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Oh her hormones drive me wild! NOT!

NINIC010386NINIC010386 member
in July 2016 Moms
Preface: my wife is carrying...I am not!

Insight: Today someone took her hormone level notch up to ten. Omg! If I could die...I would be dead. All of my beautiful preggos please remember your partner is not the punching bag. We know your boobs hurt.....you are exhausted....and if you could you could eat the house and home you would...but seriously breathe and reboot! Sometimes a few extra...mindful moments are appreciated before you speak your mind.


Love you all hand thanks for always listening.
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Re: Oh her hormones drive me wild! NOT!

  • PinkLady2015PinkLady2015 member

    soooo wondering how this thread is gonna fly....

    Kidding...sorta... I feel for ya. I really do. I know I have snapped at DH for no reason and have felt awful about it. Just know that it's not personal and the hormones may make those extra mindful moments not possible!! You may need to figure out a strategy to deal with things when SO is just acting cray... whether that means walking away, using humor to lighten the situation or just having to concede, apologize for whatever and move on. I'm sure she feels terrible and sorta outta control too, just keep that in mind!!!
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  • msuzannahmsuzannah member
    I think my husband can agree with you 100% on this. Pregnancy is hard on both people! I'm sorry it's been rough. Like pp said try your best to calm the situation down with humour or and apology or whatever it needs! I know for me personally after I've been a hormonal monster I realize I'm being ridiculous and am able to apologize and move on from the situation. Good luck!
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  • HRielyHRiely member
    I think that we do need to try our best to be mindful of what we say when we're so hormonal but on the other hand, I think that our partner needs to understand that it's not really us talking. We feel completely different and already feel bad enough as it is, without our partners making us feel worse. We may be extra sensitive and cry or get our feelings hurt and say something hurtful but that is our hormones being out of wack. Being pregnant sucks; especially the first trimester for most of us; we need support.

    I am not saying that it is okay at all to use your pregnancy as an excuse to abuse your partner but I think most of us are just out of our element, don't know how to deal with the hormones surging through our bodies and want it all to stop, knowing we can't make it stop which frustrates us more.




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  • mamafox14mamafox14 member
    These hormones are not within my control, human growing is so much harder than people tell you. It may be irrational at times, but for the most part my husband gives me a free pass because he's trying to be understanding. I will tell you that the most frustrating and upsetting thing to me is when someone tells me I'm being moody or bitchy because I already know that and I'm having an issue controlling my emotions clearly and things like that upset me even more. Maybe some people have an easier time but I'll tell you, it's an emotional rollercoaster.
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  • LinzerBinzerLinzerBinzer member
    I definitely fly off the handle. Then I have a snack and apologize a few minutes later. I can tell when I'm going a little crazy, but for some weird reason I can't stop... I think understanding on both sides is key.

    That being said I get the need to vent sometimes.
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  • TaymillerTaymiller member
    So true @juliagulia38 when DH tells me I am being moody or to calm down it only makes my blood boil more. It's like when he would ask "are you on your period or something?" Worst thing ever, it makes me want to kick him in the nuts.
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  • juliagulia38juliagulia38 member
    Taymiller said:

    So true @juliagulia38 when DH tells me I am being moody or to calm down it only makes my blood boil more. It's like when he would ask "are you on your period or something?" Worst thing ever, it makes me want to kick him in the nuts.

    One time DH and I were having a fight in front of his mom (I should have walked away so we weren't in front of anyone) anyways, MIL told me I needed to calm down. All shit broke loose. I lost it in her. DH had to basically push me out of the room. Oh and I was pregnant. Later that night MiL told DH that she was sorry he had to deal with me and he married me.
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  • born2run911born2run911 member
    My husband has also been taking a lot of bitch lately. It really does suck being constantly sick and exhausted, but he is not deserving of how I treat him sometimes and j honestly can't help it. These really can be some trying times, you just gotta stick together, grin and bear it, and know that there are happier times ahead. It's all worth it in the end.
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  • NINIC010386NINIC010386 member
    Agreed with the food part! She is always more calm and happy after having eaten. Perfect example was this evening. She came home upset and irritated wanting to take out the world...then I fed her and she was like a brand new woman! We even cuddled. Lol!
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  • DobbysSockDobbysSock member
    So, my first reaction to reading your post was to feel super defensive for myself (and your wife). But then I took a deep breath (good advice) and tried to see it from your/my husband's side.

    It's likely not fully in her control. In that moment, she might not be capable of taking a deep breath and rebooting. You just have to be patient with her and supportive of her and remind yourself that this will pass. I guarantee you, as frustrating/painful as it is for you it's at least as if not more frustrating and painful for her. We don't LIKE losing control of our emotions, we don't WANT to be mean to the person we love most. Also keep in mind that maybe you're saying/doing things that come across as insensitive or hurtful to her, as she  may be feeling more sensitive than usual. For example, DH recently made a joke that would have been fine 3 months ago, but right now it's not something I'm able to laugh at myself over.

    What works best for my husband is just being extra loving and supportive in that moment, apologizing or accommodating whatever it is that I'm upset about, or just getting really quiet. Once he doesn't fight back I pretty quickly recognize that I'm being unfair and will apologize and thank him for not fighting back and making it worse.
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  • stephweinsteinstephweinstein member
    juliagulia38 said:

    Unless you've been pregnant, don't judge. It's hard and affects every one differently. You need to learn how to deal with her. This is my third pregnancy and by far the "easiest" because DH and I have been through it twice. It's an adjustment for both partners. The last thing I want to hear when I'm in a mood, is to calm down or stop being so moody. Be patient with her.

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  • megthmegth member
    NINIC010386 said:
    Thank you all for your candor. Truly. I know that I need to be supportive and understand that pregnancy is a roller coaster...I understand that the body is at work and too busy to worry about how things sound to other people. In just wish I could wave a magic wand called the second trimester and she would feel a little better than how she does now.
    LOL the 2nd trimester isn't always a cake walk. And just wait till the baby is here. Practice your patience now.
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