Moms with older kids- sex talk

searchingforameaning · January 2016

My oldest will be 8 next month- trying to decide if now is a good time to explain where babies come from. Anyone else do this yet? At what age?

THATdisneyMom · January 2016

My daughter is 3. So she hasn't asked. But I'm am advocate of being totally honest and not making a big deal out of these things. It's totally a normal thing. If a kid is interesting an asking questions I would say honesty is the best policy. We often ask our children to be honest, then tell them these wild stories about where babies come from. If you're not sure, maybe ask if he/she wants to talk about it since a new baby is coming into your family. Just my 2 cents since I haven't been down this road yet. If my 3 year old asked for details of sorts I would tell her on a level she understood as far as where the baby comes out. It's hard to pin down an age of when they are ready for more details because every child is different maturitywise.

cabee310 · January 2016

DS1 was 6.5 when DS2 was born. He asked, and I was vague, but honest. I personally wouldn't bring it up. If asked, answer the questions but I wouldn't offer more info than needed.

texasmama2014 · January 2016

I see so many teenagers who have never had the talk with their parents and when they become sexually active they have no idea what's going on and are terrified of what their parents will do/think. Which leads to lack of birth control.

I would go with being vague while young to open the door as they get older.

mrsmommya · January 2016

My DD is only 3, but as a teacher I have had this question before. We have a story in our series that talks about nursing baby animals and it never fails to trigger the baby questions. I also believe in honesty, but as vague as possible! 8 is WAY to immature to give them all the details. Disclaimer....I work at a Catholic school. We tell the kids that when a husband and a wife love each other very much that God grows one of her eggs into a baby. We always try to be honest about the egg part because it seems to come up during life cycles. Sometimes we also get the question about how the baby comes out. We simply say there is an opening that allows the baby to come out when it is ready. They know poop and pee comes from a hole so it always seems to make a lot of sense. Usually that is all the questions we get.

I agree with above to not push it unless your child does.

ramoseecology · January 2016

My coworker is about to give birth and she used a book to start to explain the topic to her 7 year old. Perhaps a book like It's Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends or a similar book targeting this topic for young kids.

searchingforameaning · January 2016

@ramoseecology
I just looked up the book on Amazon and the preview is great! Love how they tell the truth, in a child friendly way, but also show the diversity of people... not everyone is white!

KarlaMCurry · January 2016

My daughter is 8, and while we have been very open about body parts and so forth, we haven't had the sex talk yet (other than the fact that mommies and daddies make babies, that babies grow in their mommies and are birthed through the vagina, etc.). Think this year will be good time. I'm hoping to get one or two books to help, especially since she loves to read anyway. I'm also considering the aforementioned book, It's Not the Stork. I'm checking a few out of the library to make sure I like them before adding them to our collection.

kat22stl · January 2016

My son is 7 (2nd grader) and asked how the baby got there when we told him about the pregnancy. We have always been pretty honest (we call bodyparts by real names, etc) so we definitely had a version of The Talk with him. We sort of glossed over exactly how a sperm might fertilize an egg and he didn't ask too many questions. Trying to prepare myself for follow up questions...

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