ABSOLUTELY NO DESIRE FOR SEX!

ChasonJ · January 2016

My very high sex drive has dwindled to nothing, nana, zil. HELP! ADVICE! my poor husband

huskypuppy14 · January 2016

ChasonJ said:

My very high sex drive has dwindled to nothing, nana, zil. HELP! ADVICE! my poor husband

Yup mine too.

MamaNicoleof3 · January 2016

I have zero advice as I'm in the same boat.

159524 · January 2016

Ya no kidding my poor husband keeps asking of im "up for it" or "getting better" as he calls it. He seriously automatically assumed as soon as the second trimester hit that I'd be revving to go. Unfortunatley that has not been the case. He even gives me the look and I feel so bad but I just can't get myself to do it lol

I'm sorry I have no advice! Other than to may be suck it up and take it, and yes this sounds bad and he probably wants you in the mood too but sometimes I do feel so bad that I just have to give in (this meaning like I gave in a month ago.)
It's totally up to you!
Best of luck! I know how hard it is!

meggyme · January 2016

I've noticed I feel sexier in the mornings. Less bloated and achy. Sucks for DH because weekdays I get up way before him, but on weekends we've been having morning sex more often. Maybe try that?

AmberLiz99 · January 2016

I hate sex right now. I still make myself do it for dh, but he's been complaining that sometimes I have to say no and we only do it 2-3 times a week. I think that's more than enough, but dh gets mad about it. No solution here

Lyette1206 · January 2016

No solution here either - my first pregnancy I didn't feel like having sex until she was around 6 months old!!! (Well, I was up for trying, but the hormones from breast feeding dried up all my natural lubrication and it felt like sandpaper - so bad I ended up crying when we attempted. TMI). I was hoping this pregnancy I'd been one of those women who get all crazy into it to "make it up" to him, but nope. Just not feeling it.

jmohio · January 2016

@AmberLiz99 2-3 times a week... my poor DH hasn't gotten any since I started getting ill. I have only been 2-3 weeks of not throwing up all the time. As soon as I lay in the bed I get the worst heart burn and the thought of sex just isn't good right now. I am hoping it comes back soon or I am going to have to suck it up for him.

Diesel615 · January 2016

I'm in the same boat. It's been MONTHS since I went through IVF and that made me bloated and miserable and we couldn't with all the various meds and procedures. My husband has been good up til now, and has been asking the past couple weeks. I just feel gross and honestly I'm scared...I know it's safe, but I'm scared something bad will happen with my luck. I have sex dreams tho...which I made the mistake of telling my husband so he thinks I'm "ready to go" but I'm far from it. Ugh!

SMLmom · January 2016

@amberliz 2-3 times a week is impressive!

Shanna2016 · January 2016

Same here, he's ready to go every night and I'm just in the mood to cuddle so we alternate. One night for him on for me, but sometimes I have to admit I make him skip "his night" so it's about the same as amberliz and 2-3 maybe 4 times a week. Still waiting for that overactive sex drive to kick in.

lm45678 · January 2016

AmberLiz99 said:
I hate sex right now. I still make myself do it for dh, but he's been complaining that sometimes I have to say no and we only do it 2-3 times a week. I think that's more than enough, but dh gets mad about it. No solution here

2-3 times a week was my pre pregnancy sex life!!!

Wanna step in for my wifely duties?

Tawny87 · January 2016

If it makes anyone feel better we didn't have any sex the last 5 months of my first pregnancy and then I wouldn't let him any where near me til 14 months after... So 19 months total. Yep!

Boonhilde · January 2016

Promise him that in the 3rd trimester it'll return WITH A VENGENCE! ('cause most likely it will.

)

HBamama2B · January 2016

I have the exact opposite problem. I want it badly, DH wants nothing to do with it. I'm gonna go cry in some ice cream.

Knottie1442608703 · January 2016

My poor guy has only gotten it 3 or 4 times in the past 4 months or so. Its finally starting to pick up for me though, we've had sex 2 times this past week!! Hang in there!!!

Maybe try watching something or putting something sexy on to help get in the mood.

princessandthegator · January 2016

Same as all of you. What used to be a daily thing is literally once a week if he's lucky. Also getting lots of complaint. And don't really see a solution, except to tell him it should go back to normal after the baby comes (and saying that to him hasn't helped either). Good to know I'm not alone.

bkzlexie23 · January 2016

i give credit for those of you doing it once, twice, even 3 times a week. my poor husband hasn't gotten any for about 3 months now. too sick and tired to even think of that. i couldn't even imagine sucking it up and just doing it. **vomit**

Tawny87 · January 2016

Haha! Once a month not pregnant is good for us! I'm glad my hubby doesn't have a terribly huge drive either!

AmberLiz99 · January 2016

I'm insanely jealous of those of you who get away with going a month or more!

jpocnj · January 2016

We're probably at about once a week, maybe twice if he's lucky. I do feel bad since I haven't been feeling sick for most of my pregnancy, I just have NO desire and after shooting him down so much I think he's stopped trying as much now....poor guy

cmac827 · January 2016

We were told no sex until 16 weeks. I've tried twice since, but really have no interest.

mar101483 · January 2016

You're not alone. We have had sex twice since I found out I am pregnant, in October. And we are newlyweds. Honestly, my husband hasn't tried to initiate it once and has rejected me the times I wanted to. I don't feel like it 90% of the time, but I feel like he's turned off because I'm lazy when I'm home. I work from 6AM until 7:30PM and am exhausted on my days off.

june2016baby · January 2016

Lately, I force myself to say yes about once or MAYBE twice a week, but only because of guilt. To be honest, about 10 minutes in, I always think, "I just don't get why I was avoiding this... I should agree to every night!"

BUT, then when I craw into my comfy bed the next night, I'm back to hoping he doesn't look in my direction!

HeartLikeMine3 · January 2016

june2016baby said:
Lately, I force myself to say yes about once or MAYBE twice a week, but only because of guilt. To be honest, about 10 minutes in, I always think, "I just don't get why I was avoiding this... I should agree to every night!"

BUT, then when I craw into my comfy bed the next night, I'm back to hoping he doesn't look in my direction!

This is exactly how I feel. I'm never in the mood but when I give in about once a week it's even better than pre-pregnancy. I have been having lots of Sex dreams but no desire in real life lol

lynnernon · January 2016

Ugh. I wish my DH was pushy about sex. I've always been the one with the higher sex drive, and pre-Preg we averaged maybe 2-3x/wk. maybe 1x/wk now. Tonight he suggested it right after dinner when I wasn't ready then I brought it up as he was getting ready for bed and he lectured me about how he needs sleep. Without bringing it up with me again at all!

SMLmom · January 2016

Glad I'm not the only one with good dreams but no real desire. I wake up from the dreams, realize I feel sick, my boobs hurt etc. and the desire is zapped.

CeciMG · January 2016

I have noticed a drop in my sex drive but I think it's mostly a mental thing. I have so much on my brain I don't think about sex as much. So what I do to get in the mood is start by thinking about myself as being sexy. (Which so days isn't easy

ChasonJ · January 2016

If this isn't EXACTLY my life ....*sigh. The pressure is so real. It's worse because he is so sweet, kind, an

ChasonJ · January 2016

Sex dreams have started but still no desire. I've forced myself too and it ( all 3 times) were amazing. *sigh...this sucks

ashleyrobertson0113 · January 2016

Zero sex drive over here. I basically just go through the motions until my husband finishes because I'm trying to be a good wife and fulfill his needs. But the truth is I just wanna go to bed.

peregrinefalconx · January 2016

My advice is to watch some porn. I have the desire but when it comes down to it, I'm too tired. [when I had MS, it actually went away, or was forgotten about, during the exact act.] But the porn revs my engines and then we have some of the best sex we've ever had. I honestly don't feel good about needing to watch it, but it gets the job done and the pay off is great.

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