Am I the only one that hates being pregnant? :(

sbunner89 · January 2016

hello everyone, I'm 37 weeks today and I just cannot do it any more. 3 weeks ago I had to stop working because I started getting cramps at work one night (waitress) they got worse over night, they felt like bad period cramps so the next morning I called the dr and they said to come in, they hooked me up to the monitor and it showed that I was actually having contractions, and quite a few of them, I stayed there forever until finally they slowed down, they sent me home and said to rest and drink plenty of water. Since then inhavnt been working, just staying home, which I absolutely hate knowing that I have to depend on my boyfriends money. I've been exhausted all the time, can never sleep, and I am so uncomfortable 24/7. I still get the cramps here an there and have a constant pain in my hips, lower back, and upper thighs, I guess it's my body preparing? Also I feel like I have bruised ribs all the time, maybe because I'm short (5feet) and still pretty "small" (according to everyone) but I feel like a cow, I'm just constantly very uncomfortable, sitting, laying down, standing, nothing comfortable, walking hurts, I can't bend down, it's a struggle to sit or stand up, I have to pee alllll the time, always hungry, and always have heartburn and acid reflux. I feel so fat and useless, I still keep up with chores around the house and stuff but I also get exhausted. I never even had morning sickness or anything so I guess I'm lucky, actually I didn't really have any symptoms besides being extra hungry and tired until these last few weeks, I think I would really hate it if I had had other symptoms the whole time. The only thing is now I actually get nauseous some times too, and in too much pain finally think I gave up on sex. But I just really feel like a huge, fat, useless being, who can't even zip my own winter boots myself, and so sick of being uncomfortable and in pain 24/7

I feel like everyone else I know that is, or had been pregnant just seemed to love it! Everyone's like "aw I miss being pregnant, I want to be pregnant again" and I don't feel that at all, not even one bit. I feel bad too, it's not that I don't love the baby, I can't wait to meet her and imagine what she will look and be like, and can't wait to take care of her I just don't like being pregnant at allllll. Am I the only one who feels like this? Am I a terrible person??

kbedfox · January 2016

There's a whole thread on the next page for people who aren't enjoying pregnancy. I think we're all probably miserable at times, some more than others, but what can you do? Just hang in there, you're almost done.

egraves4 · January 2016

I would just try and hang in there... You're literally so close. I can relate when it comes to waitressing. I almost had to stop at 32 weeks and I felt completely useless. Just know that everyone's bodies are different and serving can be stressful on both you and baby, and your doctor made the right choice to pull you if you were having contractions.

mcklough · January 2016

you're not fat- you're pregnant. Also being fat doesn't suck anywhere close to as much as pregnancy sucks in my opinion.

there are many people that hate being pregnant the whole time and even more that hate it the last few weeks. No one is going to think you don't love your child because you are miserable. I say let your boyfriend pick up any slack, you are partners! You aren't useless because you are doing less, that's like saying he would be useless if you helped out more when he was ill or injured.

Lnewman013 · January 2016

I am in a similar boat. I'm 34 weeks and nothing has been "beautiful" or even close to it. I wrote my baby a letter the other night just to clarify that pregnancy is not for me however, it's the path I need to take to meet the little creature and I'm willing myself through every day. I had to quit my job during the first trimester because of gallbladder and kidney stone issues and I find myself sad because of the dependency I have on my husband now. It's a lot to go through in just 9 months, sharing my body has been a difficult road and not seeing beautiful results is even harder for me because when I put effort into something I expect results and that might sound terrible but its frustrating. We all are struggling with one thing or another and all we can do is be the powerhouses of society. You can do this! So many women have gone through so much and they still can't pinpoint what exact symptoms/struggles you might have but by golly we were blessed with this curse of nature and we will own it! I hope your situation eases on you, and you are not alone.

Achae · January 2016

sbunner89 said:

hello everyone, I'm 37 weeks today and I just cannot do it any more. 3 weeks ago I had to stop working because I started getting cramps at work one night (waitress) they got worse over night, they felt like bad period cramps so the next morning I called the dr and they said to come in, they hooked me up to the monitor and it showed that I was actually having contractions, and quite a few of them, I stayed there forever until finally they slowed down, they sent me home and said to rest and drink plenty of water. Since then inhavnt been working, just staying home, which I absolutely hate knowing that I have to depend on my boyfriends money. I've been exhausted all the time, can never sleep, and I am so uncomfortable 24/7. I still get the cramps here an there and have a constant pain in my hips, lower back, and upper thighs, I guess it's my body preparing? Also I feel like I have bruised ribs all the time, maybe because I'm short (5feet) and still pretty "small" (according to everyone) but I feel like a cow, I'm just constantly very uncomfortable, sitting, laying down, standing, nothing comfortable, walking hurts, I can't bend down, it's a struggle to sit or stand up, I have to pee alllll the time, always hungry, and always have heartburn and acid reflux. I feel so fat and useless, I still keep up with chores around the house and stuff but I also get exhausted. I never even had morning sickness or anything so I guess I'm lucky, actually I didn't really have any symptoms besides being extra hungry and tired until these last few weeks, I think I would really hate it if I had had other symptoms the whole time. The only thing is now I actually get nauseous some times too, and in too much pain finally think I gave up on sex. But I just really feel like a huge, fat, useless being, who can't even zip my own winter boots myself, and so sick of being uncomfortable and in pain 24/7 I feel like everyone else I know that is, or had been pregnant just seemed to love it! Everyone's like "aw I miss being pregnant, I want to be pregnant again" and I don't feel that at all, not even one bit. I feel bad too, it's not that I don't love the baby, I can't wait to meet her and imagine what she will look and be like, and can't wait to take care of her I just don't like being pregnant at allllll. Am I the only one who feels like this? Am I a terrible person??

Have you lurked at all on this board? lol no but seriously, pregnancy sucks for the majority of women, especially in the third trimester! Hopefully it's just 3 more weeks for you to meet your little one!

wisco29 · January 2016

camusoh2011 · January 2016

First, there is a post full of people who aren't loving pregnancy venting. Second, it's totally normal to be feeling all of this as this stage in the game. The best thing you can do is just resolve that it's almost over and soon enough you'll have your little girl and will forget about majority of the things you hated.

thisusername · January 2016

Baby > pregnancy. That's what I keep telling myself. A month away at max! Baby is greater than pregnancy, almost to baby.. Keep going!

VitaLuna · January 2016

All the aches and pains you're complaining about sound pretty normal to me. The last month of pregnancy sucks, no two ways about it. You're not required to love pregnancy.

I suggest finding something to do to keep busy, so you're not sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. A hobby/craft, find a good book, set up some coffee dates with friends, organize baby's things, etc. Keeping busy, even at the basic level, can help keep your mind off how bad this sucks.

pbtoast · January 2016

Yes, you're the only one. The rest of us are having a blast!

AdventureMama · January 2016

pbtoast said:

Yes, you're the only one. The rest of us are having a blast!

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loveymay · January 2016

Lurking from April

This is my first and I absolutely hate being pregnant! So much in fact that DH and I are considering being one and done. We had originally talked about having 3-4, but I just can't put my body through this again. I had bad m/s from week 5 till about week 15ish, but I still have to take my nausea medicine because if I miss it, I start vomiting. I dealt with constipation early on from zofran, been on antibiotics twice now for sinus and URI infections, been dealing with severe nasal congestion/cold like symptoms for the last 3 months, now I'm having frequent nosebleeds. Restless leg syndrome has started, back/hip pain, awful calf cramps, trouble sleeping, just got diagnosed as anemic from iron deficiency so I'm having to take iron supplements, and I failed my 1 hr glucose test by 1 point, and I have to take the 3 hour test now. Good thing is the baby is healthy and I don't have any major problems (hoping I pass the 3 hr glucose test though). I got some stretch marks on my boobs, but so far none on my belly! I'm excited to have a baby, but gosh the process is so hard! Not too much longer! Sorry this whole post is a giant whinefest but it felt good to have a momentary pity party for myself, hehe.

Cheryl Renee · January 2016

Don't feel bad for admitting how you feel! I have been miserable (in one form or another) this entire pregnancy. I had horrible morning sickness the entire first trimester. I had 2 colds, back to back, with morning sickness at the same time. I also had an awful meat aversion the first trimester. Second trimester when you are supposed to feel good and have energy I didn't. The morning sickness went away, but I started having carpal tunnel issues and found out that I was anemic. Being anemic, I was short of breath and had no energy. I felt terrible because I couldn't do anything like I normally would. Third tri rolled around and I found out that I've also got hypogylcemia. So I have to be real careful about my sugar and starch intake, because too much sugary stuff makes me dizzy and pass out! Not to mention, like you, I'm big and he's constantly kicking and rolling around in there. I feel like the inside of my belly is bruised. So yeah, miserable? Quite a bit! And I don't mind telling anyone that. People ask how I'm feeling and I tell them that I am ready to be done and that I want him out of me! Don't feel bad. Hang in there! We're almost there!

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