I hate being pregnant

ayeshaohara · December 2015

yep I said it. I'm 21 weeks tomorrow and I feel gross every day still. I'm exhausted and I've just done my first trip to emergency today because I've been cramping for 15 hours and counting and they have no idea what is going on.

I feel like this baby that I've wanted so badly for so long is taking every bit of resilience I have and then throwing it away. I'm SOOO happy to be pregnant but I never imagined it being THIS hard.

My biggest fear is losing the baby before its viable and all this hell I'm going through being for nothing.

Is anyone else feeling as yuck as me? Sorry for the vent

just been a tough morning!

amscape · December 2015

I'm sorry it's been rough so far. Maybe - hopefully- it'll get easier!

Mine hasn't been so rough but I just don't particularly like being pregnant. I definitely had it alllllll sorts if romanticized in my head & the reality, duh, doesn't align. I always thought is be a person who enjoys it but nope, that is not the case. I like being my own person with energy! I'm trying not to feel guilty about it. I dislike it enough that it does make me reconsider the number of kids we want. (I feel like I'm explaining myself really badly here, hope it sort of makes sense )

Hang in there! I am sure it will all be worth it even if it sucks now.

ayeshaohara · December 2015

amscape said:
I'm sorry it's been rough so far. Maybe - hopefully- it'll get easier!

Mine hasn't been so rough but I just don't particularly like being pregnant. I definitely had it alllllll sorts if romanticized in my head & the reality, duh, doesn't align. I always thought is be a person who enjoys it but nope, that is not the case. I like being my own person with energy! I'm trying not to feel guilty about it. I dislike it enough that it does make me reconsider the number of kids we want. (I feel like I'm explaining myself really badly here, hope it sort of makes sense )

Hang in there! I am sure it will all be worth it even if it sucks now.

I feel the same way about it making me reconsider the number of kids I want. I can't see past having one at this stage. If we do have another it will be a while before we do so!

catkins441 · December 2015

I'm with you. The first thing I said to my mom after my daughter was born was, "I'm so glad to not be pregnant anymore" It was also literally my first thought right after she was born. I cannot understand the people who love it. It took my quite awhile to bite the bullet to go through it again. After my daughter was born, for a long long time, I told my husband that I would know I was ok with the idea of being pregnant again when I stopped thinking "I'm glad that's not me" every time I saw someone who was pregnant. It took close to 3 years...This will definitely be it for us. I thought I wanted 3 kids, but I'm not going through being pregnant again. 2 is great, and I'm already super pumped to get rid of all of my maternity clothes! I hope it will at least get a little better for you. Good luck!

lalala2004 · December 2015

I wouldn't say I hate it. I look at it as a new, different experience, but I definitely have found it to be more of a challenge than it was idealized in my mind. I planned to be active, but everything always hurts when I try! It can be frustrating, but of course a baby is worth it. I also think I'll probably forget when the time comes that I want another child!

mmemartinez · December 2015

I feel like it's true what everyone says about each pregnancy being different. I hated being pregnant with DS and this time, my first trimester was even worse. But now I feel pretty much like normal so we will see if that holds out for the rest of this pregnancy. But it's normal I think to not love it. I haven't met anyone who has loved being pregnant.

araecasey · December 2015

mmemartinez said:
I feel like it's true what everyone says about each pregnancy being different. I hated being pregnant with DS and this time, my first trimester was even worse. But now I feel pretty much like normal so we will see if that holds out for the rest of this pregnancy. But it's normal I think to not love it. I haven't met anyone who has loved being pregnant.

This. Even though I'm still sick, this pregnancy is far and away easier than my last one. I also went into new parenthood wanting 3 or 4 kids, then once I got pregnant I swore up and down that we were in the one and done club. Now I know what's on the other side of this experience, a heart brimming with love and a kid who brings me so much joy, the nine months of pregnancy and birth seem like a small price to pay, and I'm back to wanting another baby or two after this baby is born.

Merciel · December 2015

So far it seems like I've been having about the easiest pregnancy possible (or so it seems compared to most of my friends and the experiences people have been posting about here), and yeah, I still don't love it.

Pretty much planning on team one-and-done right now.

KaKip · December 2015

I'll be honest.... pregnancy has been pretty miserable for me, both psychologically and physically. I don't think I've ever spent so many hours bawling on the phone ever before. Right now, I'm definitely thinking this will be the only child I have. I'm starting to think about adoption should want we want another child.

Seriously, if my husband could be the pregnant one, he'd be happy as a clam. He's a stoic and super mellow. I'm constantly anxious and can't stand not feeling well. Plus he's totally baby crazy... he melts when he sees babies.

I should say this is coming after 2 and half weeks of non-stop diarrhea which has meant that I've gotten to eat toast, applesauce, rice, plain noodles and bananas... UGGH

JennyS86 · December 2015

I agree with you that pregnancy is not all it's cracked up to be! I keep hearing from my mom and MIL how "much they loved being pregnant" and how they wish I felt the same. I feel bad saying that I already don't want to be pregnant ever again!
I was willing to give pregnancy another shot because my first pregnancy (twins) was such a disaster - I went through infertility treatments, severe morning sickness, a hemorrhage at 12.5weeks, still throwing up after 20weeks, and then the contractions started at 22 weeks. I just felt miserable pregnant. What came out of that pregnancy was our two wonderful girls - so it was worth it! However, this pregnancy has felt the same to me! yuck.
Good news is were are almost or already half way done! We are also getting close to viability! but let's not deliver for a while, Ok?!
@kakip lots of diarrhea here too

childcaremama · December 2015

I feel the same!!! I love kids and babies and want 4, as does DH. This is my first pregnancy and I really never want to be pregnant again. I'm high risk and it's been difficult. I would love to adopt the rest of our children. DH doesn't feel the same and wants me to have more babies. It's a frustrating situation. I love this baby more than anything and am happy to do whatever it takes to get her here healthy. But to choose to do this again when I will have my daughter to think about as well, it's just not something I can wrap my head around right now, even though I know we'll want more than one child.

Hang in there!!!

anijman · December 2015

I feel exactly the same and have felt so guilty about hating being pregnant. I cannot imagine ever going through this again. What with the 4 months of nausea and morning sickness, the threatened miscarriage and now gestational diabetes and super high risk of pre-eclampsia (I'm in the hospital at the moment for these two issues) I've never felt worse. I am soo in love with my baby girl right now and I worry sooo much about her being alright. I will be sooo glad when she's finally here and this will all be over.

michellabanana · December 2015

JennyS86 said:
I agree with you that pregnancy is not all it's cracked up to be! I keep hearing from my mom and MIL how "much they loved being pregnant" and how they wish I felt the same. I feel bad saying that I already don't want to be pregnant ever again!
I was willing to give pregnancy another shot because my first pregnancy (twins) was such a disaster - I went through infertility treatments, severe morning sickness, a hemorrhage at 12.5weeks, still throwing up after 20weeks, and then the contractions started at 22 weeks. I just felt miserable pregnant. What came out of that pregnancy was our two wonderful girls - so it was worth it! However, this pregnancy has felt the same to me! yuck.
Good news is were are almost or already half way done! We are also getting close to viability! but let's not deliver for a while, Ok?!
@kakip lots of diarrhea here too

One thing I hate when my mother and mil say they had no problems! I hate that lol
..my sisters and SILs say they probably just don't remember.

countrygrl5533 · December 2015

Add me to the hate pregnancy club. We were suppose to start trying for baby #2 when DD was a year old. I was so far from being ready to be pregnant again and to deal with another baby that we put it off another year.

The original plan was to have 3 kids. I'm saying that I'm done after this one. Not just because I never want to be pregnant again but for a few other reasons as well. Two is just plain easier than three when going places, the fact that we want to homeschool, the fact that I find just one overwhelming sometimes, etc.

finnybooboo · December 2015

I wouldn't say I hate being pregnant, but I'll be happy when it's over. I'm already overweight to start, so I don't have a cute little bump that everyone could obviously tell is a baby until I'm pretty far along. I can't take those weekly progress pictures because all I see is growing fat, and I'm jealous of those pictures on pinterst of the girls who get to see that bump grow from all baby. Also, my skin HATES pregnancy! I break out more while pregnant then I ever did as a teenager, and it's just plain embarrassing as an almost 30 year old.

Finally, I gained over 60 lbs last pregnancy and wasn't able to lose it all before this one (2 years in between). I've been doing MUCH better about not gaining so much weight this time, but I'm excited to get this pregnancy over, get passed that recovery time and get my butt in gear. Last time my motivation was stunted by the fact that I knew we'd be trying for another, so I was discouraged by the fact that I'd work hard to lose a bunch only to gain it back again. Since this our last, I will have no excuses!

ayeshaohara · December 2015

I have found one upside of being pregnant...it's made me appreciate my pre-pregnancy body a lot more. It wasn't perfect or model thin but it was healthy, fit, strong and curvy in the right places. I used to think I was fat...now I have a new concept of what that really means. Seeing my body change, while being totally cool (I've always wanted a baby belly) is kinda scary too. I'm definitely going to treat my post baby body with even more love and respect than I did before. I'm really missing exercise...I dream about running, seriously, but don't have the energy to do any activity at the moment...so it'll be nice to get back into any sort of exercise again when I'm not out of breath just from walking a small flight of stairs!! Anyone had a shift in their body image?

balamama · December 2015

I'm in the same boat with my MIL and mom saying how much they lovedddd being pregnant (which was significantly more annoying in the first trimester when I was constantly nauseous and exhausted). I think thirty-plus years has definitely had something to do with their outlook and am trying to ignore them

CBS78 · December 2015

You can add me to the list as well. I hated every minute of being pregnant with my DD and swore I would never do it again, but when she turned 3 I realized I really wanted another (as did DH) so decided to suck it up and hope I would feel differently the second time. So far no dice - between 4 months of MS and worrying constantly, it's been a challenge. Now having my daughter I know it's completely worth every second, but it's hard. And I hate women who say they love being pregnant - usually I just tell myself they're lying

laurenmdrn16 · December 2015

I love feeling the baby move and I love the concept of growing life inside me. However, the reality sucks. From horrible MS and HG this pregnanacy, to the pre-e and HELLP during my last pregnancy, I don't think my body likes being pregnant. I felt bad because one of my friends who is a gay man asked me if I would ever consider being a surrogate for him and his partner because I "grow such cute babies" and I would love to, except my body just doesn't do pregnancy well. If I knew it would be a safe and healthy pregnancy, I would be all for it, but considering my track record, that is a big fat no! I love being a mom and I love having a baby inside me, but I am not loving all the wackadoo changes that come with it, especially the emotional ones. We will make it through...just keep taking care of yourself, let yourself pout, treat yo' self, and look forward to the joys and challenges that motherhood will bring!

JennyS86 · December 2015

@ ayeshaohara I definitely have a shift in my appreciation for my body. My first pregnancy, I took the weight gain a lot harder than I thought - so I realized that I still had a lot of work to do in the body image department. I am ready to gain more weight this pregnancy, in part because I know that it is for a great cause!

@ laurenmdrn16 before getting pregnant, I spoke with my husband about being a surrogate after our family was complete. Turns out I am really bad at being pregnant, miserable, and high risk enough to be a bad candidate for surrogacy. That dream will not become a reality. I will go back to donating blood, haha. I might even donate breast milk to our city's new milk bank if I qualify!

proudparent2b · December 2015

I definitely struggle with the physical aspects of pregnancy. After losing over 60 pounds and massively improving my physical strength/endurance, it's a bit hard to see my weight climb back up and to give up running (per doctor's orders after I pushed it a little too hard with a 10K). I know that I can lose the weight again and start training after the kid is born, but it's tough.

So glad it's not just a me thing!

sosweet487 · December 2015

I have so much cramping and my boobs still feel like they were beaten with bats. Plus... I feel HUGE and extremely unattractive. I don't want to have any sex with my husband because I just feel like a huge whale.

@proudparent2b - I know how you feel. I lost 50lbs and also improved my endurance/etc. Now it's killing me watching my weight creep back up slowly again.

Definitely am not enjoying this pregnancy at all. I am still super tired and still have to wear my nausea wrist bands. Saturday we were driving home from a Christmas party and I was feeling perfectly fine before I got in the car. I sat down and immediately started feeling sick. The DH drives about a mile before I am throwing up in the front seat of the car while we were on the freeway. Thankfully I had a bowl in my lap of leftovers from the potluck... just sucks because it was perfectly good leftovers! That was also the first time my DH experienced first hand my nausea. He's always been at work every time I've gotten sick. He was taken aback by how quickly the nausea sets in. (He was also amazed that I felt fine immediately afterwards!)

KaKip · December 2015

That is the amazing thing about morning sickness, isn't it? One minute you are fine, the next you are puking and then within a couple minutes you are fine again.

gamommyx3 · December 2015

When I was about 8 weeks I called my mother crying because I felt like I was going to be a bad mother because I was so miserable being pregnant. I just felt sooo awful and I didn't know how to deal with it. Somehow this translated in my head to bad parenting (wtf??). Hip Hip Hooray for hormones.

Instead of "I'm sorry for what I said when I was hungry" it's "I'm sorry for what I said during the 1st trimester!!"

Like PPs said I have a much better appreciation for my pre-prego body. I'm going to speak a lot more kindly to that girl when she comes back next summer

bchildrn · December 2015

I am in the same boat as you. I hate being pregnant... I will do whatever I need to to keep this baby healthy and cooking until it's ready but I really feel so crappy that it's not enjoyable for me at all. I really wanted three kids but I honestly cannot fathom being pregnant again. I've already told my husband that this is it and that if we want a third we can adopt. I feel so bad saying it and my husband hates when I do because he's nervous I'm going to jinx it and something bad will happen. I keep telling him that I don't hate the baby I just hate the way I feel and that I get mad because I so badly wanted to enjoy this pregnancy and so far it hasn't been that way at all.

ayeshaohara · December 2015

@bchildrn you won't jinx it or be any less of an awesome mother. I know that as much as I hate this it doesn't change that I'll love my baby more than anything. My husband has finally realised I'm not angry with him or anyone else I'm just really sick of feeling sick!!!

Thanks to everyone replying and making me feel so much more normal about this. It's nice to be able to say these things without being judged and know that we're not alone!

codeeye · December 2015

After years of fertility problems I feel like a turd for not enjoying pregnancy. I have been sick constantly (19 weeks now) haven't pooped in 4 days, constantly seem to be straining this or that, migraines at least three days a week... Been to ER three times for dehydration.. The list is never ending. Not to mention I used to be this super motivated real go getter and now I just want to sit around most of the time watching Netflix under a blanket. But still I must admit I have never been more happy about being sick and chubby in my life. (That being said I am eagerly awaiting May, hoping to feel more like my old self)

Soontobejones33 · December 2015

Yes! To everyone. To do this again just seems unfathomable. Love babies, but how they come into the world is just wrong I tell you. Wrong! I so want baby J to have a sibling and if I could skip the first trimester I might be on board. (Not that's it ever really ended despite being 20 weeks along) . At the moment, hell to the nah!

amscape · December 2015

codeeye said:
Not to mention I used to be this super motivated real go getter and now I just want to sit around most of the time watching Netflix under a blanket. But still I must admit I have never been more happy about being sick and chubby in my life. (That being said I am eagerly awaiting May, hoping to feel more like my old self)

Yes, exactly this! I love early mornings & used to get up and be productive then. Now it's all I can do to get out of bed and make it to the couch. I can't wait for my regular levels of motivation & energy to return. I hate feeling so lazy!

countrygrl5533 · December 2015

amscape said:

Not to mention I used to be this super motivated real go getter and now I just want to sit around most of the time watching Netflix under a blanket. But still I must admit I have never been more happy about being sick and chubby in my life. (That being said I am eagerly awaiting May, hoping to feel more like my old self)
Yes, exactly this! I love early mornings & used to get up and be productive then. Now it's all I can do to get out of bed and make it to the couch. I can't wait for my regular levels of motivation & energy to return. I hate feeling so lazy!

Add me to this. Since DD has been 2 or so, I've been getting up before her, between 6 and 6:30. I prefer mornings. I would also do a lot of my blogging work in the mornings before she was up. Now, at about 7:15 she crawls in bed with me and watches a show while I attempt to figure out how to wake up. If I'm out of bed by 8, I consider it a miracle. I've never in my life been a late sleeper like this. It's bugging me.

I'm hoping this goes back to more normal after the baby is born. Yes, I'll be up in the night with a baby but I find that sleep so much more restful than pregnancy sleep. Just being more comfortable helps so much with feeling rested.

Jessabelly · December 2015

I agree. While I am so grateful to be able to carry a healthy child I also HATE pregnancy. I hate being so lazy and tired and feeling like crap. We have a 22 month old daughter that I feel like I'm taking away from my feeling so crappy. I also feel like my husband has to be getting annoyed with me (he says he isn't but I'm annoying myself)... On top of it all my daughter broke her thigh bone and is in a cast from above her belly button down one whole leg to her foot and halfway down the other leg which adds about 10 lbs of awkward weight on her and she needs 24 hour entertainment since she can't even crawl or walk or sit up... Or sleep. I want 3 children more than anything but am considering getting a sister wife to carry the next one.. Lol

katxattack1212 · December 2015

I also hate pregnancy. This is my third, with my second being a surrogacy. My second pregnancy wasn't fun...and it wasn't even for me! But...it was still worth it. Here I am suffering away for #3 (mine) and wondering wtf I was thinking. I already can't sleep, my pelvis is all loose/hurts, and I'm now brewing a head cold.

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