My DS recently turned 3 and over the last year or so (particularly within the last 6 months) we have begun to have some concerns in regards to his behavior. He had his 3 year well check not long ago and was pretty wild during the visit and therefore I did not get to really voice all of my concerns with our pediatrician. The few things we DID cover, she wrote off as him being a "strong willed child" and she recommended a few books for us to read.
The more I observe his behavior though as compared to our other children the more I have trouble ignoring some of the "red flags" that come up. Though I honestly am not certain if these are even things that I should be worried about or if I am just overly concerned at this point. I don't expect anyone to diagnose my child but I am hoping that someone could help me understand if these things are things that I should be discussing with his doctor, or just waiting to see if he outgrows them.
Here goes, for one, he seems to have difficulty with clothing. Aside from not dressing himself in any way (he can occasionally put his Crocs on his feet but that is it), he has a strong aversion to wearing socks. We can sometimes get him to wear them, other times he cries and say the "hurt". He is not potty trained. He will go to the potty if we put him on it, but otherwise he wets himself and seems to not really realize that he has even gone to the bathroom on himself. He has stopped eating almost every food he use to enjoy. There are maybe 3 things we can get him to eat. If we try to feed him anything other than the very small list of things he will eat he goes hysterical and says those things "hurt his mouth". Though he does slightly better eating if we sit and feed him, as in we use his utensils and do it for him. He has difficulty sleeping at night. He has done better since we moved him into a room with his older sister but he still winds up in our room several nights out of the week. He seems to scare easily if he hears a loud noise (car alarm, house alarm, horn honk, garbage truck). His reaction is brief but he will sometimes yell. He has difficulty staying calm at times, if he gets overly excited, or upset, or hyper he will have these emotions to the EXTREME and it requires us to focus solely on him. No amount of comforting helps him when he is having a "meltdown" we usually have to just sit with him and ride it out. He doesn't seem angry during his outbursts, he seems almost panicked. He carries something in his hands at all times. He strongly attaches himself to objects and will fixate on something and then carry it around for several days, day and night until he moves onto another object or toy. He never ever has empty hands. He is almost always moving, even when he is sitting and watching a movie SOME part of his body is always moving.
There are more things but as to not be too terribly long winded I will stop here. If you have an ASD child (forgive me if I am in any way using incorrect terms, I am still VERY new in my learning about all this), does this sound like behavior you see in your child? Should I be alarmed?
Thanks so much.
edited to add: One more thing of note, he does make eye contact with us and others but he almost never makes eye contact with a camera? He always always looks away, and usually has a blank stare on his face. He will say "cheese" and smile but he will look at the ground, the wall, the trees anything but the camera. I'm not sure if that is note worthy but I felt inclined to include it.