It's DH's birthday today, yay! But that also means I have to do everything around the house/for DS (which he totally deserves a break from since he's been so helpful) but I'm so tired and I don't want to!!
We adopted a kitten this weekend and had been preparing for her for several weeks. Well she is a he and I've learned my lesson about buying all pink things for girls. At least the name DD picked is neutral.
@texasmama2014 that really sucks. I'm so sorry. I hope it gets fixed soon.
DH doesn't pick up after himself and it makes me super ragey. I just put his cereal and bread away that he took out last night; and by the end of the week there are 5 pairs of socks under the coffee table. This has been an issue since we moved in together.
@MSUgrad12 that drives me nuts too and they still do it!
I'm still upset from last week when we told my SO others parents we were expecting. His mom opens the box (with a cute little onesie that says I love my grandparents and the EDD) and says with no emotion, oh that's interesting. Not really knowing what to say we were like yes. Then she proceeds to be snarky and say "uhm so are you going to get married??" I was like eventually someday.
We have been together almost 4 years it's not like we just met and got pregnant. Not to mention we have a really good relationship with both our parents so this just really made me disappointed. Then they proceeded to say, oh another baby in 2016 (ours will be the 3rd in 16 and the 9th biological grandchild). It is our first and we were really excited to share with them, because they are soo excited about all the other grandchildren so it just really irked me. Even my SO was a bit baffled by their reaction.
@tmk0325 that's terrible that they responded that way! I would be really hurt. My boss has been with her SO for 9 years and two kids with no immediate plans to get married. Being married doesn't mean the same thing it used to. Married or unmarried, being with a commited partner is what matters. I hope their tune changes when LO arrives.
DD has been sick. DH has been sick. Despite the copious amount of medication they are both on, neither seems to be getting better. SO ready for everyone to be healthy.
@tmk0325 this is the exact reason I haven't told my mom. This is grandchild #12 for her, and when she found out my sister was pregnant with #11 last year her reaction was, seriously? Another one? Isn't everyone done yet. She looks at me and said you better not have anymore. So yeah.... I don't need poor reactions. She can find out when I'm showing and she guesses lol
My MIL is annoyed that I won't leave my son with her all day on Sundays. Um I don't see him all week because i'm working, i'm not going to ditch him on the weekends too! thankfully my husband fully agrees with me, but she's constantly giving me a hard time about it and i'm at my breaking point. add pregnancy hormones to the mix and I'm about ready to go off on her.
My mom constantly wants me to come to her house rather than coming to me when she wants to see me or do something and it's starting to really wear me down. She's morbidly obese and in complete denial, and always has a reason NOT to come to me. The annoying thing is that I purposely bought a house that is all one level on the main floor, so the living room, sitting room, kitchen, dining room, and bathroom are ALL accessible without any stairs so I have no idea why she doesn't ever want to come to my house. We actually got into an argument around Christmas Eve because I told her we want to host it at our house next year, since we'll have a newborn and our two other kids, and we just go to her house for dinner with no other family but her and my dad & step-dad. She basically threw a fit about it. I cannot figure out why she won't come to my flippin' house but it's driving me insane and it's making me resent her!
Me: 25 DH: 28
Hubby's little boy - my wonderful step-son - born 5/23/10
BFP#1: 06/2010...my beautiful baby girl born 3/7/2011
BFP #2: 10/24/15...mc on 10/31/15
BFP #3: 11/27/15. EDD 8/6/16
"Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." -Winston Churchill
@texasmama2014 that really sucks. I'm so sorry. I hope it gets fixed soon.
DH doesn't pick up after himself and it makes me super ragey. I just put his cereal and bread away that he took out last night; and by the end of the week there are 5 pairs of socks under the coffee table. This has been an issue since we moved in together.
The socks! My husband can never find a pair of socks because he just throws them around so they never get washed in pairs. The matching one is possibly under a bed, his desk, or on the kitchen table. WTF?? I am hoping when we move I can reorganize stuff to make it easier for his dirty clothes to go in the hamper--such a novel idea!
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
I hear you on that! I was just grumbling to myself last night because my DH never turns off the lights or even the TV when he comes to bed. Last night I went to turn in first (it generally takes me longer to get ready for bed). He followed a few minutes later and starts brushing his teeth and stuff, so I ask, "are you all done out there (in the living room)?" and he's just like, yeah. So... you were just going to leave all the lights on and the TV on overnight, or did you expect me to go take care of all of that?
I just started a new job, and I'm working from home alot when I'm not traveling. The lack of structure is making it hard to stay motivated. My boss is flying from NY tomorrow (I'm in Chicago) and I have a big meeting with him. I have such to do to prep for it but I am having the hardest time concentrating today! I can't seem to stay focused...ughh...hence why I am bumping and not getting work done!
@texasmama2014 that really sucks. I'm so sorry. I hope it gets fixed soon.
DH doesn't pick up after himself and it makes me super ragey. I just put his cereal and bread away that he took out last night; and by the end of the week there are 5 pairs of socks under the coffee table. This has been an issue since we moved in together.
I constantly nag bout socks and clothes being left anywhere and everywhere besides where they belong! Men!
Its been a weekend long bitchfest for me. I've been unbearably moody, like getting so frustrated for no reason, mainly at DH. I'm getting on my own nerves but I don't know how to handle myself.
@MSUgrad12 that drives me nuts too and they still do it!
I'm still upset from last week when we told my SO others parents we were expecting. His mom opens the box (with a cute little onesie that says I love my grandparents and the EDD) and says with no emotion, oh that's interesting. Not really knowing what to say we were like yes. Then she proceeds to be snarky and say "uhm so are you going to get married??" I was like eventually someday.
We have been together almost 4 years it's not like we just met and got pregnant. Not to mention we have a really good relationship with both our parents so this just really made me disappointed. Then they proceeded to say, oh another baby in 2016 (ours will be the 3rd in 16 and the 9th biological grandchild). It is our first and we were really excited to share with them, because they are soo excited about all the other grandchildren so it just really irked me. Even my SO was a bit baffled by their reaction.
I didn't have to deal with this type of reaction but that sucks. As long and you and your SO are okay with not being married then I really wouldn't put too much thought into what others think. You are pregnant and happy and you don't need the stress.
@mimihatesyou that was how much we had to pay for delivery/prenatal care for DS. We had a high deductible plan ($6000). Thankfully DH has much better insurance this time around, but I feel your pain, it was really hard to save for anything but the medical bills!
My husband's company had layoffs this morning, and our insurance is through his company. My husband wasn't laid off, but his job suddenly seems a lot less stable and if he finds a new job right now, we would have to deal with an insurance lag and possibly have to switch providers.
I hate having allegeries!!! We have high cedar levels right now and I have been sneezing my head off. I can't sleep at night because I am so congested and I can't take anything but regular Zyrtec to help with the icy eyes and reduce the amount of times I sneeze during the day. Praying it doesn't turn into a sinus infection.
Thanks ladies! We are happy and really excited about it! My parents were very excited, so at least we have the positive thoughts there. Part of it could of been timing, his SIL was going into labor later in the week (we could of waited) and his sister announced at Christmas she was pregnant. His mom did eventually hug us and say congrats (his dad was great, gave me a big bear hug and had a big smile), so I know that she will eventually come around, but when you are already hormonal it just wasn't the reaction you were hoping for! I always thought we'd probably have a kid before we got married (SO had an awful short first marriage), so it never really bothered me! Funny thing is, his brother had a baby before getting married so I wonder if they got the same reaction then.
I'm super annoyed my job is all "If you come back..." "Well.... we'll see what happens..."
Honestly, unless I die in childbirth, I will be back because if I don't - WE LOOSE OUR HOUSE. My husband makes under 30k a year, with no benefits. I make nearly double what he does and carry all our benefits.
It's just making me feel like my job isn't as secure as I thought it was... I wish my husband and I's incomes were switched, but they aren't, which means I have to go to work if we want to eat.
@mimihatesyou If you can fund a portion of it through pretax money, that may help ease the burden. We are planning on the out of pocket max for mine (3.5k), but I should be able to do about half ($2550) through my FSA. If you have a high deductible plan, you can open an HSA for the same idea.
Any balance you can't pay right off, just call the hospital and they will put you on a payment plan for what you can afford. I had surgery for my knee in my early 20's with crap health insurance and paid it off over two years at $100 / month - which was even more than the hospital required.
I put my notice in at my current job last week. I do a LOT for my company and it pretty much includes the work of 3 people. There are several tasks that I do that nobody else is even trained on. Today, a coworker put her notice in as well. My boss asked her what she was offered by the company she will be working for. My boss told her that she wanted to try and keep her and was going to get that amount approved by payroll. I wasn't offered a single thing to stay and I feel completely undervalued as an employee and an individual. I'm not one for burning any bridges, but I'm so upset right now that I might not fulfill my full two weeks.
@mimihatesyou After insurance?! Does that include everything (hospital stay, anticipated meds, doctor, etc.)?
@texasmama2014 yeah, as it turns out, my maternity benefits are terrible. even for in-network providers and facilities, the coinsurance is 50% after the (relatively low) $1500 deductible, up to an out-of-pocket of $6,250. my ob's fee alone is $2,000 and i imagine even 50% of the hospital and anesthesia bills will end up reaching that out-of-pocket amount.
really it's my fault- i opted to save money and purchased a rather inexpensive policy for myself and my employees. my company pays 100% of the premiums for all the employees so i wanted to control cost. oddly enough, the rest of the benefits are fine and more in line with standard polices (20% coinsurance, for example). it's just the maternity benefits that are depressingly bad.
I sat for 5mins behind car at gas station to get out to main street I got so mad that I started getting a Lil road rage she had many chances to go and wasn't going so I pulled up next to her and went so frustrating when you have lots errands to do lots idiots not driving right today so I got home and decided to not go nowhere else and it's snowing now so I am not going no where at all but kick my feet up and relax
Today is my Monday since I was sick yesterday and oh boy does it feel like it!!! Hubby comes to bed and wakes me up at 4AM! All my daycare kids are CRABBY, including my birthday girl. I'm in a pissy mood, tired, and achey. Stupid Tommee tippie bottles leaking EVERYWHERE are making me even more POed. Babies that won't drink their crappy formula and the list goes on and on!!!!! And I'm not half way thru my day :-( I miss my 5o'clock wine.
@mimihatesyou After insurance?! Does that include everything (hospital stay, anticipated meds, doctor, etc.)?
@texasmama2014 yeah, as it turns out, my maternity benefits are terrible. even for in-network providers and facilities, the coinsurance is 50% after the (relatively low) $1500 deductible, up to an out-of-pocket of $6,250. my ob's fee alone is $2,000 and i imagine even 50% of the hospital and anesthesia bills will end up reaching that out-of-pocket amount.
really it's my fault- i opted to save money and purchased a rather inexpensive policy for myself and my employees. my company pays 100% of the premiums for all the employees so i wanted to control cost. oddly enough, the rest of the benefits are fine and more in line with standard polices (20% coinsurance, for example). it's just the maternity benefits that are depressingly bad.
That sucks. Maybe the hospital will give you a deal if you agree to pay in cash? (Not sure if that would even be an option but I've had luck with that in the past!)
Re: Monday Bitchfest
DH doesn't pick up after himself and it makes me super ragey. I just put his cereal and bread away that he took out last night; and by the end of the week there are 5 pairs of socks under the coffee table. This has been an issue since we moved in together.
I'm still upset from last week when we told my SO others parents we were expecting. His mom opens the box (with a cute little onesie that says I love my grandparents and the EDD) and says with no emotion, oh that's interesting. Not really knowing what to say we were like yes. Then she proceeds to be snarky and say "uhm so are you going to get married??" I was like eventually someday.
We have been together almost 4 years it's not like we just met and got pregnant. Not to mention we have a really good relationship with both our parents so this just really made me disappointed. Then they proceeded to say, oh another baby in 2016 (ours will be the 3rd in 16 and the 9th biological grandchild). It is our first and we were really excited to share with them, because they are soo excited about all the other grandchildren so it just really irked me. Even my SO was a bit baffled by their reaction.
DD has been sick. DH has been sick. Despite the copious amount of medication they are both on, neither seems to be getting better. SO ready for everyone to be healthy.
The Rowdy Roberts
We actually got into an argument around Christmas Eve because I told her we want to host it at our house next year, since we'll have a newborn and our two other kids, and we just go to her house for dinner with no other family but her and my dad & step-dad. She basically threw a fit about it. I cannot figure out why she won't come to my flippin' house but it's driving me insane and it's making me resent her!
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
I'm super annoyed my job is all "If you come back..." "Well.... we'll see what happens..."
Honestly, unless I die in childbirth, I will be back because if I don't - WE LOOSE OUR HOUSE. My husband makes under 30k a year, with no benefits. I make nearly double what he does and carry all our benefits.
It's just making me feel like my job isn't as secure as I thought it was... I wish my husband and I's incomes were switched, but they aren't, which means I have to go to work if we want to eat.
@mimihatesyou If you can fund a portion of it through pretax money, that may help ease the burden. We are planning on the out of pocket max for mine (3.5k), but I should be able to do about half ($2550) through my FSA. If you have a high deductible plan, you can open an HSA for the same idea.
Any balance you can't pay right off, just call the hospital and they will put you on a payment plan for what you can afford. I had surgery for my knee in my early 20's with crap health insurance and paid it off over two years at $100 / month - which was even more than the hospital required.
really it's my fault- i opted to save money and purchased a rather inexpensive policy for myself and my employees. my company pays 100% of the premiums for all the employees so i wanted to control cost. oddly enough, the rest of the benefits are fine and more in line with standard polices (20% coinsurance, for example). it's just the maternity benefits that are depressingly bad.