I suppose that I will just jump right into this post. First and foremost, I have never delt with CPS before. I had my son at age 15 and I was homeless, so I split the custody with his paternal grandmother. Fast forward, I had my daugter at age 21. Her father (my now ex-husband) and I had a very unhealthy relationship. It was toxic on both ends, emotionally and physically. She also has severe autism. I eventually and inevitably had to leave after 4 years of Hell. During the divorce, it was mutually agreed upon that he would have custody of her (he is a wonderful father) and I could have rights to see her every other weekend. Please, keep in mind the severity of her autism. It is impossible for her to be tossed from house-to-house because even a simple car ride causes her a lot of trauma and anxiety. She is non-verbal, cannot feed herself and is violent towards herself/others. The hardest part in all of this is that she no longer remembers who I am, due to not being around her constantly; her memory is poor, but she is such a beautiful and intelligent child. My son and I are extremely close and he comes to stay with me every other weekend; he will be moving in with me next year. Once again, never once has CPS been involved. Should I be concerned about them taking away my unborn baby? Maybe it is just me over thinking.
Re: Scared CPS Will Take Unborn Baby
So you were in a physically abusive relationship with the father of your autistic daughter but LEFT her with him?? Why did you give up custody? It's sad she doesn't even know you now because you hardly ever see her but you are close with your child that doesn't have special needs. Something is wrong here.
I'm so confused by all of this because why would CPS come and take your baby away? What makes you think that?
Maybe for your peace of mind, you could make a list of resources you've used with your other children- like parenting classes you've been to, books you've read, mentors, family, and friends who have helped and/or will help out when the baby comes- just so if you ever were questioned about your ability to nurture your baby and keep him/her safe, that you would have solid evidence that you are prepared for it.
Rest assured cps in most places is much different than it was 20 or 30 years ago- their primary goal is to keep kids with their biological families.