Stupid $hit SO/DH or others say AFTER baby is here.

GAgirlinSDakota · January 2016

My baby isn't here yet, but I know from experience that the stupid comments don't stop at birth. As more of our babies make an appearance, share the moronic comments made by those around you. Contain all the stupid here, so we can marvel at the lack of brain cells and maybe get a little entertainment (turning the negative into a positive.)

scornwell717 · January 2016

People keep telling me my baby has big feet. She does not have big feet! Maybe I'm just bitter cause I wear a size 5 1/2 and want to share shoes when she's older...

jordans_wife · January 2016

After the birth of my 2nd baby my husband told me how tired and worn out he was after I GAVE BIRTH. I had my baby at 11:43 at night so after i got cleaned up and everything it was time to sleep. He was saying it like he really needed some sleep that night instead of helping me with anything I might need during the night. I looked at him like he had 2 heads and to this day he hasn't lived that comment down. Because ya know, I consider my job the much more difficult of the 2 between the one giving birth and the birth coach. Duh husband!

ShannyFann · January 2016

About three weeks after my first was born H came home to no laundry being done, no dinner, and the house a mess (obviously I had more important things to worry about at this time). I was feeding the baby and he walks in and says "What exactly did you do all day?" In a very snarky tone of voice. I so taken aback I couldn't even respond. I just sat there staring blankly at him. If he says anything like that to me this time around he may need to go somewhere far far away for a day or two if he'd like to continue living.

Achae · January 2016

After my first was born my husband refused to get up in the MOTN at all because "there's no reason for us both to be miserable" since I was breastfeeding. Thanks for the help and support dear! He promises this time around that he'll stay up "even though he doesn't understand the point of it."

GAgirlinSDakota · January 2016

About 3 weeks after the toddler was born, SO came home from work, looked around, and said, "You'd think after having 3 kids you'd know how to do this whole baby and house cleaning thing." I threw a shoe at his head.

Another SO gem from those first weeks: "Why do I have to change his diapers? YOU feed him, so it seems like diapers should be your job. Finish what you started." This was in response to my asking him to change a diaper while I took 2 minutes to pee. How dare I interrupt his time on the computer! So, I called him a dick, got dressed, and sat at the older kids' bus stop with a book for an hour or two. Left him alone with the baby with no notice. Screw him.

Mommyduclos · January 2016

Achae said:
After my first was born my husband refused to get up in the MOTN at all because "there's no reason for us both to be miserable" since I was breastfeeding. Thanks for the help and support dear! He promises this time around that he'll stay up "even though he doesn't understand the point of it."

I'll be honest I've never understood the point of this either. I did make my husband get up if I actually needed help- baby inconsolable, me in a lot of pain, or whatever but it was maybe once per kid- the parents who dad changes diapers and then mom nurses I just never understood the need for that. I'd rather let him sleep then when there are opportunities during the day or first thing in the morning then he is reasonably rested and I can take a nap without him wanting to take a nap too. Also who really needs to sleep deprived grouches- one is plenty LOL but that's totally my thinking I know a lot of people do get up as a couple.

MssyMmmy · January 2016

" I don't know why more people don't have c-sections. It's so easy and the recovery isn't too bad" .....Ya thx hub

GAgirlinSDakota · January 2016

MssyMmmy said:

" I don't know why more people don't have c-sections. It's so easy and the recovery isn't too bad" .....Ya thx hub

This one would have resulted in me needing to hide a body.

Achae · January 2016

Mommyduclos said:

Achae said:
After my first was born my husband refused to get up in the MOTN at all because "there's no reason for us both to be miserable" since I was breastfeeding. Thanks for the help and support dear! He promises this time around that he'll stay up "even though he doesn't understand the point of it."
I'll be honest I've never understood the point of this either. I did make my husband get up if I actually needed help- baby inconsolable, me in a lot of pain, or whatever but it was maybe once per kid- the parents who dad changes diapers and then mom nurses I just never understood the need for that. I'd rather let him sleep then when there are opportunities during the day or first thing in the morning then he is reasonably rested and I can take a nap without him wanting to take a nap too. Also who really needs to sleep deprived grouches- one is plenty LOL but that's totally my thinking I know a lot of people do get up as a couple.

In my eyes it was more to be support for me, change baby diaper if needed, help me with latch (I was using shields at the time) and cleaning up after etc. I saw it as a very lonely and exhausting time and didn't understand why it had to be so one-sided and grew to resent him. Obviously if both sides agree it's pointless for both to be awake that works for them, but for me it was a point of constant resentment.

Mommyduclos · January 2016

@Achae that makes sense! Emotional needs are so subjective. The truth is regardless of what our needs are in the early weeks our spouses should be as obligatory as they can be! New babies and new mommies can be as needy as we want.

Monkeybutt80 · January 2016

@Achae I agree! With my first, my husband got up, got the baby, changed his diaper and brought him to me. I would breastfeed and then put him back to sleep. If he wouldn't go down easily then my husband would try. I probably could have physically done the whole thing and get the same amount of sleep, but knowing that we were doing it together made it easier to get through the early frequent middle of the night feedings.

UptownPearl · January 2016

Does it count if it was sleep talking? The dogs were whining and I needed to sleep between feedings and couldn't, so I asked DH to please move them. He told me they just needed to change their diapers.

carlyhammond · January 2016

I'll share a funny moment:

Last night LO was being snuggly and I fed him, changed him and then I held him while he slept on my chest for about an hour, SO fell asleep I (creepily) watched LO sleep and finally decided to put him in his bassinet instead of in the bed where he was before I fed him....
I put the baby down, and got back in bed...
(Five minutes pass)
SO sits STRAIGHT up in bed
"Where's the baby?!"
- in his bed
"Where?!"
- ... -points- in his bed
"Oh...ok.... {falls back in the bed turns to go to sleep}
- where did you think I put him? In the toilet?!
"yeah"
- well, I guess it would be easier to change his diaper that way...
"laughs" (snores)

Poor SO needs more sleep

DemiJoyce · January 2016

I had two midwives refer to DS as a girl I swear SO was twitching on the other side of the room, which I get, these women were literally holding the paperwork and he was in the hospital basinett with the blue nametag on it saying "My name is Sebastian"

Leah6120 · January 2016

This is a secondary story.. but after a long labor one of my best friends had a nurse look at her husband and say "you sure this baby is yours??"... my friend had to be restrained from coming off the bed. Who says that? Why? Her daughter is 5 and she's still not over it. Haha

scornwell717 · January 2016

DemiJoyce said:
I had two midwives refer to DS as a girl I swear SO was twitching on the other side of the room, which I get, these women were literally holding the paperwork and he was in the hospital basinett with the blue nametag on it saying "My name is Sebastian"

Same thing happened to me! One of the nurses came in and was like "he is so precious!" I thought to myself "HER name is Abby, as it says on the white board, and she does not look like a little boy"

PedsIsHardcore · January 2016

After I had my DD1 she had jaundice and I was planning on breastfeeding, but I had nothing to give her. The nurse said, "Oh, you should just wait a day or 2. She doesn't need to eat." I gave her the look of WTF and called my mom while my mom was at work to make a huge big deal out of it since my mom is a doctor. I asked my mom what her medical opinion was. The nurse left to get my DD1 some formula. I didn't have milk for 8 days. I was not going to watch my child starve and be hungry when she has a medical issue and needs formula. She got in bigger trouble by the attending pediatrician when she came in to talk to me about DD1's jaundice.

Life is Exciting · January 2016

carlyhammond said:

I'll share a funny moment: Last night LO was being snuggly and I fed him, changed him and then I held him while he slept on my chest for about an hour, SO fell asleep I (creepily) watched LO sleep and finally decided to put him in his bassinet instead of in the bed where he was before I fed him.... I put the baby down, and got back in bed... (Five minutes pass) SO sits STRAIGHT up in bed "Where's the baby?!" - in his bed "Where?!" - ... -points- in his bed "Oh...ok.... {falls back in the bed turns to go to sleep} - where did you think I put him? In the toilet?! "yeah" - well, I guess it would be easier to change his diaper that way... "laughs" (snores) Poor SO needs more sleep

Hahaha! We had so many moments like this in the first couple of weeks after DS was born. Hubby and I were both delirious from lack of sleep. It seemed that every night, one of us would wake up in a panic wondering where the baby was. I even tried to breastfeed the cat one night in my delirious state. He wasn't too happy about that.

Life is Exciting · January 2016

I am still mad at my sister for telling my husband stories about how, when she was on maternity leave after having her baby, she'd have the house spotless and have dinner on the table when her husband came home from work.

DH and I got in so many fights while I was on maternity leave with DS because he expected me to do the same.

Because he was premature and had failure to thrive, my hospital nurses and pediatrician had me feeding my son every 2 hours, 15 minutes a side, and then giving a bottle of pumped milk and then giving supplemental formula and then pumping for the next feeding and then washing the pumping supplies - 24/7. I had like 15 minutes to myself every 2 hours. Just enough time to use the bathroom or take a mini nap. I was exhausted and was also recovering from a C-section. I barely ate anything - existing off of Gatorade and peanut butter crackers for the first month.

I could have killed him.

GAgirlinSDakota · January 2016

Life is Exciting said:

I am still mad at my sister for telling my husband stories about how, when she was on maternity leave after having her baby, she'd have the house spotless and have dinner on the table when her husband came home from work.
DH and I got in so many fights while I was on maternity leave with DS because he expected me to do the same.
Because he was premature and had failure to thrive, my hospital nurses and pediatrician had me feeding my son every 2 hours, 15 minutes a side, and then giving a bottle of pumped milk and then giving supplemental formula and then pumping for the next feeding and then washing the pumping supplies - 24/7. I had like 15 minutes to myself every 2 hours. Just enough time to use the bathroom or take a mini nap. I was exhausted and was also recovering from a C-section. I barely ate anything - existing off of Gatorade and peanut butter crackers for the first month.
I could have killed him.

Clearly you should have murdered your H, but I'd also bet your sister was a lying liar who lies and wanted to seem like super mom. Either that or she's not human. :P I say that in the nicest way possible!

Leah6120 · January 2016

Agreed.. I call BS on that!!

carlyhammond · January 2016

PedsIsHardcore said:
After I had my DD1 she had jaundice and I was planning on breastfeeding, but I had nothing to give her. The nurse said, "Oh, you should just wait a day or 2. She doesn't need to eat." I didn't have milk for 8 days. I was not going to watch my child starve and be hungry when she has a medical issue and needs formula.

This!!! I was induced- put in the hospital on a Wednesday and I gave birth on a Saturday.
The last time I ate was a Thursday and I for one was starving, but was hooked up to an iv the entire time... (Note: that's two days of not eating only fluids)

When my son was born, obviously he was hungry and we tried latching but he was struggling.
All of the nurses kept saying "oh, don't worry his belly is the size of a pea. He doesn't need much, he could go until tomorrow and not need food." Blah blah blah..
I believed them, until later that night my not even a day old son was SCREAMING looking for food and I tried to latch and he wouldn't.. Lactation tried to help, nurses tried to help, my mom tried to help and nothing was working..,
Nurses kept saying "he's fine. He doesn't need much until tomorrow"
I asked to pump... I literally didn't get enough out in a 15min session to feed him I could only scoop it with my finger and have him suck colostrum off my finger...
He continued to cry- I had no idea what to do...
Finally, I demanded to have them bring formula... I fed him and he was happy..

Yeah, maybe a newborn born under "natural" circumstances can go a day or whatever and not need much:
But, I didn't eat for two days prior I didn't have much in my body which means he didn't have much either.

I was so upset with the hospital. My mom saw the struggles and she STILL is upset I chose to formula feed.. I had NO choice .. I wasn't going to starve my baby.

PedsIsHardcore · January 2016

carlyhammond said:

After I had my DD1 she had jaundice and I was planning on breastfeeding, but I had nothing to give her. The nurse said, "Oh, you should just wait a day or 2. She doesn't need to eat." I didn't have milk for 8 days. I was not going to watch my child starve and be hungry when she has a medical issue and needs formula.
This!!! I was induced- put in the hospital on a Wednesday and I gave birth on a Saturday. The last time I ate was a Thursday and I for one was starving, but was hooked up to an iv the entire time... (Note: that's two days of not eating only fluids) When my son was born, obviously he was hungry and we tried latching but he was struggling. All of the nurses kept saying "oh, don't worry his belly is the size of a pea. He doesn't need much, he could go until tomorrow and not need food." Blah blah blah.. I believed them, until later that night my not even a day old son was SCREAMING looking for food and I tried to latch and he wouldn't.. Lactation tried to help, nurses tried to help, my mom tried to help and nothing was working.., Nurses kept saying "he's fine. He doesn't need much until tomorrow" I asked to pump... I literally didn't get enough out in a 15min session to feed him I could only scoop it with my finger and have him suck colostrum off my finger... He continued to cry- I had no idea what to do... Finally, I demanded to have them bring formula... I fed him and he was happy.. Yeah, maybe a newborn born under "natural" circumstances can go a day or whatever and not need much: But, I didn't eat for two days prior I didn't have much in my body which means he didn't have much either. I was so upset with the hospital. My mom saw the struggles and she STILL is upset I chose to formula feed.. I had NO choice .. I wasn't going to starve my baby.

You are mama and you know best, especially in that situation! I'm so very sorry your mom gave you a hard time because feeding your child period is the goal, not how you feed them! You did exactly what you were supposed to do, so please know, you are awesome and an awesome mom!

carlyhammond · January 2016

SO asked me if I wanted another baby.
I ignored him
He mumbled something about Valentines day...

If that little butt munch even thinks about getting me pregnant again ESPECIALLY valentines day I'll be on the news for chopping off his man-hood.... Think I'm kidding.
I just had a baby ... I don't want another one so soon!! I don't even know if I want another one at all.. (Insert colorful names here)

GAgirlinSDakota · January 2016

Some men must take moron classes or something.

littlecrimsonjester · January 2016

My husband being the adorable man he is said, "it's so cool her eyes are open already, I wasn't sure they would be". Apparently he had been thinking this whole time newborns might be like kittens. He spent a lot of time raising kittens growing up none around babies

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