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Any stories of misdiagnosed miscarriages?? I need a little hope. (supposed to be 5wk2d)

So Monday at work I was told that I was getting a promotion, but I would have to go to the training the very next day. When I got home, I called my husband to let him know the good news since he is in the military and stationed 3 hours away. He called me back and I told him about my promotion. He has PTSD so one thing led to another and somehow we were now arguing about issues from way back in high school (we are now 23 and 24). I try to stick by my husband in his situation because I know he seriously has some issues after coming back from Afghanistan, but the stress is overwhelming sometimes and he can get very out of hand and cross lots of lines that no one should ever cross. He got so mad that he finally said that he didn't want me or the baby anymore. We stopped talking that night, even after he called me over 30 times back to back... I didn't answer. The next morning I woke up with the most overwhelming stressful feeling. I went to my training for my new job. Close to the end of the training, I started feeling like blood was gushing into my underwear... like it feels when I'm on my period. I went to the bathroom when the training was over and there was bright red blood everywhere. Luckily I had a pad in my purse. I put it on, rushed to my car and flew down the highway to the hospital. I get there and everyone is already treating me as if I had lost my baby. I was passing some clots and had some cramping. The nurse did a urine test that came back negative, but I had just gotten a strong positive the night before. They did a BETA blood test... they said my HCG levels were under 6. I was not offered an ultrasound or anything of that sort... but my cervix still feels completely closed to me... which is weird. I spent all day and all night crying my eyes out yesterday, with no support from my husband. I tried contacting him to let him know what was happening and got no response at all. But something in me still thinks I am pregnant and somehow I'm going to get the blessing of a lifetime and my HCG levels are going to go back up. Anyone else had a similar situation, please share.

Re: Any stories of misdiagnosed miscarriages?? I need a little hope. (supposed to be 5wk2d)

  • tgortneytgortney member
    edited January 2016
    No experience but I just wanted to say I'm sorry you're going through this! Thoughts and good vibes that everything is okay with you and your husband.

    In regards to the pregnancy, I think the reason why you didn't get an ultrasound is because you are so early. At 5 weeks, there's not much to see but a sac (which will freak people out more). The heartbeat and fetal pole can only be detected as early as 6 weeks.

    I don't want to offer you false hope but perhaps you could schedule an appointment with your regular OB office to verify? They would know more than a hospital. Unfortunately, what you're describing sounds like a MC but I could be wrong.

    Be strong and I hope everything will be okay!
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  • Thanks tgortney... you're the first nice response I've gotten on this site so far. I'm not sure what a troll is, but I got bashed and called a troll over and over again for accidentally posting my intro twice. Thanks for the support.
  • You're welcome! There's a lot of info around here and I've found this community very helpful at times. I'm sorry you had a bad first experience on here. There are members who are very helpful though :)
  • I'm sorry you are going through this. PTSD can be very hard on everyone involved. I hope that you and your husband continue to work through it together, it sounds like you have a long history together. 

    I agree with PP about scheduling a follow up with an OB. They will test your blood over a 48 hour period to see if your levels are climbing, doubling is what they like to see. I hope that you get the news you want and wish you luck.
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  • I'm sorry you are going through this stressful time. Anytime you go to the ER with bleeding after a positive HPT the diagnoses will almost always be "threatened miscarriage".

    From what you've described it doesn't sound good. Your pregnancy is likely not viable, but all you can do is follow up with your OB.


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  • MrsDess said:

    Thanks tgortney... you're the first nice response I've gotten on this site so far. I'm not sure what a troll is, but I got bashed and called a troll over and over again for accidentally posting my intro twice. Thanks for the support.

    Sometimes we get folks posting random stuff over & over. Then the posters that do that kind of thing get upset & say mean things (trolling behavior). So I'm sorry if you feel you got jumped on. Most of the time the posters that do what you describe are not looking for anything but to create disturbance in the community.

    I'm not saying you are doing this or aim to-- but that's where the "bashing" can stem from. Hang in there. This community, over all, is very supportive.


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  • Sorry you are going through this. PP's covered everything. I just want to add that the MC was most likely not your fault. It was really bad timing with everything but early miscarriages are due to chromosomal abnormalities most of the time. Try not to hold on to a thought that you did anything wrong. T&P are with you!
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  • WinterPumpkinWinterPumpkin member
    edited January 2016
    ERs are horrible at handling the pregnant woman + bleeding scenario. Unfortunately your hcg results are discouraging but nobody can tell you exactly what is going on except a second visit to your doctor.


    Please hang in there, I can tell you that even in the event of the worst possible scenario, you will in time recover and this community will support you. Best of luck.
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  • 1) your fight with your DH has nothing to do with your bleeding. Please don't bear yourself up for that.

    2) an US at 5 weeks will be a waste of time, energy and money. There is nothing to see.

    3) no one can tell you if you are just bleeding or having a miscarriage. I really wish we could. Your beta is not promising though, but one number really does not mean much.

    4) I am sorry that you are dealing with this state of limbo. Hugs, and good luck.
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  • As PugsandKisses said, arguing with your husband had nothing to do with what you experienced and miscarriages are not something you can prevent.  Don't blame yourself, please.
    I just recommend taking care of yourself and seeing where the next few weeks takes you.  You are/were too early at 5 weeks to see anything in an ultrasound.
    Good luck to you....
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  • I'm sorry for your loss. I hope things work out ok for you and your husband! (Hugs!)
  • I am sorry you are going through this.

    It sounds very much what my losses were like (negative urine test, low HCG on the blood test and bleeding) I was offered an ultrasound but unless the HCG is over 2000 you aren't likely able to see anything.

  • Sorry your going through this. I mc last May between 4/5 wks. Its hard to deal with and understand that it wasnt my fault. I still think about it. I went to the hospital too levels didnt look good but they did an US which didnt show anything. The bleeding continued so I need it was lost. Hang in there and sorry your going through this.
  • @MrsDess.  I just want to send BIG BIG hugs your way.  I'm really really sorry you're going through this.  
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  • Sending hugs your way!!! Please keep us posted. I just experienced a miscarriage at about 5 1/2 weeks. I had a positive one day and then nothing the next. It's pretty heartbreaking. Then went to the doctor and of course got a negative urine test, and my HCG was <1. I started bleeding right when I got home from the doctor (of course it goes that way!!!). I do know that bright red bleeding is never a good sign. Hang in there girl!!
  • danielladxxxdanielladxxx member
    edited January 2016
    Im really sorry that you going through this.

    I have suffered with an ectopic pregnancy and a missed miscarriage.

    After ectopic, I got another BFP in September 2015. Everything was going well because of my history I was sent to EPAU. I first attended and was told the sac was empty hcg level come back which appeared normal. They told me to come back in 48 hour for more blood and another scan. I did, this time my hcg level dropped I was told I was more than likely having a miscarriage, I was told to come back again in another 48 hours. All this waiting around not knowing what was going on was killing me. I attended again for more bloods my hcg level had gone back up! I had an early scan which dated 5 weeks 2 days a heartbeat was present! I burst into tears, tears of joy of course. The consultant informed me my pregnancy was viable and maybe I was going to be one of them who dont follow the book.

    One week later I started bleeding, clots. I attended EPAU again. The heartbeat was no longer present. I had a missed miscarriage and opted for the procedure to have my baby removed.

    I have now got another BFP! EDD: 13th September. 

    I hope and pray this is my sticky bean.

    Good luck to you x


  • I'm sorry you're going through this but like others said (it cannot be reiterated enough) this is NOT your fault. A shocking number of pregnancies end in miscarriage by 6 or so weeks, usually due to some genetic issue that is incompatible with proper development.
  • I am so sorry this is awful! Try calling military one source for free resources for your husband and also for you. Good luck!
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