For those of you worried a friend will announce babies birth on Facebook before you do

jencook25 · January 2016

I
ive just posted this to my Facebook, and thought a few more of you might like it!

jem8407 · January 2016

We posted this one!

alisongem · January 2016

Wish I'd seen this a week ago! step FIL was the first to make the announcement...... At least he didn't tag it to mine or hubbys page but it was still irritating and made it so I felt rushed to make one before anyone else decided to.

adcc43 · January 2016

@alisongem Exact thing happened to us!
We were team green and my father in law took it upon himself to announce on Facebook that we had a boy and his name. I started getting text from random people who did not know we were even at the hospital congratulating us. I went online and saw the post and almost died! I couldn't believe he would do that. I hadn't even called my dad or a few of my very close friends. My dad lucky didn't see the post but a few of my friends did and I felt bad they had to find out on FB instead of from me personally.

teachmegs817 · January 2016

I think it's a dad thing, because my father did the same thing to my step-sister. Literally minutes after her birth, he posted it on Facebook that the baby was here. He wasn't in the delivery room, but heard the cries outside her birthing room, after my nephew came out. I said something to him at the hospital because it showed up on my newsfeed when I logged in. He didn't think it was a big deal that he did that to her, because it was on his page and it wasn't like he tagged her in it or anything. I tired explaining to him that we all share about 100 + mutual friends, so it does matter! Ugh! I blame his lack of technology and old age on the matter just a little bit. I know he truly wasn't trying to be rude or take her spotlight.

mamakate1616 · January 2016

Wish I had seen these too! Had two people do this to us, and they weren't even close to us or on our "contact at birth list" - my sister in law's mother in law and a person I used to carpool with who I assume saw her original post and didn't get the hint after I deleted it! Seriously, wtf.

sarahbeara25 · January 2016

I can semi understand when immediate family does it (still not ok in my opinion but I can understand why they want to do it), but friends or extended family? Really... seriously people. I love both the above pictures, but I really wish they weren't necessary in this day and age. Just crazy.

Mamabeagle · January 2016

Don't send pictures until you are ready then, and if you do, set expectations verbally. I think this is a little unecessary and don't think anyone will even remember you posted it when they are excited.

saraawlbr · January 2016

I posted one this morning and DH told me it came across as rude. I didn't think it was rude at all and I've seen tons of friends and acquaintances do the same. I hadn't really thought about it until I saw this thread and remembered people congratulating us on our engagement on FB before we had even told close family and friends. Figured I'd rather at least try to combat our social media crazed family and friends.

Anybody else feel it's rude?

jeanbug12 · January 2016

Mamabeagle said:
Don't send pictures until you are ready then, and if you do, set expectations verbally. I think this is a little unecessary and don't think anyone will even remember you posted it when they are excited.

I agree. I think addressing the issue before labor with people you think would likely to post the news right away would be better than a mass announcement on facebook. Or once baby is here, when you make the announcement to friends/family ask that they not share the news yet if you aren't ready.

SummerOH · January 2016

Not rude at all! It's incredibly rude for anyone other than the parents to post anything on social media first. I like these messages! I think they perfectly balance the message with firmness and politeness.

sarahbeara25 · January 2016

I wouldn't say it's rude at all. And the only people who might think it's rude would be the ones who would post before you. So if it makes them think twice I think it's worth it.

Monilee1017 · January 2016

Personally I think it is a little rude. DH were talking about this last night after I saw the post. My mom asked me the Facebook rules about this on Saturday, which surprised me because this is her 9th grandchild and she hasnt done this yet, so we told her she's not allowed to post anything until we do. But we do think MIL might do something, so we are going to talk to her in person. But don't get me wrong I think people who break others news (engagement, pregnancy, birth etc.) are more rude.

scornwell717 · January 2016

I wish I would've done something like this, or at least verbally shared it with everyone who came to visit me in the room right after she was born. One of my cousins posted a picture of herself holding her before I got a chance to even announce she was here and it kinda made me mad

tfrangul · January 2016

We didn't tell anyone we had our son until he was a day old. That was only my parents and sisters. They Already knew the Rules Since We Don't Have Any Social Media BUT We Did End Up reminding them just in case. We told every one else once he was a few days old. I just wanted to enjoy our baby with us and our daughter.

Monkeybutt80 · January 2016

lurker from Feb. This did happen to me, but I didn't think it really took anything away from our announcement or bother me when it happened. When my first was born, we texted my in laws and my parents a picture with some info but no "directions" on what they can or cannot do with it. Apparently, my FIL emailed the picture and info to all his brothers and sisters and one of the brother (my husband's uncle) posted it on facebook and tagged me and my husband. Another uncle saw it and I guess told him that this was a big no no, so the fb poster called me and my husband profusely apologizing. Two or three days later, I made my facebook announcement of the birth, and didn't think the previous announcement took anything away from our announcement/ moment - everyone was excited and happy about the birth of my child. Just my two cents, if you are worried about it.

kmo8986 · January 2016

It bothers me more when people post that I am in labor, or how dilated I am...MIL!!! I mean I don't love the idea of other people announcing the birth of my child before I do, but details about my labor/birth etc are not public and my mother in law posted that on Facebook last time. I flipped my shit and hubby made her take it down but still. I just posted the second one of these on my Facebook and most people seem to agree, there are several (all men) who don't think it is a big deal at all.

saraawlbr · January 2016

I left ours up and have received MANY positive and encouraging comments from friends and family. I guess when DH checked it again he realized it doesn't come off as bad as he thought. Hopefully people don't just like the post and do whatever they want anyways, haha.

maddisonwallace · January 2016

I don't think this is rude, but I do agree with a PP that most people probably will totally forget about it by the time baby gets here. I will probably opt to just not send pictures to anyone who I don't feel comfortable with telling them not to share it and then ask people who come to not post anything until after us. So much easier to manage and then in the odd case you have some sore butt Sally's on FB, they don't get their panties in a wad over it

TRA0816 · January 2016

I sent one in a private message to family...simply because I have a few over sharers with no boundaries...and they will find out through my mom...I don't feel bad about it. I feel like I need to be firm before baby is born to set the tone for future pictures and events..

OrangeFox · January 2016

I'm clearly in the minority here, but I don't think it's that big of a deal. People are excited about babies. Any friends and family that matter are still going to see whatever I post whenever I choose to do it. And they're still going to be happy for me/us even if they already heard the news from someone else.

with that being said, I don't think anyone in my friend/family group would post much on social media. Most of my family uses it very minimally and some don't have Facebook accounts to begin with.

Mamabeagle · January 2016

I think it's rude to post this, I think it's not that big of a deal if someone posts first, and if you know someone who won't respect your request either way then they get to wait with the rest of the couple of people who are at all interested to find out the details and about the new arrival.

Hipshaker · January 2016

My mother announced my misscarrge on Facebook. I had people i barley knew bring it up for months. I had only told close family I was pregnant in the first place! I don't even have a face book account. I deleted four years ago! What's gonna stop her from announcing anything? Especially my rainbow baby.

l4rk · January 2016

Facebook gives major priority to photos over text only posts. So just don't give anyone the details, include a photo when you post your announcement and voila--no one steals your thunder. I'm in the camp that thinks the "don't post" post is rude, and unnecessary...

MamaHolland · January 2016

I just don't want people putting pics of my baby on Facebook. I'm going to let all the culprits & usual suspects know in advance, don't dare share my baby's pics on Facebook

srima · January 2016

I think the don't post, post is completely necessary in this day and age. If you want it to be an intimate moment with close family then you don't want people knowing you are in labor. I personally don't want anything posted on FB until we know our baby is healthy and I feel comfortable.

ShannyFann · January 2016

There is a woman who is not related to us who likes to announce our personal business on Facebook. She's my BIL's MIL. I don't know why she feels the need to since we only share like 3 friends with her, but when she tags me or my husband everyone sees it. It's a little annoying when I go on (which is rare) and see her posting stuff about how my pregnancy is going. She would be the first one to announce on fb that I would be in labor. I asked my BIL's wife (we are very close) to ask her to please not post until we do. I don't think she'll be offended but I also don't think she'll be able to keep any news to herself so it could be a wasted conversation. Haha! I don't think a post like one of the examples is rude, especially if you have people who might need a little reminder.

KimC2010 · January 2016

Hipshaker said:

My mother announced my misscarrge on Facebook. I had people i barley knew bring it up for months. I had only told close family I was pregnant in the first place! I don't even have a face book account. I deleted four years ago! What's gonna stop her from announcing anything? Especially my rainbow baby.

My mom did the same thing. She announced it on Facebook while I was in the recovery room after my D&C. I just happened to see it because I was scrolling through Facebook trying to distract myself. I was still very early on and hadn't told anyone except for DH and doctor. The miscarriage before I made the mistake of telling several people only to have a mc a few days later. She also announced this pregnancy and that I'd had two miscarriages previously on a mutual friend's wall.

Hipshaker · January 2016

KimC2010 said:

Hipshaker said:

My mother announced my misscarrge on Facebook. I had people i barley knew bring it up for months. I had only told close family I was pregnant in the first place! I don't even have a face book account. I deleted four years ago! What's gonna stop her from announcing anything? Especially my rainbow baby.

My mom did the same thing. She announced it on Facebook while I was in the recovery room after my D&C. I just happened to see it because I was scrolling through Facebook trying to distract myself. I was still very early on and hadn't told anyone except for DH and doctor. The miscarriage before I made the mistake of telling several people only to have a mc a few days later. She also announced this pregnancy and that I'd had two miscarriages previously on a mutual friend's wall.

I was completely shocked. I even had to explain it to her. She had never suffered through that kind of loss her self and didn't think of the emplacations. Her profile is totally public, she even has her cell phone and address listed in contact info! Shes freinds with everyone, even people from my HS who I wasn't even friends with, could name if I saw thier pic. It comes down to attention seeking. She uses the "my" a lot when referring to Dd and gives special nicknames. She doesn't like dd's name so she wants to call him "pup". Wtf? It gets under my skin! You had your kids woman, you have your own life! That what it really comes down to with the postings I think. People trying to get attention for achievements or sympathy for trama that they themselves have not had.

anightintunisia · January 2016

This is like when my cousin announced on my Facebook wall that I was having a girl before I even told anyone. My mom had told her. I hate Facebook my husband just thinks I should have it. I don't see the need for people to announce your life on their Facebook. I've been excited for many people but not invasive.

Meg920 · January 2016

Ugh my aunt posted a congratulations post before we had even finished telling the rest of our family. I was so pissed.

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