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June 2015 Moms
ChristyNNorman
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Husband wants another.
ChristyNNorman
member
Hi everyone! So my daughter just turned 7mo yesterday. My husband asked me when I'd be ready to have another. Totally caught me off guard! I like the idea of having them close, but I'm nervous! Anyone else in the same boat?
Re: Husband wants another.
Ideally the earliest I'd get pregnant again is April-ish...I think at that point I'll stop trying to avoid and then if I'm not pregnant by September we'll start actively trying again. I'm no spring chicken, so better to get it over with quickly.
I talk every day about our next baby/LO's sibling, to get DH used to the idea - and he's basically come around to one more. My OB said make sure my baby is sleeping and I'm getting good rest before getting pregnant again, so that my body can be strong for pregnancy. I liked that tip, and also recognize that doesn't work for everyone/you can't control everything in life.
We have some big moves coming up, so it's likely we will wait until LO is about 2 before we pull the goalie, but we shall see.
I'm thinking we will start trying around LO's 2nd birthday.
man i'm jealous of you all with your "trick babies." LO is reasonably easy now (comparitively - i mean she sleeps at night, so that's a major plus) but DH still basically has PTSD from the first three months. And he wasn't even the one that was home with her all day every day during that time. I swear he worked twice as many hours then than he does now. VERY SUSPICIOUS. ;-)
We actually talked about this last night while we were eating dinner, because i was having a pity party for myself due to the fact that all week, despite waking up at 5am every day, i STILL didn't have time to fit in a workout. Not even 30 minutes. And i can't stomach the idea of waking up earlier than 5am if LO is actually sleeping. That's idea is insane to me now. I was saying how i'd be happy to get back to the gym once i free up the 90 minutes a day that i currently spend pumping, and DH was like "when do you want to have another kid again?" and i thought about it for a minute, thought about the glorious dream that would be having an LO that doens't need breastmilk anymore, adn then said "you know, if i'm going to be fat, i'd rather consdense that into a 2-3 year period and then be back in shape for the rest of my life than get back in shape now and just be fat again for another year later on. Let's just get this all over with." Ha.
We are set to close on a house next month. I think we will stop trying to not get pregnant once we settle in and start actively trying after he turns one.
I just keep thinking I will have 2 that will both take naps still so I can get them on a schedule together. I'll change one diaper then another, feed ds a bottle while bfing LO! We got this girl! Pm me anytime!
DD gets up around 6. Diaper change, get her ready and fed.
DS gets up somewhere between 530 and 630 (still a crap shoot on sleeping through the night). Diaper changes, get ready, and bottle.
Drive to daycare
Drive to work.
Work.
Reverse.
5pm - home. dinner, dishes, load of laundry, baths and the start getting kids ready for bed.
DD goes down around 8.
DS around 830.
My husband and I are exhausted and in bed by 9 on most nights
There is literally no time for anything else. I have my frickin groceries delivered cause I can't get to the store.
My kids are awesome buts it's insane right now.
DH did a complete 180 this weekend. We were playing wth LO, who is like the PERFECT age now...super fun but not quite mobile yet, and finally STTN regularly...and he said "you know, it's really only the frst three months that are truly terrible...i think we should start trying to have another one. It might take like 6 months to get pregnant again, and i want to get the newborn phases over with." To which i said "yeah and it might also take 6 DAYS to get pregnant again. Not yet."
We settled on NTNP for now, and then reassessing in April. I'm temping, so i'll just log my temp and when we've had sex, so at least i will be aware of it if i do get pregnant before then. Ideally for me, i think i'd push off actively trying until June. I had to sit DH down yesterday and explain to him what this is like for me. I'm just not ready really to be pregnant again. I was like "for you, me getting pregnant means that in 9 months you have another baby. For me, getting pregnant means i have another baby immediately." I want to enjoy this time with LO before dealing with another pregnancy. Also, i have a light concern about breastfeeding while pregnant - not that i would want to wean or anything, but that i have read that some kids will self-wean at that point because the milk tastes different, or that my milk may dry up, and i really want to keep her on breastmilk for a year. I know when she starts eating significant table foods around 10 months her milk intake will slow down, so that sounds like a better time to chance pregnancy-related milk problems than right now. at the end of the day, i'll be happy to be pregnant again whenever it happens, but if i had the ability to plan it...i'd hold off a little longer.