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Rant: the hidden bitch inside

rachellegiaccorachellegiacco member
in September 2015 Moms
My husband never wakes up with the kids. He stays up until 3am most weekends and days he doesn't get up early for work playing video games and drinking. He says it's his way to relax and enjoy something. (Apparently thats the only thing that gives him joy, I must be chopped liver) but anyway it must be just the sleep deprived, bitter, revengeful bitch in me that calls bull. What I'd give to sleep all night, or even past 630-7am for one night. I'd even just take a night of him not snoring in between the times im up with both kids. And I'm pretty sure hell would freeze over if I got to do all three. Idk what makes me more irritated, him playing games so much because that's the only thing that makes him happy/relaxed or if it's the fact he has never gotten up with either child and I'm soo tired and I'm jealous.
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  • chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    The video games make me more angry then the not waking up at night. If I could just set them all on fire I would be so happy
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  • rachellegiaccorachellegiacco member
    Hahaha I think I have told him that. I'm glad I'm not the only one.
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  • LoveLee85LoveLee85 member
    Mine isn't games but kind of?! On his iPhone every spare second of his LIFE! I seriously hate Steve Jobs. How effed up is that?! Lol I just can't believe my DH is so dependent on his phone. It sucks. I feel like I married his iPhone and not him.
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  • callistosmilecallistosmile member
    My boyfriend plays a game on his phone while playing a game on his xbox while watching a show on his laptop, kicked back in the recliner his dad gave him six months ago that signaled the end of our couch snuggles.
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  • chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    callistosmile said:

    My boyfriend plays a game on his phone while playing a game on his xbox while watching a show on his laptop, kicked back in the recliner his dad gave him six months ago that signaled the end of our couch snuggles.

    This!! how can you play a game on your iPad, a different one on your phone and WHILE you're playing madden on PS3?! What is the need??
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  • jen83mnjen83mn member
    I feel for all of you! I dated a gamer (we're talking hardcore World of Warcraft fanatic) for three years off and on and it was a fight to even get him to go out to dinner or outside in the summer. I couldn't imagine having a baby with him.

    My DH has a little of the iPhone obsession going on, but I point it out to him every time until he's sick of me and puts the phone down. Or I physically take it away. Or I start talking from the baby's standpoint and say, "Dad! Put the phone down and play with me!" That usually does the trick because then he feels bad lol.
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  • TeacherMom210TeacherMom210 member
    It's probably more of a maturity issue or some type of avoidance thing. DH and I are both pretty avid gamers (game of choice right now is Star Trek Online), but we don't let it get in the way of the kids. We cut way back after DD#1 was born. Took a while for him to adjust, but he did.
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  • cait040415cait040415 member
    My husband isn't a huge gamer and always waits till me and baby go to bed to play, but when he does that, usually stays up till 2 or 3 am, which makes him miss the MOTN diaper change, which is the ONLY time I ask him to wake up. That makes me a little crazy. He's 30 years old for goodness sake!
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  • dmbfan46835dmbfan46835 member
    @jen83mn World of Warcraft is THE WORST!! I left my fiancé of 6 years over that dumb ass game. I just don't get how it can be all consuming and make a grown up forget all responsibilities. And his friends and family also played!! Blows my mind.
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  • v1wwov1wwo member
    edited December 2015
    I'm a big gamer myself and so is my husband. He is better at self control than me. And I will be tested yet again... My husband got me the next Starcraft 2 for Christmas... I mean, call the child protective services now! (Kidding... I only play when I pump ;) )
    But yeah... We are gamers but baby comes first, than doggy, than us, than house, than friends and than games. It just does not work if games are the number one thing and I would be mad.
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  • bnwillia3bnwillia3 member
    Ugh, don't put up with that crap. I don't know where men get off thinking that they are not equally responsible for their children. Stay up until 3am if you want and I'll still be nudging you awake for a 4am diaper change. That baby was made by two people and those two people can share the load of care taking. Just because moms are totally and utterly amazing doesn't mean they don't need a break! Let's raise the bar of expectations for males - we deserve better!
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  • Kayciejoe56Kayciejoe56 member
    My DH is not a gamer... but his escape is working out. I understand its a healthy habit, and he always reminds me he wants to be healthy for me and Ds, but it's still an escape. He has always been a morning person, and I have always been the sleeping in type. I really thought that he would take DS in the mornings for a few hours, on the weekends, so I could get a little extra sleep. He doesn't do any motn feedings because he gets up very early for work, and I'm still on leave. But the weekends should be a different story! He says he can't because he has to get his workout in, and he knows I can't really argue with a workout.

    All that being said, I really try not to let it bother me. He's a wonderful dad who loves our son... but dad's just have a harder time adjusting to new routines (and constant fighting/complaining only cause more stress). I'm only returning to work part time, so I will continue to do a large majority of the care. DH knows that I appreciate how hard he works, and i don't ask for help too often... so if I seriously ask he almost always steps up. Not to say we don't have our arguments about splitting responsibilities... I just am generally easy going about it, and do what needs to be done. I know when DS is a little older, and they can do boy things together, he will be taking him all the time... right now he just feels more comfortable with me doing most of the baby stuff.
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