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Day dreaming of divorce.

LoveLee85LoveLee85 member
in September 2015 Moms
I think I'm reaching that point that I want to explore my options. Husband refuses to parent. I would have never married him or had a baby with him if I knew I would be a single mom. This is not what I signed up for. The bad part is that I might just stay forever because I don't want joint custody or to give up not seeing my baby on weekends or holidays. I'm just so over everything and told him I don't even want anymore kids with him because he is so absent. I resent him daily. I fantasize about being single and not having to share my son or deal with his dad. This sucks so bad. He refuses outside help, like babysitters or marriage counseling. He thinks I'm being dramatic. He hasn't done one middle of the night diaper or bottle. He's JUST as capable as I am but refuses. I want a divorce so bad. I just never thought he would turn out this way as a father. It's so heartbreaking.
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  • CRooney89CRooney89 member
    I am no longer with LO's dad. We weren't married, but we were together for 3 years, lived together, had a dog together, etc. I moved out when I was pregnant because of some of his actions, but I still wanted things to work out long term. I told myself he can be a jerk to me, because I'm an adult and I can choose to stay or leave, but one LO is born if he's a crappy father then I'm done! And guess what.. Never comes to see LO on time (one day he was 4 hours late!) and refuses to give me any sort of child support financially. And he doesn't understand why I don't want to be with him. I've been trying to work a schedule and financial support out with him without going to court but it's not looking good. Being a single mom is really hard, but I am much happier not living with him or dealing with his bs on a constant basis.
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  • alyjmacalyjmac member
    This is me right now, although we are not married. I just want to get through one Christmas together and be done. He's bitching this morning because our baby woke up at 6:30 (slept 11 hours though). Like suck it up princess, there are parents out there who still wake up 2-4 times a night maybe more. He hardly ever feeds him. Holds him for maybe ten minutes at a time and then sets him down. Gets angry at him crying. Can never soothe him. He's not happy with me, I can tell. I'm pretty sure he just wants to do his own thing (play video games, smoke weed, be lazy). So I may as well let him after Christmas.

    We've been together almost five years and it sucks to think the guy I used to love has vanished.
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  • chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    edited December 2015
    I threatened divorce and told him I'm going to take our son with me and everything changed. Maybe he needs to hear that you're serious about leaving. I told him this wasn't the life I signed up for and once the baby was born I knew that there's more to life and I deserved to be happy. When I was going through it some of the ladies on here suggested that men can get PPD too, if he's so disconnected it's very likely that he may...I'm so sorry I know how much it sucks. I wish you the best
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