I don't want to tell anyone about this pregnancy. Like, at all. I am going out for a sushi night with my best friend and I'm annoyed that I will have to say something because I won't be drinking. (yes, I will order cooked sushi)
STM here - I am in no rush to announce this pregnancy. I'm savoring the fact I can have conversations with my friends that don't revolve around New Baby.
My friend gave DS (he's 4) a ton of her son's old Skylanders and the Xbox game. I taught him how to play and then let him go to nuts for two hours yesterday while DD was at kindergarten so I could take a blissful nap.
Last week I couldn't wait for my beta results over the weekend, so I found a place online that gave me an order for a beta blood draw promising 24 hour turn around at a walkin clinic. For $39 I was given my beta results two days sooner even though my doctor took blood that very same day. I am debating on getting another one, even though my doctors office cut me off on betas.
I don't want to tell my MIL that I'm pregnant...I fear she will call me literally every day to see how I am. Nothing will drive me crazier.
In fact I'm with you ladies, I don't want anyone to know for a while. It's been nice to have it as a secret between me and DH, we have so few of those.
I hate The Bump right now...I can't get the stupid ticker to work in my signature, so I deleted my whole sig out of frustration. I've also never been able to successfully GIF :'-(
I don't really want to tell my parents. I kind of want them to hear it from someone else.
Backstory. We have had a super rocky relationship lately. My mom plays little games as power moves cause drama between everyone and when I confronted my parents about it, they acted as though nothing has ever happened and started becoming very rude to me. So I decided to step back from dealing with them and figured they would reach out when they were ready...
Well here we are almost 6 months later and the most I have heard from them was a snippy fb message about how I'm being ridiculous and then asked if they could take my son for the weekend... um, no... I told them they could see him for an afternoon if they came over to talk things out. They threw a fit and sad no.
So now I'm announcing to close family Christmas and I finally called since they obviously wont (first phone call in 6mo) and asked them if they wanted to come over for dinner christmas and they simply said no and that they're busy.
I finally figured out the ticker thing! (I was so excited I thought I'd tell you all) LOL
@WinchesterGirl I've been noticing those special snowflakes invading the board. I don't like it either.
I'm right there with all of you about telling people. I'm extremely excited to tell all of them, but at the same time I'm scared. Once we tell our families I feel like an extra stress will be put on me for this pregnancy to be viable. Last time I lost the pregnancy before we told anyone but our parents. I'm just worried about having to tell that many people we lost the baby if it does happen again. I think I officially need to adopt some of DH's optimism.
I'm looking forward to telling my family, but I am worried they will think it is "too soon" in our marriage.
We've only been married for a few months, but we're married - It's forever. This year or next, we won't be any less married, and it's not like the years we were dating just magically stopped existing when we signed paperwork. Honestly, a big part of why we got married is we wanted to formalize it before we had a child.
The timing works for us, we feel ready and much longer and it WOULDN'T work for us. DH is nearly 40 (38)- we talked about it before we got married, and we wanted to be one and done before he turned 40, and if it didn't happen in three years, we would look into adopting an older child. I've been taking seizure meds for 10+ years, and the doctors deemed me healthy enough to be off of them "right now." - another year, maybe not, who knows? We didn't make this decision lightly, or irresponsibly...
I hope they are able to just be happy, for us, and for the new addition, and let go of their ideas about the month and year we "should" have a baby. (Getting pregnant next March to Aug) We're just happy we have one on the way, after months a trying, and in the perfect storm of when I am physically able.
@Allisun85 thanks - I will try again I'm not the best with technology but this should not be difficult!!
And about it being "too soon" - don't give it another thought. You and DH are the only ones who know when the right time is for you. If you're confident in your decision, others will be too. Even if there's initial judgment, it'll fade.
I've been feeling kind of down lately for no good reason. I tell DH I'm exhausted when sometimes I'm just sad and can't explain why.
This is not flammable. This needs to be discussed with your doctor. You don't have to feel this way. There are resources out there to help you feel better. Do not delay calling your OB.
@Allisun85 having a baby is about the timing that works for you, not everyone else! DS was a honeymoon baby and everyone was so shocked with how quick it was but it was the right time for us and that's what really matters.
@mbherbst I'm sorry you're feeling so down. I second talking to your doctor about this, they can provide resources for you to get support.
My FFFC is that I've let DS watch way more tv this last week than I ever would have before, but it's the only way I can get a minute to rest! And he's so snuggley when we watch together which is the sweetest
I'm also allowing more TV than normal. My son fell in love with "Woody Buzz" when I let him watch Toy Story. Itse played so much in the last week we went out and bought Toy Story 2.
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I think raw sushi is gross. It looks slimy.
The special snowflakes have invaded the board the last few days, and I don't like it.
In fact I'm with you ladies, I don't want anyone to know for a while. It's been nice to have it as a secret between me and DH, we have so few of those.
I hate The Bump right now...I can't get the stupid ticker to work in my signature, so I deleted my whole sig out of frustration. I've also never been able to successfully GIF :'-(
Backstory. We have had a super rocky relationship lately. My mom plays little games as power moves cause drama between everyone and when I confronted my parents about it, they acted as though nothing has ever happened and started becoming very rude to me. So I decided to step back from dealing with them and figured they would reach out when they were ready...
Well here we are almost 6 months later and the most I have heard from them was a snippy fb message about how I'm being ridiculous and then asked if they could take my son for the weekend... um, no... I told them they could see him for an afternoon if they came over to talk things out. They threw a fit and sad no.
So now I'm announcing to close family Christmas and I finally called since they obviously wont (first phone call in 6mo) and asked them if they wanted to come over for dinner christmas and they simply said no and that they're busy.
I'm right there with all of you about telling people. I'm extremely excited to tell all of them, but at the same time I'm scared. Once we tell our families I feel like an extra stress will be put on me for this pregnancy to be viable. Last time I lost the pregnancy before we told anyone but our parents. I'm just worried about having to tell that many people we lost the baby if it does happen again. I think I officially need to adopt some of DH's optimism.
I'm looking forward to telling my family, but I am worried they will think it is "too soon" in our marriage.
We've only been married for a few months, but we're married - It's forever. This year or next, we won't be any less married, and it's not like the years we were dating just magically stopped existing when we signed paperwork. Honestly, a big part of why we got married is we wanted to formalize it before we had a child.
The timing works for us, we feel ready and much longer and it WOULDN'T work for us. DH is nearly 40 (38)- we talked about it before we got married, and we wanted to be one and done before he turned 40, and if it didn't happen in three years, we would look into adopting an older child. I've been taking seizure meds for 10+ years, and the doctors deemed me healthy enough to be off of them "right now." - another year, maybe not, who knows? We didn't make this decision lightly, or irresponsibly...
I hope they are able to just be happy, for us, and for the new addition, and let go of their ideas about the month and year we "should" have a baby. (Getting pregnant next March to Aug) We're just happy we have one on the way, after months a trying, and in the perfect storm of when I am physically able.
mrsmd1224 Sometimes the code gets a little screwy and it helps to hit the </> button and check for things wrong.
The ticker I just straight pasted the code into the window when it was in the "code" window. That seems to have worked!
And about it being "too soon" - don't give it another thought. You and DH are the only ones who know when the right time is for you. If you're confident in your decision, others will be too. Even if there's initial judgment, it'll fade.
This is not flammable. This needs to be discussed with your doctor. You don't have to feel this way. There are resources out there to help you feel better. Do not delay calling your OB.
@mbherbst I'm sorry you're feeling so down. I second talking to your doctor about this, they can provide resources for you to get support.
My FFFC is that I've let DS watch way more tv this last week than I ever would have before, but it's the only way I can get a minute to rest! And he's so snuggley when we watch together which is the sweetest
Baby O born 7/17/12
Baby3 due 8/4/16