No sex drive = upset hubby

megframe16 · January 2016

My hubs said to me this morning, "do you know we've only have sex twice since we conceived?"....
I am pretty sure there hasn't been one day that has passed where he hasn't brought up having sex

Whitmore1027 · January 2016

My husband doesn't say anything but I'm sure he misses it. I've had no lebido what so ever. It's never been this low. But bring in that nausea with it, there isn't anything I can do. He Is just going to have to be patient. I think he understands though seeing how sick I feel.

allishally13 · January 2016

Totally understand- my husband always has a high sex drive (much higher than mine), and with almost constant ms and just being overly tired all the time, we've only done it 2 or 3 times since we found out we're pregnant. But he is hopeful that the 2nd trimester will be better, lol!

charmedlifex3 · January 2016

I brought it up the other day. It was "I want to, but I kinda feel like I might throw up..." He looked a little grossed out and said "Ummmm....Second trimester is better right? That's only in a couple weeks!"
Poor guy.

mouse1029 · January 2016

Well, better than my H... I've been exhausted and he's usually pretty understanding, but then he pointed out that he's been trying for 4 days and I've been asleep or feeling like crap. So what do I do? The next night I felt good and when he was in the shower, I put on lingerie. He gets out of the shower, sees me and gets pissed because he has to get up super early the next morning and need to get to sleep. Cue crying pregnant woman...

cbpalagi · January 2016

We've only had sex once since we found out at 4w...now I'm 6w3d....I feel terrible about it, but DH doesn't say anything. I think he sympathizes for how crappy I've felt ever since I hit 6w. I keep reassuring him that I'm supposed to get a spike in my sex drive later on in the pregnancy....let's hope that's not a myth!

Mrsrundell · January 2016

Maybe try taking a relaxing bath together. Or after you get out of the shower ask him to help rub your lotion on- bonus stretch mark reduction! Lol. I will feel too tired sometimes but I will go with it and it actually makes me feel a lot better after! Sexier, more connected, relaxed.

Hahnba · January 2016

I thought I was the only one. I never felt so icky with my first and it's a total turn off. My dh is even more turned on since we found out with just stresses me out. the last time we dtd I started spotting the morning after and now he's not interested at all. It's bad, but I'm happy that he's not trying to get it all the time. I'll take the little break. Hang in there mama!

jacmkelley · January 2016

I feel the opposite! My sex drive has gone up!? Yes, I'm exhausted but Im not saying no, I'm the one asking! Which I'm normally not. I have no idea what's going on. I'm wondering if anyone is in the same boat as me.

Cosupi4 · January 2016

jacmkelley said:
I feel the opposite! My sex drive has gone up!? Yes, I'm exhausted but Im not saying no, I'm the one asking! Which I'm normally not. I have no idea what's going on. I'm wondering if anyone is in the same boat as me.

That's me. Lol I was the same way when I was pregnant with DS. DH is the one who is saying no. He worries that something might happen, so we wait a few weeks before he feels comfortable.

Stephanie7693 · January 2016

I've had no drive either, but I've realized when I do it anyway, it's amazing! Something about being pregnant makes sex better, I'm just surprised it's happening already. But getting myself to say yes is hard, I'm just so tired. Out of the 3 times we've done it in the last month, twice it's been in the morning, but with 2 kids in the house we have to get in the shower and lock the door lol. If you can find the energy to give in to hubby, it will probably be worth it for you too

I'm looking forward to the next trimester when hopefully I'll be the one asking!

Kristin712 · January 2016

jacmkelley said:
I feel the opposite! My sex drive has gone up!? Yes, I'm exhausted but Im not saying no, I'm the one asking! Which I'm normally not. I have no idea what's going on. I'm wondering if anyone is in the same boat as me.

I am!

tyannej · January 2016

Kristin712 said:

jacmkelley said:
I feel the opposite! My sex drive has gone up!? Yes, I'm exhausted but Im not saying no, I'm the one asking! Which I'm normally not. I have no idea what's going on. I'm wondering if anyone is in the same boat as me.
I am!

I am too, if anything I have more of a drive. Not saying I didn't before but before it was him imitating it, mostly. Now I'm all like heeeeey

THATdisneyMom · January 2016

My poor husband. It's been a week and he mentioned it today, but he totally understands. I've been so sick, exhausted, or having stomach aches. Don't touch me unless you're rubbing my belly sir. It was the exact same way with #1 so he's not suprised, and doesn't give me a hard time for going to sleep so early.

Abfisher · January 2016

I wasn't feeling all that great for a couple of weeks after we found out, but I pushed thru and still slept with my husband, just not as much as before. He has been so helpful and he makes sure I don't have to do any housework or grocery shopping at home, so I had to reward him

Now, I have weird sex dreams of him whenever I nap, and I am pretty much always ready to go!

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