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Husband going back to work.. Anxiety

jfree1985jfree1985 member
in December 2015 Moms
Hello hello,

Anyone else feel or felt anxiety at the prospect of having the baby to themself all day? I find myself stressing out about my son sleeping.. And doing a good job. Just wondering if this is normal. Any advice?

Thanks!
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Re: Husband going back to work.. Anxiety

  • 12815AEEA12815AEEA member
    It's so normal!!!! I felt the same when DH went back to work and I still feel that way (3 weeks pp). I just try to create some kind of routine to keep sane, but right now there is no real routine with a 3 week old. Some days I cry a lot and my DH always says to call if I need to vent. It's not easy but it DOES get easier as each week passes. I wish I had better advice, but at least you know you're not alone!
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  • kdoak2015kdoak2015 member
    Totally normal, my DH was back to work 5days pp and I was so anxious. I still am when he works 3 12hr shifts in a row but it gets easier.
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  • Knottie67744546Knottie67744546 member
    Same here! DH goes back the 4th and I've freaked out 3 times before I even had baby!! Baby is 3.5 weeks old now. I'm looking forward to spending time and seeing little one grow and giggle. Praying will help me through this.
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  • ammnam14ammnam14 member
    My husband took 3 weeks off to be with us and it has been so nice. He has one more week left and I'm starting to get paranoid/nervous. He takes a good portion of the night shift so I can sleep and I'm dreading having to do that when he goes back to work. It'll be rough but I'm sure well get used to it.
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  • jkloeppeljkloeppel member
    My husband only took a week off. I was anxious about being on my own, but I adjusted very quickly (like after a day). You'll do great!
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  • celainevcelainev member
    I was super stressed about it. Then, on Monday, he went back to work. And I was fine!! I sleep in longer and found I got more done around the house without him there! :)
    Hoping it goes as good for you!
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  • angelicac06angelicac06 member
    My spouse took the first 2 weeks off after birth then went back to work for a week then off for another week for Christmas so ive dreaded her going back TWICE. That week I was so emotional. I cried every afternoon when she came back. I always felt a lot better to vent out my baby blues and she did an amazing job listening, helping with chores and baby so I could shower etc. I am hoping this second time will be a little bit easier. My advice is never to hold anything in. Talking it out helps.
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  • JulieK79JulieK79 member
    My DD was born on Thanksgiving and DH has thankfully been able to be off of work since then. He goes back to work Monday and I am feeling very anxious about how I'm going to manage both the baby and my 2.5 year old all day. My DH has been great at playing with DS when I'm nursing the baby or pumping so I'm most worried about how to handle that without his help.
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  • Peanut1128Peanut1128 member
    I was very nervous when my husband went back to work, but after a few days we settled in a nice rhythm. I think the big thing is knowing it's ok to let them cry a for minute if you need to go to the bathroom and grab something. Just set the baby down somewhere safe. I also set up visits from friends every couple of days so I had something to look forward to and adult conversation.
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  • redfallonredfallon member
    With my first, I cried at the thought of DH leaving and going to work after his two weeks off. I didn't know how I was going to handle it. We got our own routine down fairly quickly, though, and now I sometimes get annoyed when he works from home because it can disrupt our day. Now that we have two, and DD is in preschool twice a week, I wonder again how I'm going to handle two on my own - especially trying to get them both fed before I have to take DD to school those two days a week.

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  • ATolentino89ATolentino89 member
    Man, I am jealous. DS was born Wednesday, we were discharged Friday afternoon, and DH was back to work on Monday.
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  • groovylocksgroovylocks member
    edited January 2016
    For me it's days at a time. My husband flies for Delta. Only about 8-10 days a month but that takes him away from us sometimes days at a time. He's gone tonight. Luckily Olive is still quiet and still habitual in her schedule so hopefully it'll go fast and easy.

    Every day I am better equipped to be alone with her than the day before.

    Just be glad he comes home at night... Nights alone are hard.
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  • mrs14678mrs14678 member
    Hubby starts his field training as a Trooper on Monday - six 10 hour days, then 4 days off... I'm excited for him, cos he's worked so hard to get here, but I'm also going to miss having someone else change the diapers as hubby has made that "his job" haha! Though, I am looking forward to concentrated time with Q so we can work on breastfeeding. If at the end of daddy's work week we still aren't making progress, I'll probably just pump.
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  • Gingermom15Gingermom15 member
    Yes, nights alone are tough. I hate when SO goes to work because for some reason Henry decides to wake up and visit me after nursing for an hour. Then some weekends SO has drill and needs to get up early, so I have baby duty alone the night before. He is going to another state for 12 days to do some sort of training. That one is going to be hard, thankfully I don't go back to work until February but I may have my sister stay with me to tag team baby.
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  • kit9452kit9452 member
    I was sad when my DH went back to work, but I quickly realized it wasn't too bad and that I could manage just fine on my own. I do miss his help and companionship when he's gone. Funny thing is I don't want anybody else's help. I wold rather be home alone with LO all day than have someone come over and be in my personal space.. that may have to do with my possessiveness.
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  • Praying41Praying41 member
    DH went back today after 2.5 weeks off and it was rough and today was a half day. Dreading Next week when he'll be away full 8 hour days. I guess eventually we'll get used to it.
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  • JulieK79JulieK79 member
    edited January 2016
    kit9452 said:

    I was sad when my DH went back to work, but I quickly realized it wasn't too bad and that I could manage just fine on my own. I do miss his help and companionship when he's gone. Funny thing is I don't want anybody else's help. I wold rather be home alone with LO all day than have someone come over and be in my personal space.. that may have to do with my possessiveness.

    I was the exact same way with my first. I still tell people I sat on the couch with him for the first four weeks and just snuggled with him all day long. I'm so thankful I took the time to enjoy him that little! This time it's harder to do with a toddler running around.

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