7 weeks out & still sore when intimate....

Re: 7 weeks out & still sore when intimate....

• Pontot31 member

  December 2015

  I think it's pretty common to be painful. 7 weeks isn't all that long. Even without stitches your body went through a lot of trauma.
  I'm only 1 month out today and while I've felt fine for 2 weeks even with stitches I still feel slightly sore after I overdo it.
  I had a CS last time and it was still painful the first few times we had sex. Give yourself some time, your body just went through a lot. You'll feel better after a while.

  Report0 Reply
• Loading the player...
• bellie1223 member

  December 2015

  Almost 8 weeks here and sex is definitely not back to normal, I still feel really sore during! It is getting better, but slowly.

  Report0 Reply
• MargaretC5 member

  December 2015

  After my first it took about a month for things to get back to normal after my 6 week appointment. I had a CS, so no tearing, but I was in labor for 35 hours. I am sure that had an impact on my body.
  This time I had a planned CS and had very little soarness.

  

  Report0 Reply
• mamavbs member

  December 2015

  It can be totally normal but if you're worried, I would pop to the doctor. It could be a minor infection such as BV that needs some cream, that can cause pain during sex. Also at 7 weeks pp your hormones are still adjusting and settling which can cause you to produce less natural lubrication :-( especially if you're breastfeeding.
  

  Report0 Reply
• taykerslake member

  December 2015

  Lots of lubricant and take it slow! I had a couple stitches with minimal tearing. We started having sex at about 2 weeks PP. Some days it doesn't hurt and some days we have to take it easy until we get into it a little more. We use tons of lubricant and start off slowly. My fiancé also lets me pick the pace and knows when to stop or slow down. I've heard that you kind of just have to work it out a little bit in there before you feel more normal down there. Not sure if it's true but there could be knots in the muscles in there that need to be worked out. Not everybody heals the same way either. Our bodies went through a pretty big ordeal!

  Report0 Reply
• chelseaepley member

  December 2015

  taykerslake said:

  Lots of lubricant and take it slow! I had a couple stitches with minimal tearing. We started having sex at about 2 weeks PP. Some days it doesn't hurt and some days we have to take it easy until we get into it a little more. We use tons of lubricant and start off slowly. My fiancé also lets me pick the pace and knows when to stop or slow down. I've heard that you kind of just have to work it out a little bit in there before you feel more normal down there. Not sure if it's true but there could be knots in the muscles in there that need to be worked out. Not everybody heals the same way either. Our bodies went through a pretty big ordeal!

  Glad I'm not the only one who went back to having sex so soon! My doctor just told me when bleeding stopped I was okay. And I needed a "normal" thing back in my life after it being shaken up with a newborn.

  Report1 Reply
• Elyse1384 member

  December 2015

  Sex? What is that???
  
  
  Haven't even tried yet (6w PP today) and not feeling it. After delivering DS my DH and I waited just over 2 months and I recall even being a bit uncomfortable then.

  Report11 Reply
• taykerslake member

  December 2015

  @chelseaepley I felt the same way! And it was a turn on seeing my fiancé be such a good daddy. It was hard waiting those two weeks!

  Report0 Reply
• RaisingJulian member

  December 2015

  taykerslake said:

  @chelseaepley I felt the same way! And it was a turn on seeing my fiancé be such a good daddy. It was hard waiting those two weeks!

  
  I've had sex 3x & barely turned 6 weeks pp. But this last time I started bleeding the next day & feel a bit dizzy. Not sure if the dizziness is irrelevant since it's my birthday so my fiancé let me sleep in & im not used to the sleep anymore (i feel sick when I sleep in now) or if it's from the bleeding. Also not sure if it's just my period. I go to the OB tomorrow for my pp check up so we'll see.
  

  Report0 Reply
• mrsgabus member

  January 2016

  You girls are crazy lol I love my husband with all my heart but he ain't getting none until I get the green light
  
  Wih ds1 we had sex at 6 weeks and it was uncomfortable.
  
  Ds2 was 8 weeks PP and again it was uncomfortable.
  
  I'm 6 weeks PP (DD1)right now and I have no intention of sex till I see my OB and maybe even longer

  
  

  Report2 Reply
• Pontot31 member

  January 2016

  mrsgabus said:

  You girls are crazy lol I love my husband with all my heart but he ain't getting none until I get the green light
  
  Wih ds1 we had sex at 6 weeks and it was uncomfortable.
  
  Ds2 was 8 weeks PP and again it was uncomfortable.
  
  I'm 6 weeks PP (DD1)right now and I have no intention of sex till I see my OB and maybe even longer

  Right?! There's still a gaping hole where the placenta was even if you're not bleeding any more. That needs to heal!

  Report0 Reply
• angelinthepit23 member

  January 2016

  Well I can tell you that I will be using sex to get what I want done around the house and I don't feel bad about it! Lmao

  Report2 Reply
• sadyy131 member

  January 2016

  Question about the first time having sex PP: are you supposed to push through the pain? I have yet to try, but I would like to know for when I do. I remember when I lost my virginity and it was extremely painful (it felt like he couldn't go all the way in) and I pushed through the pain and eventually it went it. Wondering if PP sex is similar.

  Report0 Reply
• mcdoug211 member

  January 2016

  @sadyy131 6 weeks pp and we tried today i had a similar experience the first time I ever had sex, today was different I'm sure it's different for everyone it was more a pinch feeling where the episiotomy was. We kept at it because I wasn't in any real pain, when I was on top I didn't have any pinching feeling at all and was able to control the angle if that makes sense lol sorry TMI i feel like it's helpful to know though I was terrified!

  Report1 Reply
• bbymaely member

  January 2016

  I'm only 4 weeks here and I'm even scared of thinking of sex I'll probably go longer when I hit 6 weeks l, I'm just terrified.
  

  Report0 Reply
• lindsayp916 member

  January 2016

  I'm 9 weeks PP and it still hurts a little during and I'm sore after for about a day. I think it's pretty normal- I'm patiently awaiting feeling like my body is back to "normal."

  Report0 Reply
• doodleoodle member

  January 2016

  I don't know how so many of you are finding the time to have sex. I'm jealous. Not that I want to have sex at this point. I'd give myself a pedicure or something.

  Report7 Reply
• gipfish member

  January 2016

  @sadyy131 It seems very similar to me, and like PP said, it helps to be on top. Just take it easy if you are feeling any pain in addition to what you described.
  
  @doodleoodle We've been interrupted by baby cries at least half the times so far. She keeps us on our toes.

  Report1 Reply
• kmd91 member

  January 2016

  I had a c-section, so that's definitely different. But for me the only difference was I'm a bit less wet down there than usual. Beyond that it felt fine, totally normal. Then again, I also feel like when I lost my virginity it felt the same as any other time I've had sex, no pain or anything. So maybe I'm just weird, haha.

  Report0 Reply
• urby87 member

  January 2016

  kmd91 said:

  I had a c-section, so that's definitely different. But for me the only difference was I'm a bit less wet down there than usual. Beyond that it felt fine, totally normal. Then again, I also feel like when I lost my virginity it felt the same as any other time I've had sex, no pain or anything. So maybe I'm just weird, haha.

  Yeah, my first time wasn't painful, either. But the first time we attempted PP, it was no dice.  The second time was still uncomfortable, but we made it work. We've only tried those two times now, a little over two months PP.

  Report0 Reply