Brother in law rant!!

Re: Brother in law rant!!

• troopersmom member

  January 2016

  Oh lawd! The finger in the mouth thing.... I don't get why people want to do that to other people's babies. Sorry! Hope he passes out soon and you get sleep.

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• kylaelizabeth92 member

  January 2016

  Thankfully he went out for a smoke so I took LO to our room and put him to bed! He is still out in the living room doing whatever lol

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• jlemons-2 member

  January 2016 edited January 2016

  No offense but I would never allow anyone to do these things. Your LO comes first and its your house. I wouldn't care who I made mad, a smoker sticking his fingers in my kids mouth?? No.

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• kylaelizabeth92 member

  January 2016

  I know, I really shouldn't have allowed it but I just hate confrontation. I know that's hard for some people to understand but I am just quiet like that. I should've said something though..

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• kzangs15 member

  January 2016

  I wouldn't have let a drunk person hold my baby either! Hubby should definitely agree with that, even if he doesn't about the finger in the mouth!

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• mdk2015 member

  January 2016

  I have a BIL that makes my blood boil & skin crawl like that. Its to the point now (after he got way too creepy) that I refuse to be around him, and he most certainly is not allowed to touch my baby. He & my husband's sister know better than to try me on the reasons. It sucks it has to be that way but when you act like a a donkey, you get treated like one with me. So sorry you had to deal with such stress! Thats not something you really ever get over.

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• kylaelizabeth92 member

  January 2016

  It's so hard to bring it up with my husband bc he gets soooo defensive! If I say anything he says something like "oh so your family is the only ones that can watch/hold him??" Which is so not true!! But, his mom/brother are basically alcoholics and smoke 2 packs a day, and his other brother is on meth! I just don't understand how he can't see that it's a bad influence around our baby

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• jen83mn member

  January 2016

  Wow. I would be pissed!!! At your BIL and at your husband for not stopping it! I hate confrontation too, so I totally get why you haven't said something, but in this instance I think you need to. He's the one being rude; you wouldn't be the rude one for saying something ... you'd be protecting the health of your baby!
  
  Smoking around baby (or even holding baby after smoking), being drunk and holding baby, and sticking unwashed fingers in a baby's mouth are all safety/health issues. If he wants to hold baby, he can put away the smokes and stay sober while there. If not, he has no right to get near your baby, in my opinion. And seriously, who goes to visit someone with an infant and then acts like that?! I would have kicked him out by now or told him to go to a bar and stay at a hotel if he wants to be obnoxious and act like he's a teenager. Your husband needs to buck up! I would have a serious convo with your husband about how his bro's behavior is completely inappropriate, and I would tell him that if he doesn't fix the situation, you're going to. At this point who cares if he gets defensive ... you're right, he's wrong, and someone needs to stand up for the baby!

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• kylaelizabeth92 member

  January 2016

  I agree with everything you said! My husband and I are seriously soul mates, as lame as that sounds lol, and we get along so well. But anything that has to do with his family he instantly just puts up a wall and will not hear me if I say anything negative about them. I feel like he knows they suck and hates that I'm pointing it out. It's such an awkward, and stressful situation for me

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• booksandcleverness81 member

  January 2016

  Ug, both of my in-laws stuck their fingers in my baby's mouth like first thing when they came to visit, without washing. I don't even want to know what happened when they baby sat! I'm sorry your BIL is such an ass. I think your hubs really needs to be the one to point out that it's not wise to handle the baby after smoking or drinking. If he's at all rational I would think he would see the problems there!

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• LoveLee85 member

  January 2016

  Ew. I don't even let my baby crew on my fingers unless I scrubbed them like mad right before! Why do people do this? I never once remember thinking: oh look a baby, I think I'll stick my nasty, unwashed finger in their mouth!

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• ZebraStripe member

  January 2016

  You don't have anyone to blame here but yourself. You may hate confrontation, but you should be standing up for your child, regardless of your own comfort. 

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• capricelili member

  January 2016

  So my hubby likes to drink a little too much on the weekends. Sometimes he tries to pick LO up and I always intervene. Not allowed to pick up a baby while drinking! He just doesn't know his limits and always gets way too drunk and uncoordinated. My main fear is that he will crash down while holding baby. He did this with a friends kid once. Granted the kid was older, 5 or 6, and everyone was ok but still he could have hurt him if they'd landed differently or if he'd landed on him. Soooo that's why the rule is there. No drinking and baby holding.

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