Diaper Party

JulienneNicole · January 2016

So I know we have gone over that you should not throw your own shower. However, what about S/Os and diaper parties? I have been to two in the past and they, to my knowledge, were thrown by the dad-to-be.

I will be having 2 showers. 1 thrown by my SILs and 1 by my mom and 2 bffs. The one by the SILs will be a co-ed scavenger hunt dealio on a Saturday. Mom's will be a more laid back (mostly) ladies shower with silly games the next day.

DH has been asked by multiple friends if he is having a diaper party and he wants to he thinks it is a cool idea. I just wondered if it falls in the same category or not since it's a newer thing and really its just a party/cookout for the guys to hang out.

Thoughts?

olivemomma · January 2016

I think if someone asked my DH if he was throwing his own diaper party he would laugh in their face in all honesty. I've never heard of such an event and it sounds kind of weird. If you are having two other showers already I think a third thrown by DH sounds excessive. Just have him invite the guys over for a boys night and leave the diapers at home. They could always bring them to your coed shower if they really feel the need to buy you diapers.

spicedice · January 2016

Mine didn't throw a diaper party. We called his a Man Shower. No one brought gifts. Just a bunch of dudes hanging out, eating pizza, and playing video games.

yodiggity · January 2016

I'm not really sure how that works. I don't even understand what a diaper raffle is. :shrug:

spicedice · January 2016

yodiggity said:
I'm not really sure how that works. I don't even understand what a diaper raffle is. :shrug:

A diaper raffle is AWESOME. You send a little sip of paper with the invite telling people about the diaper raffle. You give a really nice prize for the winner, since they're exchanging a jumbo pack of diapers for a ticket. I let people know what sizes I wanted them to get, since I knew I wouldn't need a million newborn or size 1 diapers. I expanded mine to include wipes. Each package of diapers or wipes was one ticket. If you brought one of each, you got an extra ticket. The person who won mine only got the tiny "on the go" wipes that are only $1. This gives you a chance to see what brands other moms like and use. It also saves you a lot of money... I usually buy a jumbo pack of diapers as part of a baby shower gift, so the person having a diaper raffle rewards me for it:

JulienneNicole · January 2016

@fbanke42 I love that idea. We were trying to think of a way to do a raffle at our gender reveal party. It didn't really work out. We also talked about doing a pool for the due date and weight and all that.

I think the idea of him wanting to do a diaper party is it's more for his single guy friends who are excited about the baby and have been asking what we want.

My DH knows half of the state of NC (I'm only exaggerating by a little) and I have been involved in so many organizations over the years so we have friends all over the place. We are both really lucky to have really good friends groups who we have had for years. In addition to that we are both from bigger families. So to me it is super overwhelming to think of trying to squeeze everyone into one event. (I am dreading the list of our actual wedding later this year).

The way it is playing out, most of the people at the co-ed shower are couple friends or his side of the family. Since we are doing a scavenger hunt everyone needs partners. My mom's will be most of my life long friends, my family and family friends. So this was to be his thing. He is super pumped about this dad thing and his friends are too, his best friend offered to throw it and cook (he is a chef). But like I said originally I didn't know the etiquette for this.

In my mind it made sense for the guy to throw it as he would be the one cooking/getting food and providing the beers for the guys. That's what happened at the last 2 I went to.

Thanks for the views though!

JadaBlue · January 2016

I haven't heard of the dad-to-be hosting a shower-like party, but it sounds like you have the social circle to support a guys-oriented event. Why not just see if a good friend/relative wants to officially host an event like this? Social etiquette obviously varies widely and you are probably the best judge of your situation, but I would be mortified to invite people over to give me diapers.

Mailmans Baby Momma · January 2016

You and SO should never throw your own shower/sprinkle/party in which you expect people to bring you a gift.

No.

AmadorRose · January 2016

The only time I've heard of something like this, dad-to-be bought a keg and the price for a cup was a package of diapers. We keep it classy in Wisconsin.

DeeJ88 · January 2016

My husband just recently went to a diaper party for a dad to be. It was at a pool hall/place to eat. Every guy was told to bring a pack of diapers and enjoy each other's company while eating and playing pool for a couple hours. Tons of guys went, my husband had fun, the dad to be got lots of diapers. I thought it was nice to see a group of guys come together and celebrate a child coming into the world soon. It's a seperate event than the baby shower. The wife also had a shower thrown for gifts.

Lilpenguin3 · January 2016

Never heard of a diaper party but we are doing a cloth diaper raffle. If you have a friend that said he'd host and it's for the guys I say sure go for it. Especially if they guys want to do something.

g&tlewis · January 2016

My husband's fraternity brothers throw Beer & Diaper Parties for each other. The dad-to-be never hosts his own party though. The guys just get together at someone's house, and each brings at least a 6-pack of beer & a case of diapers or wipes. Most of the couples don't have to buy diapers for 4-6 months thanks to the parties. REALLY hoping someone throws one for us!

ivyvines6 · January 2016

Lilpenguin3 said:
Never heard of a diaper party but we are doing a cloth diaper raffle. If you have a friend that said he'd host and it's for the guys I say sure go for it. Especially if they guys want to do something.

How does this work? Fiancé is having a diaper party, but I was just going to return most of the diapers and get cloth... We were going to get pizza and a crap ton of beer for everyone. Might do a gift card reward to a sports bar or something as a random draw...

cmjenkies · January 2016

AmadorRose said:
The only time I've heard of something like this, dad-to-be bought a keg and the price for a cup was a package of diapers. We keep it classy in Wisconsin.

Ditto in Indiana. "Huggies & Chuggies." God bless the Midwest.

AnnikaD20 · January 2016

I've seen this a few times, mostly where the mom is thrown a women only shower, and the dad wants to have his own thing. In my circles, it tends to be Halo/ x-box oriented, and my husband has gone to a couple. Still best if someone else hosts it though. (I've also seen a wedding shower version where the groom gets a bunch of tools.)

tmoe0627 · January 2016

This type of party is pretty common and expected within my husbands group of guy friends. The dad to be buys a keg, kicks the wife out for the evening, and in order to drink you have to bring a package of diapers. I'm sure this type of party is very Midwest (always seems like we are getting the side eye from other parts of the US). Although it sounds quite tacky, I don't feel my husband or his friends pay close attention to shower etiquette.

jonesl12 · January 2016

AmadorRose said:
The only time I've heard of something like this, dad-to-be bought a keg and the price for a cup was a package of diapers. We keep it classy in Wisconsin.

Bout the same here in Indiana lol
We actually go to Wisconsin on our annual fishing trip and I'd say Wisconsin is another Indiana just with more lakes lol

AmadorRose · January 2016

jonesl12 said:

AmadorRose said:
The only time I've heard of something like this, dad-to-be bought a keg and the price for a cup was a package of diapers. We keep it classy in Wisconsin.
Bout the same here in Indiana lol
We actually go to Wisconsin on our annual fishing trip and I'd say Wisconsin is another Indiana just with more lakes lol

But you don't have the Packers in Indiana...it's an item on every pro/con list when DH and I were discussing me leaving the military and moving somewhere. Sorry, there's only one!

Lilpenguin3 · January 2016

Knottie9983816 said:

Lilpenguin3 said:
Never heard of a diaper party but we are doing a cloth diaper raffle. If you have a friend that said he'd host and it's for the guys I say sure go for it. Especially if they guys want to do something.
How does this work? Fiancé is having a diaper party, but I was just going to return most of the diapers and get cloth... We were going to get pizza and a crap ton of beer for everyone. Might do a gift card reward to a sports bar or something as a random draw...

Instead of a party every one buys a cloth diaper or pack of flats/prefolds and for everyone you buy you get a ticket. Then at the end you draw tickets for prizes. I'm doing a few small items and a gift card for grand prize. My mom is throwing my shower and I told her I would buy the gifts.

St0v3s · January 2016

I don't think diaper parties follow the same rule because it's not a big ordeal as a baby shower. The one my husband went to was thrown by the dad to be and the invite was a text message that said bring diapers size 1&2 food, beer and COD will be available. They just hung out, no big to do. From what I'm told everyone had fun and no one felt a type of way about the dad to be sending the text. So I said that to say if your social group is ok with it then I don't see the problem.

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