The hovering

Re: The hovering

• willashbaby member

  January 2016

  Stop answering your phone/texting them back!

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• amargaret24 member

  January 2016

  lol that would make me nuts. I get my hair done, nails, go to the grocery store. You're supposed to be active right now to get baby out!! Tell them you MADE a baby and that they must be confused because they are treating you LIKE a baby. Personally, I'm so beyond everyone's comments/actions I'd just eye roll and do my own thing at this point. There are women who are this pregnant with infants running around. I wouldn't lie to them, just be super honest. No need to sugar coat anything, you're 40+1!! 

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• kimber308 member

  January 2016

  Ugh! Dealing with the same thing... no advice! 

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• klbh member

  January 2016

  White lies definitely allowed, but I'd try a more positively phrased one: "My doctor says I should be as active as possible!" I know with my family, saying that I needed to cut down on activities because of blood pressure concerns would backfire big time. And yeah, just "leave your phone in the car." 

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• JmadC member

  January 2016 edited January 2016

  This makes me want to pull my hair out too! As if pregnant women are meant to stay dolled up in frilly gowns and tucked into a canopy bed all day with a little silver bell to ring if we need anything... This isn't Downton Abbey, bitches. It's 2016. I have things to do. And as long as my doc says I can be out and about, I don't feel a bit bad about telling people to back off and let me do what I need to do!
  
  So tell them to back off, mama! You know your body and your limits better than they do.

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• kodariah member

  January 2016

  willashbaby said:

  Stop answering your phone/texting them back!

  I wish this worked!! I live so close to my family I would have people at my house if I just ignored them.. I'm getting texts and calls from my mom, dad, brothers. I know they mean well but I'm pregnant not broken and he will come when he comes!!

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• cyanope member

  January 2016

  I feel your pain! I'm due next week, and still working (I'm a teacher and just started back from winter break today). ALL of my co-workers tell me I'm crazy, and question my sanity. My doctor is okay with it, so everyone needs to back off! My husband is also concerned and keeps telling me I better stay off my feet and take it easy. How the heck am I supposed to do that when I have classes of 40 to teach? Sheesh...I have to tell him daily, "I'm pregnant, not broken!" My sisters and mom (all mothers) are the only ones who are supportive. They all worked up until the day they had their babies. I come from a line of tough women. I can do this!

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• maureenmce member

  January 2016

  I completely relate!  My mom wants to drive down and stay with us *a week before my due date* and just hang out, 24/7.  I love my mom, but we are not close, and I would LOSE my damn MIND if that happened, so I'm in the process of trying to gently dissuade her.  I am already feeling terrible with heartburn and sciatic nerve pain, if I also have to be trapped in a tiny apartment with my mother for 1-2 weeks, while she explains to me the evils of epidurals and talks about how she never even had a sip of caffeine while pregnant, I will jump off a building.

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• OrangeFox member

  January 2016

  ugh. I'm the opposite. DH doesn't seem to remember that I'm pregnant.
  We have steps leading up to our house with no handrails. They were super icy this morning. DH practically pushed me over to get down them without offering to help. I didn't say anything and waited until he realized I hadn't moved before he came back and asked what was wrong. "uh, I don't want to fall.... " I felt bad and helped me down the steps. "funny" thing was when we got home he barged right up the steps and into the house without me, even let the door shut behind him. I just waited patiently at the bottom of the steps until he looked back out the door sheepishly. I'm usually pretty independent, but come on, at least help your 9 month pregnant wife up the icy steps.
  
   

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• khf221979 member

  January 2016

  DH hasn't let me do anything by myself for at least 4weeks now and hasn't let me lift anything (even a bag of groceries in the house) for the last 2 months at least. I have tried to sneak out of the house to go to the store and he stops me bc he doesn't want anything to happen when I'm out and he not be there to help. When I complain to my mom about it she says I shouldn't be doing any of it by myself so she is no help. I'm constantly making comments on how I'm not helpless and can still do things but it doesn't help AND I'm having a c section so this won't end right after birth unfortunately.

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• Leah6120 member

  January 2016

  I get checked on if it takes me longer than 2 minutes to poop. Which lately is every time. I'm pooping.. if something comes out besides what I'm anticipating I will let you know. Otherwise please go away.

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• Kellycrazymomma member

  January 2016

  I feel everyone's pain! Despite this being his 3rd child, DH is a wreck. His 1st was an induction. Our 1st my water broke 6.5 wks early, labor was stopped, then induced a few days later. Watching my discomfort and the combination of real, but temporary, and bh contractions has him making me crazy, and if feeling okay and going out, the constant texts to check in... Meanwhile, salting the steps, taking out the dogs/trash, you know, the stuff he should know is probably best handled by someone who is NOT close or past 40 weeks, it seems like I have to be a total nagging bitch!

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• zg49 member

  January 2016

  Ugh, yes some crap here too. I'm also getting the question "Do you think baby is coming soon?"....well he'll be here in the next 3-4 weeks but that's all I can guarantee!

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• littlecrimsonjester member

  January 2016

  So far just my friend though I was super pissed when she asked if I was in labor since we had just talked about how much I hate that and that I would tell people

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• AshleyLynnae87 member

  January 2016

  I tried and tried to be nice about it. Now i just tell them all to shut up about it or i walk away from them and do what I want. My mom is the worst tho about it. I love her and we are very close but every time I move or say ouch or breath wrong, she is up in my face asking if I'm have contractions and how far apart...lol really. You would think she would know how annoying it is having had 4 kids her self. If I hear from her one more time" we need to have this kid already" I seriously might punch her in the face. I have a c section planned for the 15th but it's like since hitting 37 weeks I'm getting hounded on when she will come out.

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• alisongem member

  January 2016

  Ugh yes... I told my mom that the doctors might induce me on Thursday and now I have family members asking if they should come visit me right on Thursday!!! 1. It's not even for sure 2. It will be a slow induction so I might not even have her until Saturday or Sunday! And I wasn't planning on telling anyone other than my mom I guess I should have known she would tell everyone!

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• MollyA1011 member

  January 2016 edited January 2016

  How annoying! Why all of a sudden to people act like we're disabled and get so nosey just because we're pregnant. It's like all privacy and boundaries go out the window!

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