May 2016 Moms

Awesome Parents/In-Laws

I hope this isn't in poor taste given how horrifyingly awful some of us on this board have it with our families.  

But I also wanted to make a space for some awesomeness, in part because it's nice to remember what sanity looks like and also because I want to shout from the rooftops how lucky I am to have the family I have.

The sweet things my mom did today:
1.  She was making the family holiday card and called to ask me if it was okay to announce the baby.  I'd already announced on FB, but she thought this would have a different audience and she knows how superstitious I am and she just wanted to make sure I was okay with it before she included it.
2.  She scheduled a day in her planner during the holidays to take me big-city maternity clothes shopping, since where I live has next to nothing.
3.  She (her own idea, totally voluntary, I didn't even think to ask) re-scheduled a doctor's appointment she had so that she can come with me and DH when we go house-hunting since neither of us know what we're doing, house-wise.

I know not everyone wants so much involvement from their moms, but I definitely do: she's my rock and a badass and I trust her on pretty much everything. 

My MIL is pretty great, too.  We live near her, and she's had six kids of her own and watched her own six siblings have their own sets of kids (seriously, DH's family is *huge*), but she is the least fussy and most encouraging MIL you could ask for. She always asks how I'm feeling, and whatever I say she reassures me it's totally normal, and she only volunteers advice when I ask (which I do all the damn time because she's like a baby-making pro). This is her first grandkid, and I know she's upset that my career is taking DH and I away from her in August (we're moving to the east coast for my job from where we are in the midwest), but she's never said anything negative--I can just see it in her eyes while she's telling us how happy she is that I'm moving up in my career.

Anyway, I feel so completely blessed and thankful, and I'm sure I'm not the only one with awesomeness to share!

Re: Awesome Parents/In-Laws

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  • I hit the lottery with parents and in laws as well.  My parents live far away, but DH and I have a great relationship with them.  My in laws live 20min away, and in my opinion - the perfect distance.  My MIL was my biggest support and cheerleader when our twins were in the nicu.  She told me I was already a good mom and she always told me she was impressed with my dedication to pumping.  She never had to say these things - it was enough just to have her there physically - but she did.  I will forever be grateful.

    My dad and FIL are like long-lost brothers. They plan golf outings together.  I'm sure they will be vacationing together when my dad retires.  I swear they tell their friends that they introduced DH and I, but really, they would never have met without us!
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    Mama to Three Girls: 
    Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
    and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!






  • I have ranted about my DH step-dad cause he is a cranky cermudgeon but the rest of my in-laws are fantastic.

    I genuinely love both my MILs. DHs mom lives with us while she sorts out her retirement and works in town and shuttles back and forth to her home and her husband on weekends. She is so supportive and really the person I want to be my birth coach (if my mom wasn't an entitled crazy person). She is such a generous person! She purchased us a stroller, as well as found me a brand-new yet "second hand" $300 breast pump for $150 and offered to pay for it! Just because... Even though I told her I fully entended to pay for both myself! She wants to be very involved but still greatly respects our boundaries about opinions on baby related stuff.

    My SMIL is equally fantastic. I call her any and every time there is something going on with me that I just can't deal and she will just sit and listen and be supportive. Never judgemental and always on my side... She is so great. I wish we lived closer to her!! She is so excited about all the babies in her life (my SIL is also pregnant!) and always messages me to ask how I am feeling and genuinely wants to know...

    My FIL is also great but he is just a big kid and likes to make jokes and be the funny dad.

    My mom... Crazy. Love her but overbearing and I already posted about HER vision of MY birth.

    My dad on the other hand, is being so great. My mom invited herself to stay with us after baby is born. She asked my dad if he wanted to come with her and he said "No, it's ok. I will meet baby when they come in the summer. I want to let them bond and not be in the way" *hallelujah!!* this is why I love my dad. He actually recognized that I may not want people to be bugging me RIGHT after baby is born!! I love you daddy... <3

  • They sent me flowers when my grandpa died. This is a big deal for me. I love flowers and I never get them. I was so touched they're still on my counter even though they're dead.

    If the dead flowers aren't dry yet, you can hang them upside down so they dry faster/straighter, and then keep them in a vase forever:)

    If they are already dry, there's a whole bunch of crafty things you can do with them to commemorate the awesomeness. Like, making potpourri or dried flower art!
  • dshannah said:


    They sent me flowers when my grandpa died. This is a big deal for me. I love flowers and I never get them. I was so touched they're still on my counter even though they're dead.

    If the dead flowers aren't dry yet, you can hang them upside down so they dry faster/straighter, and then keep them in a vase forever:)

    If they are already dry, there's a whole bunch of crafty things you can do with them to commemorate the awesomeness. Like, making potpourri or dried flower art!
    No they're brown and gross lol and starting to stink...I need to throw them out, but I just can't yet lol I used to be able to dry them out for potpourri...that's what I've always done in the past, but I can't figure it out anymore...the flowers just get gross! DH bought me roses for my bday that got moldy...I've decided it's something with the house lol maybe someday I'll figure it out again :)
  • Hang them upside down in a room with a fan? Maybe it's too humid this year:(
  • My mom is amazing. She is going through a lot right now and DH and I moved and live an hour and a half away from her now instead of half an hour, but she is still amazing. She's been my best friend since I was a little girl.

    My MIL and SFIL are amazing. I am so blessed to have them in my life. I will go visit them while DH is at work, I'll go over to just spend time with my MIL. I just love them to pieces. They are very supportive of the both of us and very helpful. She's already offered to babysit for us in October because my best friend is getting married and I'm in the wedding. She wants us to be able to go and have  a good time. :)

    I feel so blessed to have such an amazing MIL because some people just don't get that lucky. My other best friend and her MIL are constantly butting heads and just do not get along. They never have. Honestly I feel like it's jealousy on the MILs part..

    Me: 31

    DH: 29, SA - Great

    Married: June 12,2011

    TTC #1: 1/2014

    Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea

    Treatment: Clomid:  50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored

                      Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI  IUI #1 8/31/2015

    9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!
    Heartbeat 10/2/2015: 118bpm
    DS: 5/27/2016

    TTC# 2: 12/2017
    BFP: 4/20/2018
    EDD: 12/29/2018
  • My parents are wonderful, which is kind of surprising to hear myself say because my mom and I didn't get along AT ALL until I turned 30 and then POOF now everything is great! I think she's just better at being a parent to an adult than a kid/teenager/20-something who was not all settled down like she was at that age. And my dad has always been awesome, which is incredible given that he came from a very abusive home and somehow knew how to be a great dad anyway. SNIFF... love them.

    My in laws are great too - though they did get me possum fur gloves on a recent trip. Which is kind of gross. But it's the thought that counts!
  • dshannah said:

    Hang them upside down in a room with a fan? Maybe it's too humid this year:(

    I think that's the problem. My house gets humid so easily! Maybe my next flowers should be kept in the basement...hm. now you have me thinking!
  • My parents definitely fall into this camp. They have been completely respectful of every decision I have made for the new baby, and really are my best friends. Every time I talk to my mother, she asks how I'm feeling, and if I even mention something is off, she offers to bring over food/medicine or take something off my hands. She has even talked to me about switching her schedule to help with the baby because she knows I do not want them in daycare more than necessary, but she does it in a way so it is still my decision.

    My father is just as excited, but I love how his eyes light up when my mother talks about it. You can tell he knows she will be an amazing grandmother (he will be a wonderful grandparent as well), but I love how proud he is of her.

    My husband really loves my parents so that makes things so much easier when I ask them to stop by to discuss things randomly. Every time we talk about going somewhere, he always includes my parents (i.e. We should take your parents to Universal Studios, We should take them to California, etc.). It makes me love him even more.

    My MIL has been good - we've never been close, but she has made an effort to reach out and check on me, which I appreciate. She told my DH and I that the first grand child who is a girl, she will call "Lil Rosie" after her, regardless of the child's name... I told my husband he had to shut that down if that was the case :)

    Just feel really blessed all around.
  • My mom is the bomb!
  • totally lucky here too! All 4 Grandparents are great and really involved.

    Thank goodness my mom is a teacher and will have the summer off to help me with the twins and older kids! My MIL is retired - she's so kind and thoughtful!
  • edited December 2015
    Some of these make me cry they are just so sweet.  So wonderful to have a great family support system, it seems so rare.  Something money cannot buy and something so special beyond measure.
  • kbrands7kbrands7 member
    edited December 2015
    I'm very lucky to have my parents and grandparents too. They can be a little overbearing at times (except for my grandfather), but they are usually eager to help and are excited about DH's and my family. My mom also quit her job to watch DS while I am at work, which is an amazing blessing. I know I can count on her when I need her. My dad and grandfather go out of their way to help DH with larger home projects and remodels, and my dad even built a dining room table for us when I couldn't find a large enough one in our price range. My mom really hit the jackpot with him when she remarried after divorcing my biological dad. He has never treated me as anything less than his own child. My grandmother has been wonderful about keeping our family heritage alive, passing down stories, recipes and techniques, Italian blessings, and the occasional insult. Both she and my grandfather are extremely protective, sometimes to a fault. My grandfather especially has really taken to DH from the beginning and helped him to really feel like part of the family. My grandmother-in-law is wonderful too, though we don't get to see her often. She took in DH when he was a teenager and his family was crumbling, and has treated me as family from the first time I met her when DH and I started dating years ago. She is an incredibly sweet woman. DH speaks very highly of both of his grandfathers who were great role models to him too, though they unfortunately both passed away shortly before he and I started dating, so I never got the chance to meet them.
  • @laurenmdrn16 Your relationship with your mom reminds me a lot of my relationship with my mom. :) It's awesome to have a mom that's also your best friend. When I have a free weekend and head to where I use to live she is the first person I call to see if she is free.

    Me: 31

    DH: 29, SA - Great

    Married: June 12,2011

    TTC #1: 1/2014

    Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea

    Treatment: Clomid:  50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored

                      Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI  IUI #1 8/31/2015

    9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!
    Heartbeat 10/2/2015: 118bpm
    DS: 5/27/2016

    TTC# 2: 12/2017
    BFP: 4/20/2018
    EDD: 12/29/2018
  • I wanted to add to mine... My father took the day off yesterday and built me surprise shelves in my laundry room because I had complained about storage there. It was so sweet and thoughtful.

    This is on top that my parents go by my house everyday to let my dogs out since I work so far away and can't go at lunch. They are just wonderful.
  • I have an awesome mom too! She helps me with my in home childcare anytime just because she wants to make my life easier. She always wants to take care of me when I'm sick or hurt. She goes above and beyond for me all the time.
  • My mom and my in-laws all live far away, and I'm pretty bummed about it because they're all AWESOME! They've been so supportive during pregnancy, and are so excited about the baby it's adorable. My in-laws will spoil the baby rotten, but I don't mind. The last time we visited them, we came back with a suitcase full of presents for my brothers kids.. They're not even their grandkids, and they only met them once at our wedding.. but they are just so giving and love to make little ones happy.
  • Our immediate family has been wonderful! Our baby already has a ton of toys and clothes. They regularly call to check on our health?If I'm eating? and if I need anything?
    We are very lucky
  • My mom is amazing. She is the rock for our family and the most nurturing and hard-working person I know. She is a nurse and always takes such good care of anyone who is feeling ill.  I love her sense of whimsy, her goofiness,  her practicality, how giddy and school-girlish she gets from one light beer. Lots of my friends have said they'd like to marry my brother just to have my mother as their MIL.My dad has a terrible, wildly inappropriate sense of humor but he is kind, welcoming and gives everyone a chance. He was a guidance counselor and he has a talent for talking to everyone with respect and compassion. 
    My brother is probably a little too brilliant with a wicked sense of humor. He also has the gentlest heart when it comes to animals. We get in knock-down, drag-out debates even though we generally agree on everything.

    I adore my parents in law too. They bring such joy and laughter into everything. MIL has the best laugh and she is always doing kind things for people. They live in Honduras and could be described as "Middle-class" in a country with a few obscenely rich people and lots of very poor people. MIL has a whole group of families she helps to support with clothing, books and such. She has adopted a group of dogs near their home in the country and is always asking for things like flea collars to keep them healthy.  FIL is so gentle, studious and loving. He gives great hugs and always thinks I understand way more Spanish than I actually do. My BIL is very suave and fashionable and fancies himself a real lothario. But he is also incredibly thoughtful--- I'll never forget how he helped my dad, bad ankles and all, climb the Mayan ruins in Copan. 

    Love them all. 




  • My dad is the most amazing father I know. I was extremely blessed to have been adopted into their family! I'm so sad we live states away. When they were up visiting fr Thanksgiving and learned mil doesn't even want to talk about the baby [She has tunnel vision and right now her focus is bil's wedding so she doesn't want to hear about the, "extra stress."], my dad offered to fly either him or my mom up one weekend a month so I wouldn't be alone in my excitement/ planning for baby. I cried and I'm crying again cause I miss them so much.
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