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Socialization for 3-4 month old

kmcshane0211kmcshane0211 member
in September 2015 Moms
Hi!

The last few weeks my (now) 16 week old cries when someone new holds her. I will say that typically it's when we're in a crowded room (holiday parties, etc.) so it could have been that she was overwhelmed. I'm trying to gauge how typical this is at this age. And also trying to decide when/how often I should take her back/console her (she wants momma for comfort) and when to let her be so she gets used to new faces.


Anyone else notice this behavior? Or is your baby happy to be held by new people?

I want to reassure her but want to encourage good social development too!
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Re: Socialization for 3-4 month old

  • tlc11934tlc11934 member
    Same thing is happening here at 15 weeks. She prefers DH but will choose me over other people.
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  • missliz53missliz53 member
    We had this problem too. I've found that letting her visit with the new person while I'm holding her before handing her over really helps. And I am right there for reassurance when they are holding her. I take her back as soon as she starts crying too. Except for my friend who's a baby whisperer land calms her down faster than I can.

    I know that I wouldn't want to just be passed off to some strange person I'd never met, so I figure she doesn't want that either. I'm not going to force her to hug someone she doesn't want to either.

    I do make it a point to let other people hold her as long as she's happy since I think it's good for socialization.
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  • shelbyddshelbydd member
    LO is 17 weeks and got passed around several new people at Christmas last week. No tears from him. But we tried to ease him into situations like that by me or DH holding him for a bit while in the new enviroment and around new people. It may also just be the difference in personalities.
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  • babs02babs02 member
    My son is 16 weeks and has no problems. He's been around people since he was born. It's a good thing too because I hosted Christmas and was so busy I barely got to hold him all day.
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  • jen83mnjen83mn member
    My boy is 17 weeks and he doesn't mind being held by other people as long as he's in a happy mood (meaning he's not hungry and isn't about ready for a nap). I find it's easiest to let other people hold him when he's just woken up and been fed because then he's at his happiest :) They also need to hold him in an upright position or he gets crabby (he hates being held in the cradle position now!).
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  • ChristaG22ChristaG22 member
    My girl is really having this problem right now. I'd say it started at 12 weeks. She'll be 15 weeks tomorrow and it's still bad. What I do is let people hold her when they want to until they get uncomfortable, or she starts he mad scream cry. People have been able to get her calm, but she almost always cries at first. I think it's normal and developmental.
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  • kmcshane0211kmcshane0211 member
    Yes! This is my child. I realized it yesterday. If she's not hungry or tired or it isn't crazy over stimulating, she's ok to be held.
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