Sleep

kdoak2015 · January 2016

Just curious if anyone else struggles to put their LOs to sleep. We've been at it since 9:30 and still at 12:30 she won't stay down. This can be a nightly occurrence. Started at 9:30'with diaper change and bfing, then she had a formula supplement of 2oz(been supplementing since birth due to low supply), swaddled and back on the boob to fall asleep. She dozzed off on the boob so I put her in the swing, instantly woke so back on the boob, fell asleep again so put her with me to sleep and we've done this now 3 times and she's still waking. She isn't eating on the boob just sucking enough to fall asleep. I may have to sit up with a baby on my boob all night!

angbrienza · January 2016

We've had a fairly easy time with our LO but this could have definitely been written by me tonight. She has a terrible diaper rash and it seems to be bothering her. I breast feed and supplement the exact same way as you too (boob bottle boob to sleep) and she keeps making me get up because she's waking so easily

I'm hoping it's a one time thing and not going to be her new habit...

kdoak2015 · January 2016

How old is she? I'm thinking its a growth spurt cuz she's drained me and took another 2oz. Now we're into 1am.

andreaAL11 · January 2016

I had this just the other night! Literally from 11 to 3. She has her moments and it's so frustrating. She knows the difference between bed and mom and she likes mom better to sleep on! Even if she's deep sleeping she wakes up 20 minutes into me slowly moving her to the crib. It's exhausting! But sometimes you just have to suck it up. I try to wake myself up by walking around or watching tv to stay up and make it the graveyard shift instead of waking up from deep sleep and making it harder for myself to stay awake. That's why I sleep as much as I can during the day and have extra bottles for DH to take over

kelseyofanne · January 2016

kdoak2015 said:
How old is she? I'm thinking its a growth spurt cuz she's drained me and took another 2oz. Now we're into 1am.

Very possible! This happened to us at around 2-3 weeks.

ammnam14 · January 2016

DD has set times every night where she loves to be wide awake. Usually from 9-11 and then 2-4. She has no trouble sleeping throughout the day but definitely has issues at night. We have figured out that she just needs to be cuddled and will pass right out but as soon as you put her in her bassinet she'll stir and wake up.

Court11152325 · January 2016

Tonight my LO was the exact same from 8-12. She usually sleeps from 8-11/11:30 and I get a pregame nap in, but she fought it hard. Took a 2 hour nursing session to finally conk her out.

Have you checked out the wonder weeks app? DD is 6 days away from her first leap, but is exhibiting signs already (being unusually fussy, for example). It helps to see that it's normal and will get better.

The other thing with ours is gas. When she's fussy it's even worse, so I have to be sure to burp her regularly. Could it be gas pain? I know it can be soothing to suckle when they have gas pain.

kristib1027 · January 2016

My LO does this every night after her 3 am feeding. I swaddle her tightly again and when I notice she's sucking on my breast for comfort and not feeding I give her a pacifier, rock her for a few mins and put her in a bouncer next to my bed on vibrate. Having her up at an angle and sucking on something seems to solve the problem.

pupsicle23 · January 2016

DD used to sleep really nicely from 10-2 or 3 and has suddenly turned into a ravenous, cranky beast from about 8-12. I'm missing the good ol' days. She will sometimes fall asleep in my arms and transition to her crib without noticing, but we've been using the rock n play more. Putting her to sleep "drowsy but awake" is not happening for us. I think it's because she's gotten more gassy as she's gotten older.

angbrienza · January 2016

kdoak2015 said:
How old is she? I'm thinking its a growth spurt cuz she's drained me and took another 2oz. Now we're into 1am.

2 weeks. We thankfully fell asleep after one last bf session. She won't fall asleep after bottle, the fast flow (even from slow flow nipples) wakes her up a bit. I wanna check out the wonder weeks app for sure too!

angelicac06 · January 2016

My LO will not stay down until hes fully asleep no matter what time of day or night. So I count 15 mins from the time he falls asleep which I know because his sucking and breathing changes. It works 95% of the time. For some reason putting him down drowsy but awake has NEVER worked so I don't bother and stick to what does. Goodluck!

laurabwalker · January 2016

Yes this happens to me every other night, she is just really fussy during that time. I also echo the making sure they are in a deep sleep before putting down. I read yesterday that because in utero they are used to darkness they tend be up more in the first six weeks. I am ebf and was doing faster feeds to help get rid of jaundice (5 mins each breast for 30 mins) and this did get rid of jaundice but unfortunately gave her too much fore milk. she would only sleep ten mins at a time, so I'm now trying to change this

Knottie67744546 · January 2016

Yeap!! I've learned how to have a sandwich and brownie in one hand and baby on sleeping on my chest while laying upward in my bed. I'm gonna try to incorporate while laying down sweeping next week. Wish me luck

kdoak2015 · January 2016

Knottie67744546 said:
Yeap!! I've learned how to have a sandwich and brownie in one hand and baby on sleeping on my chest while laying upward in my bed. I'm gonna try to incorporate while laying down sweeping next week. Wish me luck

I also let her sleep on my chest in bed, it's the only way we'll both get any sleep. It stresses me out a bit but I think we both have the hang of it now.

JulieK79 · January 2016

Lily turns into a completely different child from 7:00-9:30 almost every night lately. She's fine if she's on the boob. If I try to set her down somewhere she instantly wakes up crying. If she's awake and not eating, the only way she's happy is if I'm walking around with her. The rest of the day she's happy doing whatever and the rest of the night she's fairly easy to get back to sleep. Early evening is my least favorite time of the day.

KRH6829 · January 2016

I'm a little confused. Why don't you put the baby to sleep when she's awake? I put my DS to sleep when he was awake and am doing the same thing with DD. It's ok for them to squirm around a little and learn to fall asleep without being cuddled. If she's crying, I don't put her to bed and make sure to soothe her, but if she's just awake and moving about and making baby sounds, she falls alseep on her own. I also get her right away if she does start crying.

katy4128 · January 2016

I agree with @KRH6829. You may want to try putting baby to sleep awake. With my first lo we did not do this and cuddled him or rocked him until he fell asleep. Now he is 21 months and can't go to sleep on his own yet. He wakes up in the night and can't put himself back to sleep and I blame myself for this.

Now with our second lo, I put him to bed slightly awake and he falls asleep on his own. He has be doing great with it! Of course if he starts to cry I pick him up still and cuddle him until he calms down.

kdoak2015 · January 2016

KRH6829 said:
I'm a little confused. Why don't you put the baby to sleep when she's awake? I put my DS to sleep when he was awake and am doing the same thing with DD. It's ok for them to squirm around a little and learn to fall asleep without being cuddled. If she's crying, I don't put her to bed and make sure to soothe her, but if she's just awake and moving about and making baby sounds, she falls alseep on her own. I also get her right away if she does start crying.

I'm not sure what your confused about, my op states that she is put down and instantly wakes. Obviously I'm not going to grab my child if she's just fussing at bedtime. I personally like to "cuddle" my child to sleep seeing as she's only a few weeks old and needs her mommy but to each their own.

kleshelle · January 2016

My babe does this during the day sometimes, especially Sunday & Sunday night. My SO took one for the team and slept w her on his chest that night. I heard a growth spurt happens around 6 weeks and she will be that Friday so possibility..

lalg28 · January 2016

This is my baby all night. He has terrible gas. Sorry I have no great tips. Gripe water helps a little.

jenEP · January 2016

My DD is super fussy from 8 to 11 every night. It started at around 2 weeks. The rest of the time I can usually get her down pretty easily. It's pretty common for them to be fussy and hard to console in the evenings.

redfallon · January 2016

Katy0525 said:

I agree with @KRH6829. You may want to try putting baby to sleep awake. With my first lo we did not do this and cuddled him or rocked him until he fell asleep. Now he is 21 months and can't go to sleep on his own yet. He wakes up in the night and can't put himself back to sleep and I blame myself for this. Now with our second lo, I put him to bed slightly awake and he falls asleep on his own. He has be doing great with it! Of course if he starts to cry I pick him up still and cuddle him until he calms down.

Not all babies will fall asleep on their own. I had to rock my first to sleep and had to hold her for all naps for a while. She finally wouldn't wake up when transferring to crib when she was close to 9 months maybe? She's a great sleeper now and is two years old.

groovylocks · January 2016

So every baby is different but when my parents were here, during her second and third week of life, i watched my mother, who is the baby whisperer, settle Olive. She started EARLY. At least an hour or so before she wanted Olive asleep. After making sure Olive was stimulated all day (lots of light, sound, chatter around her), my mom would begin by dimming the lights and making sure I fed her to relax her. If it was bath day, we'd give her a bath and put her in her soft jammies - this was the "it's time to relax and chill" trigger. Mom said all young babies need a trigger to signal that active time is over and rest time has begun - that even if they don't rest, they need a distinct sense of change. Then she'd get fed again.

Mom or i would then hold Olive against the sholder (like i am in my profile pic) and rub her back in a soft, circular motion until she went limp and soft. And then that's the first attempt at putting her into her bassinet. Usually she'd wake but be so drugged on night cuddles and milk, she'd just drift off again.

We kept this up religiously and now Olive begins to settle anywhere between 9pm and 11pm by herself. I still do these things in order but I don't need her to be asleep to put her down anymore. I give her the evening cuddle but tend to put her down after five or ten minutes of snuggling. She's usually still alert but very relaxed.

This worked for Olive who is a good sleeper anyway - i don't know if it'll work for you but if it helps. Mom says the key is to start HOURS before you want to sleep.

Court11152325 · January 2016

Tonight has been the first really hard night with my baby. I don't know if this is off topic, but I have to vent. She was on the boob all day yesterday after a great night of sleep. I was finally able to get her settled down around 9:30 pm. We slept until 12:30. She nursed until 2. I rocked her and bounced her after that because my nipples needed a break and she was comfort sucking only. I had to wake up DH to help at 2:20 bc she would not close her eyes. He helped until about 3 before I told him to go back to bed. I put her back on the boob in total darkness and she nodded off around 3:20. Now it's 4:20 and she's back up. I don't think it's because she's hungry, it's because she's super gassy after a monster nursing session at 12:30 which she usually never does.

Usually I'm laid back with this stuff and plan on naps, but this is the first week of the semester and I have to teach tomorrow from 11-1:45 (fortunately all content is online the next 4 weeks) and I haven't really prepped yet. Tomorrow is going to suuuuck. Fingers crossed I can get 1 more hour of sleep before I have to start my day.

ETA: she barely slept yesterday and clearly she's barely slept tonight. Nursing a squirmy child when all you want to do is sleep has been the biggest test of my patience.

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