too soon (again) or 2) miscarriage, but ALSO stressed the possibility of the miscarriage. My husband showed the picture of the sonogram, and said that it has grown significantly since last week. The NP blew him off and said, "it was probably a different angle." She suggested that I take a blood test to monitor my hormone levels, and then take another blood test on Friday to see if they are going up or down. I have another sonogram scheduled for next week. Regardless, she, and the doctor I met with last week, were not at all compassionate or encouraging. In fact, they were both quite negative. Clearly, I want the baby to be healthy and I want this baby so badly (don't we all.) I am just so upset. I'm trying to pretend that everything is ok at work (a new job that I just started) when I am actually holding back tears because I am so nervous. My husband wants me to stay positive, but I am just so nervous. Has anyone had a similar situation? Any thoughts? I called my former OBYN but they can't see me for two more weeks, I'm not sure if I can wait that long. Thank you all!

RedMar · January 2016

I'm sorry to hear they were so insensitive. Sometimes they can really treat miscarriages like a dime a dozen and overlook how detrimental it is for a woman to go through a loss. That's exactly how I felt after my MC anyway.

If you didn't like the way they handled things, I wouldn't go back there. Either find a new OB or stick with the one you're most comfortable with. You have a long ride with this doc, you need to be happy!

saguiniga · January 2016

Thank you so much for your feedback. I greatly appreciate it. I still don't know what any of it means. And I am so sorry for your loss. It's really difficult to even comprehend. I am going to see my former OBGYN, I just don't know if I should go back for a third sonogram.

RedMar · January 2016

Personally, I don't like sonograms this early in the game bc they can give people false hope. I saw my baby's heartbeat, but then miscarried days later. What I found reassuring from my last pregnancy was tracking my hormone levels and seeing if they were doubling every few days. I would do that before another sonogram IMO.

saguiniga · January 2016

@RedMar Thank you so much. I am supposed to have my blood taken again on Friday, but then would have to return to the same OBGYN. So, I'm it's an odd situation.

RedMar · January 2016

You're welcome and good luck! You could always use the office for bloodwork and then transfer elsewhere.

reesaXden · January 2016

I'm so sorry you are going through this!! Big hugs!

Akiratani · January 2016

I am sorry to hear how you have been treated. I personally have no experience with miscarriage but I do have experience with uncompassionate doctors. I highly recommend if you are not comfortable to switch doctors as soon as you get your blood work back. With my first two pregnancies I had two different doctors who didn't really seem to care about me or how I felt. I thought it would get better throughout my pregnancy (with us seeing each other more) but it did not and it continuted to making my deliveries uncomfortable. But good luck with everything!

hoping you have aa healthy sticky baby

saguiniga · January 2016

Thank you all so much. This is so encouraging and sweet. I think that transferring doctors after blood work is a great idea. Thank you, again!

mrsgillham14 · January 2016

It sounds to me like the baby's heart just started beating. 6w is right at the beginning of hearing a heartbeat. It's very possible that you ovulated late and aren't as far along as you thought you are. Did they tell you what the BPM were? It's pretty easy to tell between your heartbeat and a baby's.

TeacherMama7 · January 2016

I feel like it's still so early to see the heartbeat! Have hope, don't stress and try not to worry! If you were not treated well, like it sounds, I would Switch doctors. My first pregnancy was a miscarriage and they treated me very gently and sweetly - that is what you deserve!

Kristalyn85 · January 2016

Sadly, I am going through the exact same thing currently with my OB (who I loved throughout my 1st pregnancy). We went in last night for a sonogram after I had concerns. I should be measuring at 6w 2d but he said everything was measuring more like 4 weeks. Dr. also stressed a potential miscarriage, because I am positive about my dates. I had the first set of bloodwork last night and go back tomorrow. I am still hoping for a healthy baby. I am sorry that you are going through this. I hope your next experience is better with them, but it is definitely not too early to switch to a place you feel more comfortable.

noelani42 · January 2016

This sounds EXACTLY like what happened with my daughter...turns our I ovulated late, but it took 3 sonograms to finally determine she was growing at the right rate...don't lose hope!

RedMar · January 2016

Stay strong ladies!!!

saguiniga · January 2016

Thank you all so much for the encouraging words! @Kristalyn85, it's so nice to know that I'm not alone. It's incredibly nerve wracking. I, too, was positive about my dates. I'm really hoping That we just ovulated later than expected, which seems to happen. Thinking about you for tomorrow!!! Good luck!

izzetoot · January 2016

So sorry you are going through this

I would go back to your original doctor that you like so much. I cant imagine having to deal with such uncompassionate docs and nurses during such an exciting time in your life. With my DS, my OB sent me to a sonogram specialist to get my first sono, it was around 6 weeks, and even he couldn't see or hear anything and everything turned our great! Now with my 2nd pregnancy I am not seeing him until 9weeks. This early on the best way to monitor healthy normal growth is through beta testing, or blood tests. The ones you already did and are going back for 24hrs later. As long as the HCG numbers double you are looking good! Maybe make a new appt with the OB you like but still go back for more blood work on Friday and just switch afterwards. Good luck!

saguiniga · January 2016

Thank you so so so so much! I found an OB that' s close to my house and they are bringing me in on Monday! I feel so much better just knowing that I am seeing someone else!

crispy11 · January 2016

I'm glad you have an appointment with a new doctor. The beginning of pregnancy can be incredibly stressful and you deserve a supportive doctor!

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