How often do you get out with your hubby & NO kids?

june2016baby · December 2015

I'm just thinking that maybe my husband and I should try to get out (just us) a few times before the baby comes. We got out a lot when we just had one baby, but haven't had much time to ourselves in the past 6 years since baby number two. It's been a whopping 7 years since we've spent a night without kids. As for going out, we've been out of the house 5 times total without kids! It's so pathetic! What about everyone else?

on3in2015 · December 2015

Yaaa never. Ha ha We don't have family living anywhere near us so we don't have anyone we would trust with our kids. When we visit family (this happens twice a year) we try to squeeze in a date. Sometimes it happens, sometimes not.

theatremandy · December 2015

We have family nearby, but feel bad asking them to watch all 3. We will go out on New Year's to go to a no kids wedding reception, and then hubby's holiday party mid-Jan.

Emztron500 · December 2015

We go out WITH our toddler all the time (even though it's often kind of a nightmare these days), but as for going out without kids...I think just the two anniversary dates we've had since she was born. We're lame and she's clingy :P

sorarose · December 2015

We rarely go out by ourselves unless grandparents are in town. We do have a babysitter we used for special occasions, but I can count those times on one or two fingers.

fishwife799 · December 2015

Maybe 2-3 times a year. We go on our anniversary and occasionally I can convince him to take me to dinner. We did go to a music festival in July of this year for 3 days and that was so much fun. We had actually bought our tickets for next year but surprise, we're having a baby. So we won't be going next year. We are planning on returning every year after that though.

ETA- we live in the same town as both sets of our parents. His actually live on our property so if we go late they just come in the house and watch the kids for us. It's so nice to have that.

ufsandra85 · December 2015

3 times maybe, we don't live near family but had a nice babysitter

Atlast111 · December 2015

I read this thread as as a FTM and now feel a little depressed....haha.

VikingGirl12 · December 2015

We have been out on a "date" one time since DS was born. We love taking him everywhere with us but it is probably time for us to get some alone time again. We both work so much that we feel like we hardly get to see him otherwise. A lot of my friends think I'm crazy and tell me how important it is for us to go out wo him, but we are happy

shainaellis · December 2015

Atlast111 said:
I read this thread as as a FTM and now feel a little depressed....haha.

Hahah @Atlast111 don't feel depressed! It has a lot to do with you and your SO and if you have people you trust close by

my DH and I have a lot of family close by and they are always asking if they can take DD so we get a fair amount of date nights which is really nice!

PressLove · December 2015

Am I the unicorn around here? At one point, we were getting out at least once a month. We don't live near family, but we have a huge village of friends. DD's daycare is open to 7pm. Sometimes, we leave her at school a little later so that we can catch a movie or go to happy hour.

My dad always said that it's easy to get people to watch one child. So, we have friends to volunteer. We used those once or twice. On special nights where we'll be out late, we hired a sitter. Most of of her daycare workers babysit on the side. Thus, DS knows her sitter and we know they are fully trained and capable.

Rawa1416 · December 2015

It doesn't always happen but we aim for having date night every other week. Sometimes that means we have a night in though.

june2016baby · December 2015

PressLove said:
Am I the unicorn around here? At one point, we were getting out at least once a month. We don't live near family, but we have a huge village of friends. DD's daycare is open to 7pm. Sometimes, we leave her at school a little later so that we can catch a movie or go to happy hour.

My dad always said that it's easy to get people to watch one child. So, we have friends to volunteer. We used those once or twice. On special nights where we'll be out late, we hired a sitter. Most of of her daycare workers babysit on the side. Thus, DS knows her sitter and we know they are fully trained and capable.

I agree, when we had just one, we got out. But after number 2 and 3 it got hard. Part of the problem, is that by the time we had more kids, our siblings had them too.

marriedtoadutchman · December 2015

Not as often as we like but once a month? Our neighbour is our babysitter so that helps:)

CourtJack · December 2015

We play softball once a week all summer. My MIL rocks and she comes over every Tuesday night to watch the kids and we go out. She always says it's important that you have alone time doing something you both enjoy so she insists that she come over to watch the kids. Winter time we don't get out much but given how social we are in the summer-that's fine by me. I don't expect that to change much with another. (I hope!)

itsStackie · December 2015

At least once a month. Both of our parents love having DD over to spend the night. But we are also in the phase where we have a kid while our friends are starting to get married and such. When I worked we would have date lunches/days on occasion while DD was in daycare.
I'm sure it may take a while before I send both off with parents, but both of our siblings have two kids and our parents watch their kids time to time too.

Also wanted to add, that my mom used to send us off to grandma's for close to a month, every summer with our other cousins. She knows I hope for the same hospitality one day.

cmillar36 · December 2015

We try for at least once a month. All our family lives here though.

scotten · December 2015

Atlast111 said:
I read this thread as as a FTM and now feel a little depressed....haha.

I'm a STM, and this makes me a little depressed too! We certainly don't go out as much as we did before our DD, but we try to make a point to have time together alone. That doesn't always mean date night! We have been fortunate enough to go on three different trips this year without our toddler (anniversary vacation, wedding and husband's work retreat). But I can't tell you the last time we went to dinner alone. You will figure out what works best for you and your SO!

MrsOdom2488 · December 2015

We shoot for once a month. Sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn't. Our family lives close to us also do it helps.

Atlast111 · December 2015

@shainaellis. @scotten. You are right. We are very lucky that we have our in laws next door. They never intrude on our privacy but are there when we need them. So it will be easy to have them come round or drop children off. Would like to get out once a week if possible. Maybe I'm dreaming....lol.

Huskerfanz · December 2015

At least once a month, often 2-3 times. Its just DS and our parents are both local.

Not sure what will happen after the triplets m. My sister and her H will live closer but Sil is having a baby so ILs will be busier. I bet we'll get out for a quick bite to eat.

bio-oesch · December 2015

We try for once a mth, but we fall out of that rut easily. We have family close by, but they are watching other grand babies too so they're not always available. They will watch all their grand babies, but I feel bad to overload them.

We have been exchanging with my sis, but she has only one kid so I feel bad.

AmberLiz99 · December 2015

Totally without kids, we go out about once every other month. Sometimes more, but that's average. We don't have family to watch them close by, but we do a lot with the kids (eat out, museums, hikes, etc) so it's not like we sit at home all the time. And we do "at home dates" after the kids are in bed sometimes. Takeout and a movie

cdnvb4 · December 2015

We generally get alone time once every 1-2 months. My in-laws have a weekend place in the mountains and love to take their grandkids. They typically ask to take DS every 6 weeks or so. When he's gone, he's gone for the weekend, though. So we usually get at least two date nights in a row. That said, I imagine this will change dramatically once LO arrives. They probably won't take the newest one until s/he is at least a year old and probably not until s/he is closer to 2.

alysemci · December 2015

Never ever ever

Boonhilde · December 2015

Going out without our son is RARE! Maybe twice in the last year!

chelthorn · December 2015

Rarely!!! We only went out alone last weekend because we needed to finish Christmas shopping! DS does spend the night with grandparents a lot so we do get house to ourselves some...

HighFive16 · December 2015

We had maybe 2 nights out where we got a babysitter this past year. I know this sounds selfish but I really miss the nights where we could just randomly head to Target or go to a movie or anything we wanted. It just takes too much planning these days. We don't have family close and have to book a babysitter so early in the week that by the time she actually comes we aren't sure if we even want to go anymore or we have had a rough night with DD the night before.

Also when DD was born and still sleeping we still managed dinners out because she was in her car seat snoozing whilst we were being smug saying how parenthood didn't change us at all... Yep, that didn't last long! lol.

If you can , enjoy your H and time out of the house as much as you can because you will miss it. It isn't depressing, it is just a different life.

Huskerfanz · December 2015

HighFive16 said:

We had maybe 2 nights out where we got a babysitter this past year. I know this sounds selfish but I really miss the nights where we could just randomly head to Target or go to a movie or anything we wanted. It just takes too much planning these days. We don't have family close and have to book a babysitter so early in the week that by the time she actually comes we aren't sure if we even want to go anymore or we have had a rough night with DD the night before.

Also when DD was born and still sleeping we still managed dinners out because she was in her car seat snoozing whilst we were being smug saying how parenthood didn't change us at all... Yep, that didn't last long! lol.
If you can , enjoy your H and time out of the house as much as you can because you will miss it. It isn't depressing, it is just a different life.

Not selfish! I agree. It's more complicated now.

likeabel · December 2015

We plan a date night once a month and my in laws keep DS overnight which is awesome! I know we're lucky having so much family close by! DS is the 8th grandchild on my side of the family but now that he's a little older (18 months) my mom is willing to take him with the other grandkids to their cabin for long weekends which I'm excited about and also terrified of!

Just about every Friday we order take out and watch a movie after DS goes to bed so we still get time together, it's just a little different than it used to be. We do miss going to bars to sing karaoke though!

nthurs10 · December 2015

We RARELY go anywhere without our DS who is now two. We have a great support system, but honestly just prefer to have him with us. On special occasions such a birthday/ Anniversary we will leave him with my husbands parents. We ALWAYS pick him up afterwards though. We shall see how it goes with number 2.

HeartLikeMine3 · December 2015

We go out without our toddler about once a month he will spend the night at my moms. Although now that I'm pregnant I could kinda care less about it because I'd rather be at home being lazy!

TwoBadMice · December 2015

When I go home to visit my parents lol. So twice a year at the most. But we don't have family near by and I am weird about leaving him with anyone. Also we are way out In The country so it's not convient for the daycare ladies to sit for us. My MIL totally would but she has ALZ so we can't leave him alone with her.

Lilwatz · December 2015

We do a family date night every Friday night where we all go (usually) to Outback. We did that before she was born and have continued with her. When she was real little we'd show up right at 5 to get in and out fast afraid she'd cry and we wouldn't be able to console her. That never really happened. Now that she's older (14 months) we are a little more flexible in when we go.

As for dates without her, we go out I'd guess about once per month. We have no family nearby at all and so we really lucked out in finding one sitter we really trust. We LOVE her. She used to work at the daycare my daughter went to and fell in love with her from day 1 (12 weeks old). She left the same time we switched daycares and has been our go to sitter ever since. We're taking her with us on our family cruise next month too!

etr152517 · December 2015

We take him with us everywhere. It's not very often that DH and I go by ourselves. It mostly happens when my parents are in town. I'd say maybe 5 or 6 times a year including work Christmas parties and anniversary dinners.

Sydvicious08 · December 2015

Birthdays and anniversary, soooo 3 times a year. Our next night out is Thursday! My birthday is wednesday so DH is taking me to see Star Wars! Overnight... last January for 2 nights.

little_bren · December 2015

My parents watch DD once every 1-2 mos for us

ETA never overnight

nicolesmith0624 · December 2015

We have an amazing support network and before I got PG this time, we went on dates at least once/month. Now that I'm exhausted and sick, we've been on one date

hoping to get back to it once I'm feeling better!

SoEnamored · December 2015

Maybe every other month on average. They are in daycare M-F, 9-5 so it already feels like our time with them is quite limited.

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