Is something wrong?

JamiRenae · January 2016

I have a beautiful 3 month old daughter, and now I am pregnant with my 2nd. (It was quick) This wasn't planned, but we have planned to have another just not at this time. And I am happy about it. I already love my unborn child. But, I'm not excited about it. With my first I had about 6 different pregnancy apps, I couldn't wait to go to the doctor to see my ultrasound pictures, and all I could even think about was being pregnant and our child. But this one is so different...I sort of feel "disconnected" with this one.
Is this wrong to feel this way? I feel guilty =/

obimoma · January 2016

Maybe you're just tired, being pregnant and having a 3 mo! That's a lot on your body plus a lot to process. I wouldn't beat myself up at all, just enjoy your baby, and know that you'll love the new one just as much when they get here.

letyourheartbeyourguide · January 2016

I wouldn't stress too much about it! It's still so early. There's plenty of time to get more excited and I think it's normal that it varies (for different women and for different pregnancies for the same woman). It could be because last time around was your first time? Whatever the reason, don't feel guilty about it!

estellegetty · January 2016

My husband and his sister are 13 months apart and they are so super close. They are best friends and I really mean that. Thank God I absolutely love her or it could be problematic...haha.

Thinking about it that way makes me want to have kids that close together. Although, I do realize it must be so hard on your body and mind. Take is slow. I'm sure you're doing a wonderful job with your daughter and this one will be even "easier" because you already had practice.

izzetoot · January 2016

Ive haven't been in your situation but I do remember when I had my first, he's 19 months now, for probably the first year I felt like I never wanted to have another baby because I wanted to give him all of my attention because I was so unbelievably in love with him. And when pregnant with him I was the same way, it completely exhumed me and I was so happy! I think at 3 months your are so tired, so emotional, and so overwhelmed that it is hard to process the new pregnancy while dealing with the day to day of your new baby. I don't think you should feel guilty for feeling how you feel and it was probably really hard to share your thoughts, but its good that you did! Hopefully once you do see your doctor and your first US you will feel more connected. Have you talked to your SO about how your are feeling?

FireInWonderland · January 2016

I agree with PP and want to add I there to make sure, even if it's only 5 minutes a day, that you take the time to love yourself. Maybe relax in the shower and extra couple minutes or take a quick soak while your LO is napping. Have your SO give you a shoulder or foot rub, anything light that appeals to you that makes you feel good. As beautiful as babies are, they're hard work. Add in a second pregnancy and you're bound to get stressed, which could also be detracting from your excitement and adding to your guilt. And talk to someone regularly! But don't feel guilty. Like others said there's plenty of time to get excited!

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