New here! Need URGENT advice! On Ovidrel, trying to time intercourse

Superwomanof3 · December 2015

Superwomanof3 · December 2015

Superwomanof3 · December 2015

oh man I dont know where my post went. I am forty. I am on 50mg clomid and took my ovidrel shot at 630pm yesterday. I was told to BD tonight and tomorrow. I realized after talking to my husband, he has his child over tonight in the middle of the day and most of the evening so we have either 1pm to BD or 10pm. I called the clinic to ask which time would be best to BD, they said 10pm but if we can do both 1pm and 10pm to do so and then do 10pm tomorrow. I could do 1pm tomorrow instead of 10pm but want advice! I posted about this in babycenter this morning, but no one answered so we missed our 1pm BD today, and were going to BD at 10pm tonight. Doesn't it hurt his sperm build up if you have sex twice on one day? I am SO confused!!!!! Please share advice. I am often getting a couple different suggestions from my clinic and called another one but since I am not a client yet with clinic #2 they wont give me advice so Im relying on my gut instinct and also your suggestions. I only worry, because twice in one day? Sounds weird to me. I dont know. Sometimes, I wonder are they trying NOT to get me pregnant so I do IVF!!! Please help. Im sure they know what their doing but I find it often confusing talking to them on a regular basis. One nurse says this, another says this. What would you do is the question. What is your opinion on this?

MrsDepo · December 2015

Well when you have an IUI sometimes they will tell you to have sex in the evening after DH has given the sample in the morning, so I assume it is the same thing really. No reason not to trust them on this.

Superwomanof3 · December 2015

thank you for your answer. I am not on IUI this cycle. I had two different answers so I am seeing which one I follow. Confused! What would you say? Gut instinct if this was you?

MrsDepo · December 2015

I would trust the doctor on this one.

ColeM91 · December 2015

I was given the same advice. To BD at least once a day. If DH has no issues I would say twice. I agree with mrsdepo. You give a sample and BD that same day so it is one in the same. Best of luck.

riveridgional · December 2015

If DH has no issues, BDing twice is no issue. As a general rule, I would follow your doctor's advice.

Superwomanof3 · December 2015

thank you . My hubby has slow motility but a high count. So we did not BD twice in one day and followed doctor orders #1 (not doc #2). We bded the afternoon yesterday, and going to BD tonight too to be safe. I definitely could feel the ovulation pains yesterday and had a positive OPK surge. So we went for the afternoon slot instead of evening, because of his slow motility,. I was concerned it missing the egg in time. We BDed last night too, and then again tonight. I believe we got it all covered. Now, were pretty beat. LOL. I do have two big mature eggs this cycle, usually only one big mature egg, so Im really crossing my fingers.

Superwomanof3 · December 2015

hi there again, I am overlooking your information on what you went through already. Congrats on your last trigger success! Was their a schedule you followed during your successful cycle? I am just so curious to know what it was. Also, I heard clomid can decrease your lining if your getting too much, is that why yours decreased? The doctor did want to increase my dosage, but per my progesterone test last month, the clomid is working so why would he want to increase it. Age? My brother in law is quite weary of me increasing dosage. He was a med student and didnt agree with doc. I am going to get a 2nd opinion because mine constantly pushes IVF, IUI and nothing else. I asked for a sperm cleanse for my husband, but they said that wont matter. Well, when you do IUI they do it anyways so obviously, it could matter. LOL. I just dont trust my doc. Its sad to say, but I dont. I dont want to do IVF because if it is unsuccessful, then I will be staring at my empty bank account even more depressed it didnt work. And I see that happens, to many of us women. I just dont think I could handle it emotionally. IUI is another story, but Id rather stay on triggers than go that route next. This is my first trigger and 2nd cycle on clomid.

riveridgional · December 2015

So sorry for the delay in responding! Thanks for the congrats! My doctor recommended timed intercourse because our post coital test results were great. Statistically speaking, there would have been no measurable increase in success with IUI base on our results. If your husband has slow swimmers, I'm not sure what the difference in success rates may be and whether the difference is big enough for you to choose iui v ti given your finances, feelings on iui, etc. Have you had a postcoital test done yet? In case not, basically you BD the night before and then the next morning, they take a sample from your cervix and see how many normal looking sperm are still alive and swimming. My doctor seemed to rely on this test a bit more than it seems other doctors have to determine whether iui or ti was more appropriate. Then again, maybe it's because other people had insurance coverage for iui, so why not try it? My doctor was very mindful of the expense of fertility treatments and tried to keep everything as cheap as possible.

On my successful cycle (as well as the unsuccessful ones), I took my trigger between 8-10 am. We were then instructed to BD that night and the next night and the next night or morning if we felt like it but that the first 2 nights were key. On our successful cycle we had a slight "issue" on the prescribed 2nd night of BD. Occasionally my husband suffers under the stress of mandated BD times especially when (like that night) we had separate plans and truly need to schedule the deed to be done at a certain time. He was having a little trouble getting into it so we had to change up the foreplay a little and he went from nothing to not waiting before we could actually start having sex. This had NEVER happened to him before and I'm not gonna lie, I was devastated and thought we blew our chances. We cancelled our plans and waited about an hour and a half or 2 hours then did it correctly! Worried maybe he didn't have too much that time, I woke him up about 5:30-6am and we did it again.

Re: clomid, since I had done 2 unmonitored rounds of Clomid 50 without success (with ny OB) and we knew our BD was properly timed based on temping, my RE decided to up my dose because he was thinking I perhaps wasn't really responding any better to 50 mg than my natural cycle. So, we tried 100 mg. I was worried about the increased dose, thinking we would have 5 or more mature follicles. Afterall, I ovulated on my own so how could this not produce multiple, right? Well, I went in on CD 13 for monitoring and only had 1 mature follicle no others were even close. My lining was also very thin at 5.3. My RE said that he thinks Clomid was reducing my chances of pregnancy. He thinks even the 50 was thinning my lining. Also, due to the result of only 1 egg, he suspected we have some type of ovulatory dysfunction where perhaps my eggs are being released unmatured or overmatured. He stated we just needed to get the timing right and injectables would give me more and higher quality eggs.

I'm sorry you don't trust your doctor. This process really requires so much faith in them and their recommendations, that I would recommend shopping for a new one to find a doctor you like and trust.

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