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Freaking Out **Trigger Warning**

cammiedeeanncammiedeeann member
in January 2016 Moms
Okay, I'm trying to stay calm but it's not working...
A friend of mine had her baby last night, she was due last week sometime. I oohed and ahhed over her FB pics of her little girl, counting down the minutes until my scheduled c-section tomorrow morning.

Last night around 11 PM, she posted asking for prayer and said they were taking the baby to the NICU for "lung problems." This morning, her husband posted that the baby died during the night.

My heart is broken for her, but I can't help but selfishly panic for myself. I keep telling myself that my baby will be fine... But this is just so sudden. I was JUST looking at pictures of a perfectly healthy baby girl... How does that just happen? :(
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  • sarahbeara25sarahbeara25 member
    I'm terribly sorry for her and her husbands loss. I can't even begin to imagine what they are going through. 

    I wouldn't say that it is selfish to panic for yourself and your little. Situations like this open our eyes and make us overthink every little detail. Whenever I hear of these experiences I hold my tummy a little tighter and drink sugary cold things to get baby going. It's difficult but know that this is not a regularly occurring thing. It is a tragedy, hurts so badly, and scares us because it is not common.

    My thoughts and prayers go out to them during this challenging time and lots of positive thoughts for your C-section Mama.

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  • KareninKarenin member
    That's not selfish at all- of COURSE you will worry after learning such devastating news. It doesn't mean you aren't heartbroken on her behalf as well. Just try to take some time to relax and focus on tomorrow- remember that other people's outcomes have nothing to do with yours and you don't have all the facts so you are freaking out with a huge information gap. It's  huge day for you tomorrow so you need to focus on yourself right now. I'll be thinking of you and hoping for an easy and safe delivery for you and LO and keeping your friend in my thoughts as well.

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  • juju0592juju0592 member
    That's so sad. Do not freak out though. Stuff happens. The scariest part of pregnancy is the unpredictable part. There may have been an underlying problem no one knew about. Just keep your positive thoughts up about your baby.
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  • tripledaggerWed95976tripledaggerWed95976 member
    Omg How terrible! Just know that neo-natal death is extremely rare, especially when the mother carried to term, got proper prenatal care, and had no indications of problems during the pregnancy. I can't say this For sure without knowing your friend, but there was most likely an inderlying issue with Her baby or during her pregnancy that mayne she chose to keep private. I know in times like these there is probably nothing that can 100% ease your mind but just try to focus on you and your LO for now and just keep your friend in your prayers. Good luck!
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  • anightintunisiaanightintunisia member
    It isn't selfish of you to worry love. We are moms and we are going to be worried epically hearing stories like this. Just try to support her as best as you can without stressing yourself out. I'm praying for her and her husband and you as well.
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  • cammiedeeanncammiedeeann member
    Thanks, mamas, you guys made me feel lots better. (DH tried to help, but you know men, sometimes they just don't fully understand.)
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  • mamakculbmamakculb member
    I read the trigger warning and open anyways...and now here I am counting kicks. It is not selfish for you to worry about your baby at all. I am so heartbroken for your friend, how awful. Like PP said, her situation has no affect on yours, and there was obviously something that caused this, not just a random fluke. Prayers for a healthy baby and delivery for you tomorrow, and some peace and comfort for tonight. Prayers also for your poor friend and her husband and family.  <3



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  • SaguaroBlossmomSaguaroBlossmom member
    I'll just add this to my already extremely paranoid list of things that can go wrong. I'm already a total worrier ..
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  • cammiedeeanncammiedeeann member
    edited January 2016
    Sorry to pass the worries on to you sweet mamas! The unknown part of pregnancy/delivery is so scary... But I'm trying to mind-over-matter it. I'm telling myself that there was probably an indication of a problem early on for her that I'm just not aware of. Sweet dreams and happy deliveries to you dolls! :)
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  • Emott13Emott13 member
    I know unfortunately some medication that I'm unable to stop taking carries the risk of respiratory development issues for any chid I carry. Could've been something as simple as that. Rare for a lung issue to happen when babies make it to term.

    But not selfish at all- I'm counting kicks now, too. :) I recently read something about a toddler that made me hug DD a bit tighter, too. Makes you appreciate what you have even more!
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  • ah1013ah1013 member
    My baby has been diagnosed with a congenital heart disease already and will be in NICU and will need open heart surgery. I know another girl who is pregnant at my work and I was so anxious and nervous when she went in for her 20 week scan because that's when they found my baby has heart problems. I was so relieved when her scan came back great! I don't think what you are feeling is selfish at all, things like this just make us realize how things can change in an instant. Try not to worry! I'm sure your baby will be happy and healthy! :)
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