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edited December 2015 in Trying to Get Pregnant
Hello everyone! I'm new to the site and after lurking for a while, I thought I'd finally introduce myself and join the conversation. My name is Thea. I'm 29 years old and my husband is 30 and we've been married for 4 years. I spent the past 11 months losing 93 pounds (299 lbs to 205 lbs, I'm 5'10) in preparation for this and I feel that I'm in a good place to finally TTC. 

We tried last month, but alas, AF showed up right on schedule! After having two close friends recently get pregnant on their first try, I was a little disappointed. Also, I have to admit up front that I have a (completely irrational) fear of infertility. Most of it comes from the fact that I'm adopted. 1- I don't know ANYTHING about my medical history, and 2- my adoptive parents struggled greatly with infertility before they adopted me. I know their struggles don't affect me because we're not genetically related, but it's been an ever present part of my "story," as I was made aware of the fact that infertility problems exist waaaay before your average person. 

Anyway, I'm here because after seeing some of your posts and signatures, I found comfort in knowing that it doesn't happen in one cycle for everyone. Thanks for reading and I look forward to being a part of this community :)
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  • Welcome! Thanks for sharing some background information. I hope your stay here is short!!!
    About me:
    TTC#1: October 2015
    dx: PCOS & MFI
    IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP
    July 2016: Blighted Ovum
    IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN
    IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN
    IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN
    IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN
    FET February 2017 ~BFN
    IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17
    Team Blue X 2!
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  • Welcome! Congrats on your weight loss! I also lost a lot of weight (110 pounds) in a little over a year and kept it off for a year with the intention of getting ready to TTC.

    Good luck! Hope your stay here is short.

    Me: 28 | DH: 31
    Together since 2006 | Married May 2015
    TTC #1 since November 2015
    BFP 5/17/16 | EDD 1/27/17 | Born 2/4/17

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  • Welcome and good luck!! Congrats on your weight loss, that's a huge accomplishment. Stick around, there's a lot of great support here -- and although it sometimes seems it, pregnancy most certainly does not usually happen on the first try. Enjoy and hope your stay here is short! 
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  • Welcome! Congrats on the weight loss! I think it's great you took the time to lose weight before TTC. DH and I are currently benched while my shock therapy treatments are being spaced out more quickly. My 2 ECT doctors and my outpatient psychiatrist want to make sure I'll be able to handle going the length of pregnancy without a treatment. So, I hear ya on getting healthy before TTC.

    Best of luck to you!
    Me: 28 | Hubs: 36
    TTC #1 // Benched until further notice
    Type I Bipolar Disorder & ECT


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  • Congrats on the weight loss!! That is an incredible feat!! I lost 75 lbs years ago, and it was the best thing I ever did for myself. It's hard work though!!

    I hear you on irrational fear of infertility. We tried for nine months and then had my thyroid treated and another (completely coincidental) medical crisis taken care of.. And now it's all "you should have no problems". We are into our second post treatment cycle and I'm totally freaking out bc those nine months prior are still seared into my mind. It's hard, I know. I'm sorry. I wish I had great advice for you. All I've figured out so far that kinda helps is keeping busy - knitting, training for my marathon, reading. Also, I found the time when my irrational fears pop up most is when I'm laying in bed at night trying to sleep. So I started audiobooks and now I fall asleep to those and set it on a timer. I recently purchased an adult coloring book on the recommendation of other ladies here, supposed to be very therapeutic. I started talking to a therapist about the medical crisis but honestly I talk to her a lot about not spinning out of control with negative thinking in regards to ttc.

    ****tw: Mc mentioned****
    Have you talked to your mom about your fears? I don't know if that would be hurtful or helpful... But... Maybe worth a shot? My grandmother openly discussed, since I was very young, her late Mc that she had in between my uncle and mother and how traumatic it was for her. She still talked about her "angel", at 82. My mother openly discussed the year she tried to have me as being the longest year of her life. My cousin was open about her infertility diagnosis and rainbow take home baby (she is ten years older than me).. So I grew up with this talk and always worried that I would have trouble. So I get that aspect. :( sorry.
    ********tw talk over*******

    Wto/tww threads really help. This board is an incredible place, I have found so much peace here. Welcome.

    Married May 2014
    TTC Nov 2014-Aug 2016
    Aug 2015 Dx: Thyroid Cancer and Hashimotos
    Total Thyroidectomy October 2015 
    Ovarian Cystectomy Nov 2015
    CANCER FREE and resumed TTC Dec 2015.


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  • Gardeniagirlknits: Thanks for the advice! I actually love the idea of audio books and coloring books. I used to read a lot and I think that would definitely help to keep my mind preoccupied!

    I haven't discussed it with my mom. Partially because I don't want her to think she emotionally scarred me lol, and partially because DH and I don't want to tell anyone we're TTC. Because of my stupid fears, I don't want to get anyone's hopes up for grandchildren and then not be able to deliver.

    Thanks to everyone who welcomed me!
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  • Welcome and good luck! Hope your stay is short!
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  • Welcome and may your stay here be pleasantly short. :)

    Also congratulations on the weight loss! That's impressive.

    I can definitely understand the fears of infertility. It seems to be fairly common for women to have that fear once they start TTC and it doesn't happen the first month or two. There have been a lot of discussion in the TTC community about how that fear is likely, partly, from having been told in sex ed and such our entire lives that unprotected sex=pregnant. So once unprotected sex happens and pregnancy doesn't it feels as if something is wrong. It if gives you any comfort you can remind yourself of the statistics that the average couple without fertility problems takes a year to get pregnant. And on any given cycle, with well-timed intercourse, there is about a 20%.

    I think we can all relate to the bittersweet feeling of seeing close friends get pregnant their first cycle while we're still TTC. :/
    Me: 28 Husband: 31
    TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016
    Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
    Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017  ❤️

    Baby #2 due June 12, 2018
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  • Welcome & congrats on the weight loss! 

    Me: 32 Him: 29 Live : London, UK
    TTC #1 since October 2015
    IVF Fresh Nov 16 = BFN
    IVF FET Jan 17 = BFP
    EDD: Oct 4th 2017
    TEAM: PINK!!
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  • Welcome, congrats on the amazing weight loss!
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    Me: 31  DH: 38  TTC #1
    Live: San Diego, CA
    Married: 8/15/15
    July, 2016: Unexplained IF Diagnosis
    August, 2016: Clomid + IUI = BFN
    September, 2016: Clomid + IUI = BFN, IVF consult
    October, 2016: Clomid + IUI = BFN
    IVF starting November, 2016 with BCP.  Stims starting 12/2/16
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  • Welcome and congrats on the weight loss! I know how you feel about friends being pregnant while you are still trying. Three of my friends are in their second trimester, and all of DH's friends already have children. I feel like we are left behind, and it makes it all worse. Hopefully your stay here will be short!

    Me: 27 & DH: 30
    Married: May 2013
    TTC: November 2015
    BFP #1: November 2015 (chemical at 5 weeks)
    BFP #2: February 2016



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  • Congrats on the weight loss and welcome! Sounds like you are a very motivated person. 

    I would recommend learning about basal body temping (BBT) and charting. It can help you understand how your body works. Download the Fertility Friend app and begin reading the tutorials. It truly can change your outlook on fertility and help your timing be better. 

    Some me good books to read are Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler and Making Babies by Jill Blakeway and Sami David. GL and make sure to participate in the daily WTO/TWW threads. (Waiting to ovulate/two week wait) 

    Also, keep in mind that when you give support you will receive it!
    Me (26) DH (28)
    Married 6.22.13
    Hoping for a Herd Linky
    4/15--TTC #1
    12/15--IF testing
    3/16--Dx Unexplained IF
    Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI + Progesterone cycle
    Cancelled due to cysts. Started 3 weeks of BCP.
    4/16--Cute Ute! Clomid+Ovidrel+IUI+Progesterone TI.
    Cancelled-no response
    5/16--Hemmorhagic cyst and other cyst discovered.
    No medicated cycle. MRI scheduled to rule out
    septate uterus.
    6/16--Septum discovered. Consultation for surgery.
    Surprise BFP 6/8/16--EDD 2/13/17
    Kole David--1.7.17--Tiny but Mighty, born at 34+5 after HELLP syndrome
    Chart Stalk Me

     
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  • Welcome and congrats on the weight loss!  I know how difficult that can be.  I've gained some weight recently and my OB just told me she would like me to lose it before I get pregnant.  Now I'm kicking myself for not watching my weight more carefully and facing the decision of whether to postpone TTC when I'm already 33 or go forward and face the risks of getting pregnant while overweight.  Major, major kudos to you for being proactive about the situation.

    I completely understand the fears about infertility, and echo others that it's a really common concern.  But the chances that you will actually struggle with it are relatively low.  Read TCOYF and other material to learn about your body, and start temping to learn about your cycle and give yourself the best chance to conceive.  Good luck and I hope your stay here is short!
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    DH and I:  Early/mid 30s
    Married 7/15
    TTC #1 as of 8/15
    BFP 11/21/15 -- MC confirmed 12/1/15
    BFP #2 2/18/16
  • Welcome!  I lost a bunch of weight on myfitnesspal, so I definitely appreciate your dedication!  :D GL

    Me: 32 | DH: 39
    Married: May 30, 2015
    TTC #1 since October 2015
    one adorable malti-poo fur-baby

    Me: 34 | DH: 41 ~ Married / TTC our First since May 2015
    5/16 - Began Creighton Method CM Tracking / Napro Fertility Medicine | Progesterone + various abx cycles - all BFNs
    8/16 - SHG: ute good, at least one tube open | 10/16 - MFI Azoo dx confirmed. No known genetic cause. Vas tubes absent.
    3/17 - DH started Clomid to prepare for MESA/TESE | 4/17 - Initial RE Consult for me. | 7/17 - Successful retrieval for DH!
    9/17 - Two Back to back IVFs  | 10/17 - Polypectomy  |  11/17 - 1st FET ended in CP  :'(  | 12/17 - 2nd FET ... BFP!!! <3
    EDD: 09/09/18
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