Anyone else nervous to announce?

scrowle5 · December 2015

I plan on telling my family for Christmas and friends after week 12 (I am 9 weeks now)... I just feel like telling everyone is scary and I always fear the worst for some reason.

stillcozy · December 2015

Hi I know we have told family and friends and I'm nervous to announce publicly as well but think how 12 weeks the odds are in our favor! (I like the hunger games!) it is scary though. Is this your first? It is mine and for me announcing makes it that much more real and though there is fear I am trying to cling to joy and excitement of it feeling real as well! Hang in there. Is your family supportive?

pourmeanothermocktail · December 2015

I am afraid a bit, we are announcing starting tomorrow for the next few days. Very nervous, it's our first, we just moved away from family, and we're not in the best financial place. So we're hoping they're super happy.

AL_TwinCities · December 2015

Absolutely. ***TW*****

The last time I was pregnant we announced to my family and I miscarried 2 days later. Now I am farther along than I was with my first loss, but I am still nervous. We are telling my family this week (I'll be 9 weeks on Christmas) and told DH's mom and brother at 6 weeks because we saw them in person which doesn't happen that often. I think I will be waiting until 14 weeks to tell the rest of our friends and extended family. If we have a late loss, it will suck for everyone to know, but then again we may get better support than we can even anticipate. You are definitely not alone!

TattoosandLace · December 2015

With our first, we never announced on social media. I just slipped it in another status about my husband being sick and how he felt bad about being mean to me while I had MS.

We haven't announced to MIL yet and we know she's going to be a raging **** about it. Honestly not sure if I'd rather just rip the bandaid off and tell her and not worry about it.
She's one of those people that once she knows, everyone will know. In fact, DH went to call his brother the evening we told MIL and she had already called and told him.

I'm trying very hard to be of the camp that if you aren't happy for us or if you're negative you can see your way out. Not always easy in practice though.

rakel88 · December 2015

SO nervous.. I had my last appointment on the 6th (I was 9 weeks) and everything was perfect, baby was active and big for how far along I was, heartbeat was great, etc. BUT that was a little over 2 weeks ago, 3 by the time we're planning to tell people and I keep thinking "but what if..."
I've been extremely lucky, haven't had morning sickness or anything and have felt generally really good, and I'm not showing yet (I'll be 12 weeks on Monday), so I don't actually really feel pregnant..
My husband was sweet and goes "but you are!" when I said I didn't feel pregnant. He reminded me of everything I said above, and so did my mom when I told her I was worried.
My next appointment is on January 6th and I would just hate to announce and so shortly after, if something is wrong, have to announce that.. Idk, I'm not usually this much of a worrier but I guess maybe that's a sign I'm pregnant?? Lol

Anyway, yea, I'm nervous. But we're doing it.

Croscrew · December 2015

As a STM I am more nervous this time around than the first, and I think it is because I have heard too many stories. Please, keep sharing your stories, but for the announcing part it does make it a bit scarier and I have never had a loss (yet). I am 9w0d today and we will be announcing Christmas Eve since we will all be together.

mrsmommya · December 2015

I agree @Croscrew hearing all the stories does increase anxiety but also doesn't really impact what will happen to me. I am someone who has a had a loss and will be telling my immediate family at Christmas....I will be 9 weeks, the same week we lost our last pregnancy, but didn't know till 12 weeks. I really think 2 missed miscarriages are very rare, so really think everything will be fine. I also keep telling myself these are the people I want to know in any outcome.

Taymiller · December 2015

We already told the world! Yes I worry if something happens but I will deal with it if it does happen. This is a happy time, try to enjoy it!

jlgriff11 · December 2015

I'm ready. My nervousness has really calmed way down after hearing and seeing the babies twice, and I'm two weeks past my last loss at 10 weeks ( blighted ovum, mmc) and I'm feeling confident right now and anxious for it to be "official". Most everyone important already knows, but there's something exciting about being at that stage where it's more acceptable to announce.

I get the nervousness though and I just think you should go with your gut. My cousin is like 16 weeks and hasn't announced yet and my other cousin who is also having twins is due in April and just announced this week. Its all your own comfort level you know. Good luck!

Lyssiana · December 2015

I literally just put announcements in christmas cards into the mailbox. I'm announcing on FB on Christmas day and I'm so nervous. I have had two great sonograms and nothing seems to be wrong, and I'll be 11 weeks 4 days on Christmas. Doesn't stop my worry.

mamafox14 · December 2015

We've just started announcing to friends this past week as we see them. We had a good ultrasound and heard the heartbeat again on wednesday. It still makes me a little nervous but it also feels really good! I'm feeling positive about this pregnancy now but it still feels weird saying it out loud. It's exciting but weird after keeping it to ourselves for what feels like forever!

lillebowski23 · December 2015

We've announced to almost everyone except my parents and extended family. I am waiting until Christmas mainly because my mom and Grandma will tell everyone and I need to feel like I have some control left. Can't wait for the unsolicited advice from my aunts. After I tell them, we'll announce thru social media.

LinzerBinzer · December 2015

This is such a timely post! We leave today to the in-laws' house for Xmas and I'm so nervous. Happy and excited to tell his parents and sweet uncles, but announcing to grandma and the aunts (other side of his fam) makes me nervous. They will be excited, but annoying with questions.

More than that I'm nervous to send out our New Years card announcement - I'll be officially 11 weeks on NYE and my 2nd u/s is on 1/5 so I'm waffling between sending at Xmas or waiting and sending 1/5 after I see the little one again. (I measured pretty far behind on my first u/s, so that's making me nervous.) I think DH wants to announce though, so I imagine he'll give me a nice pep talk. Plus we took a SUPER cute picture with us in NYE hats toasting with baby bottles so I have to use it, right???

MamaBish · December 2015

Yup. We told our families and a few close friends already but I'm nervous about telling the rest of the world.

** trigger warning**

The process of telling everyone about our loss last time was very hard. Of course, it wasn't at a point we could have hidden it anyway (28 weeks).

We will probably tell the world around New Years but only because I very clearly have pregnancy bloat. It's obvious and people are starting to notice. I just want to start a new year fresh and hopeful.

PugsandKisses · December 2015

MamaBish said:
Yup. We told our families and a few close friends already but I'm nervous about telling the rest of the world.

** trigger warning**

The process of telling everyone about our loss last time was very hard. Of course, it wasn't at a point we could have hidden it anyway (28 weeks).

We will probably tell the world around New Years but only because I very clearly have pregnancy bloat. It's obvious and people are starting to notice. I just want to start a new year fresh and hopeful.

Hugs @MamaBish . Your strength is amazing.

KyCade3013 · December 2015

As many people have said on threads ( my mom included) you are you and your situation is totally different than everyone else so don't worry about people's stories. I thought it would take several months to conceive because that happens to many friends, but it didn't (grateful & very lucky). Again reaffirming, you're not other people, you're you and your own personal situation. That said I still worry!! I'll be 9 weeks on Christmas and don't plan to tell anyone but have told my parents because I'd need my mom if anything happened. I'm ultra paranoid, but we do plan to tell at 11.5 weeks after my sons 2nd birthday party (Mid January).

TiffRox81 · December 2015

The answer to this is a definite yes for me! I've had two early losses. Each time I had told only a few people. I've already told those same few people this time because it was easiest since they knew about my past. However, I can tell they're all cautiously optimistic. Which then makes me even more nervous!! Strange enough I've been feeling good about this pregnancy but the full public disclosure is still unsettling. I think if we do do a social media announcement, it will be late into January. Until then it will be family at Christmas, and close friends as we see them in person. As PP's said, there's no "right" time. It's when it's best for YOU!!

noelietrex · December 2015

I'm a nervous nelly. The home doppler has been abused in light of this. As much as others have cautioned against them, checking for a heartbeat before sending holiday card/announcements and checking again today before flying home to tell people in person has been reassuring. I'll probably check again in a couple weeks before announcing on Facebook...

bunkie999 · December 2015

I am nervous especially now! Yesterday morning I noticed some blood after I whiped that quickly turned to brown old blood I'm 12weeks 2 days, I freaked and we went to the hospital. I guess everything with baby is fine and baby is moving and heartbeat is strong but I have a small bleed inbetween the placenta and uterine wall. We are announcing at Christmas, I think we are still going to do that but I may hold off on social media. I can say I was grateful for the people that did know I was pregnant yesterday (my mom and my best friend) cause they really helped keep me sane and as positive as possible. For now the doctor said its unknown.. But to rest and take it easy. So we are hopeful things will carry on and that the bleed has stopped I am still excited to tell my aunts uncles and cousins no matter what the outcome..

lnbuckley · December 2015

I am very nervous also. Our last pregnancy ended between 8-9 weeks (blighted ovum) but we did bloodwork this time at 4 weeks to check HCG levels and had an ultrasound at 7 weeks where everything looked good. We told our parents soon after we found out. I did tell the girls I work with. I teach in a preschool and we are all very close. They all knew I was doing fertility treatments. We are not making it public though and have not told our 7 year old son. Trying to wait until we have one more ultrasound before we do that. But my doctor doesn't seem to be in any rush to do one. Ah! I just found that even though it was very hard to share and go through the mc, having the girls at work to listen and share their stories (many of them had also been through it) was very comforting and helped me through the process.

kmk164 · December 2015

I am very nervous to announce even though I just passed the 12 week mark on Friday. This is our first baby and will be the first grandchild for my parents. We had planned to tell our parents and close family at Christmas but want to wait a little longer to go completely public with the news. I have a feeling my MIL will take it upon herself to tell everyone she sees regardless so I think that is part of why I'm hesitant. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one feeling this way!

msuzannah · December 2015

I'm super nervous! All of our close family knows (parents and siblings) and one cousin and one set of grandparents. I'm not doing a huge announcement though. I figure if I get asked then I'll be honest and currently the barfing and having a blump gives me away to anyone who really knows me! The only time we will make an official big announcement is when we post the sex of the baby on Facebook! I figure people who are close to us will know before the Facebook post anyways!

crooksy532 · December 2015

We're telling our families on Christmas. I'll be 10w4d. We were going to tell our friends next week but I'm super nervous. My practice only does 1 u/s at 20w so I have yet to have an u/s. No heartbeat at my 9w appointment but the midwife said my uterus is tilted so the baby is sitting towards my anal area, which is why they couldn't hear anything. I've had barely any symptoms from the start, but still feel extremely bloated and have tender breasts.

I hate to say anything until I have some reassurance.

pandamonium20 · December 2015

We are out, but I'm finding that I can't discuss it. I can't bring myself to respond to all the congratulations. When I feel the urge to tell someone new, I find the words stuck in my throat. I'm so petrified by past loss that I can't fully embrace this pregnancy for what it is. I'm 12 weeks and have a heartbeat but I lost my first at 16 weeks. I'm realizing lately that the impact goes further than I thought. I feel like there is no safe time and I'm just waiting for the bad thing to happen.

Sorry for being a downer this morning. I'm in a mood.

MamaBish · December 2015

pandaferh said:
We are out, but I'm finding that I can't discuss it. I can't bring myself to respond to all the congratulations. When I feel the urge to tell someone new, I find the words stuck in my throat. I'm so petrified by past loss that I can't fully embrace this pregnancy for what it is. I'm 12 weeks and have a heartbeat but I lost my first at 16 weeks. I'm realizing lately that the impact goes further than I thought. I feel like there is no safe time and I'm just waiting for the bad thing to happen.

Sorry for being a downer this morning. I'm in a mood.

I feel the same way. I made my DH tell everyone so far. I just can't say it.
Hugs!

elenabrent · December 2015

We've told most of our family and friends that live in town, but I can't bring myself to call my friends, even close ones, who I don't see in person all the time. Eventually we'll probably put something online, but for professional reasons it won't be for another month or two. I know I need to pick up the phone, but I'm just anxious enough. I thought after I hit 12 weeks or after we heart a heartbeat I would feel differently, but it's hard to get over the feeling that no matter what benchmarks you hit, there aren't any guarantees until you have a healthy baby in your arms.

rnyland1 · December 2015

I plan to NOT announce my pregnancy on Facebook. My mother is not very supportive of me at all and I can only imagine the hurtful things she'll say...a couple of friends of ours already know because they saw our ultrasound pic on our fridge...so anyways we are not trying to hide it but not trying to announce it to people either. Also i don't want my co-workers to know. We have layoffs coming up and that would be the perfect time for them to get rid of a pregnant lady without it seeming like I got let go because I was pregnant. Ugh.

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