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Newly SAHM

christina4436christina4436 member
in October 2015 Moms
My LO is 12 weeks and I am now officially a SAHM. I've worked my way up in the fashion industry for the past 6 years with a great salary and while I loved t at first it became a love hate relationship. Very stressful, anxiety led me to go on Zoloft as I would clench jaw and have TMJ at night. When I was actually able to do my job I loved it, but most of the time it was women higher than me giving their opinions and changing minds all the time. I always thought I may want to be a SAHM and once home with my little girl the choice was pretty clear. Now that I have told my boss and talked to HR today, it is a done deal. After I got off the phone I felt a little anxious and panic. My mom told me to hope I don't regret it since she sacrificed her career so my dad could have one. I love being home and doing things at home, but am worried when the kids are off to school I will have nothing. Not that I necessarily want to go back to work, but what if I get sick of it? I just had a little worry and am looking from advice from other SAHM or similar position ladies. Anyone regret it? I don't want this feeling for years, fearing the future. Hopefully it will go away. It's just hard working so hard for something and then just giving it up. But again I don't want to go back at all. Thanks in advance!
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  • koriemokoriemo member
    Well, he good news is, you have 5 years until LO is off to school! You can pursue other options then. My mom stayed at home, got her masters at 40, and has now been working for 15 years and has made enough money that she's getting ready to retire at 57.
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  • TelebellTelebell member
    You'll be fine! When I was considering SAHM-hood I set up a phone consult with my law school career office. It is totally doable to return to the workforce. Keep your contacts up with lunch dates, etc. Can you take on project work here and there?
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  • mgillonmgillon member
    I am in almost the exact same situation. Worked corporate fashion & home decor industries for 10 plus years, now almost officially (giving notice soon) to be a stay at home mom. I have the same feelings - and was even on some of the same meds, also have TMJ due to stress :)

    Ultimately we decided having a baby was a game changer not just for our family but for my career. Bringing that stress home, even 5 years from now is never going to be healthy for us. Not sure what the next career move is...but taking the next few years to figure it out.

    Just having the option to stay at home with the baby makes me thankful every day. Hang in there - the next move will work itself out. You'll never get this time back with your baby, enjoy it.
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  • christina4436christina4436 member
    mgillon said:

    I am in almost the exact same situation. Worked corporate fashion & home decor industries for 10 plus years, now almost officially (giving notice soon) to be a stay at home mom. I have the same feelings - and was even on some of the same meds, also have TMJ due to stress :)

    Ultimately we decided having a baby was a game changer not just for our family but for my career. Bringing that stress home, even 5 years from now is never going to be healthy for us. Not sure what the next career move is...but taking the next few years to figure it out.

    Just having the option to stay at home with the baby makes me thankful every day. Hang in there - the next move will work itself out. You'll never get this time back with your baby, enjoy it.

    Wow that is crazy so similar. Corp retail for me too. Yes we are blessed to be able to stay home. Thanks- it helps hearing it and knowing others are in same position!

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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    I left a good career in PR with a very flexible, stable position and I don't regret it one bit! I've been a SAHM for two years and it's the best decision I've ever made. I went back to work for 3 months after my maternity leave and decided I wanted to be with DS. Being a SAHM to one child is awesome. I'm still getting used to managing 2 now but I still say the worst day at home is better than the best day at work. I am so happy to be there for my babies all day, every day.

    As for future work, I am confident that I'll go back part time once they both are in school. But that's a while away and I'm not worrying about that now.
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  • cshears37cshears37 member
    I'm a newly sahm after working towards my career too. I felt really anxious and confused when trying to make my decision but every time I looked at my son I knew there was no way I could leave him! I do worry later on but I do plan to go back once he is in school. I know how you feel!
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  • christina4436christina4436 member
    Thanks ladies!!
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  • danniellemichelledanniellemichelle member
    edited December 2015
    I was a store manager for a retail store and before my maternity leave my DM wanted to promote me when I returned. When I first got pregnant it wasn't financially possible to stay at home. Then during my pregnancy God blessed my husband and I and flipped our finances around that it totally became an option for me. I loved working and leading a team and being in charge of so much but I just knew it was the right decision to stay at home with my baby. When I called my DM to let him know I was not going to return I felt anxious too ... I almost started crying because I really did love it but it's a new season and my baby will only be this small once in her life! It's strange thinking that I won't be going back because it's something I'm so used to ! OH and this was the FIRST Black Friday-Thanksgiving I haven't had to work in five years ! :smiley: and the first Christmas Eve I don't have to work !! So excited :wink:<3
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  • christina4436christina4436 member
    danniellemichellexox said:

    I was a store manager for a retail store and before my maternity leave my DM wanted to promote me when I returned. When I first got pregnant it wasn't financially possible to stay at home. Then during my pregnancy God blessed my husband and I and flipped our finances around that it totally became an option for me. I loved working and leading a team and being in charge of so much but I just knew it was the right decision to stay at home with my baby. When I called my DM to let him know I was not going to return I felt anxious too ... I almost started crying because I really did love it but it's a new season and my baby will only be this small once in her life! It's strange thinking that I won't be going back because it's something I'm so used to ! OH and this was the FIRST Black Friday-Thanksgiving I haven't had to work in five years ! :smiley: and the first Christmas Eve I don't have to work !! So excited :wink:<3 </p>

    Ha that is great congrats!! Yea I was so happy to not have to go to the stores on Black Friday. Normally we have to shop and do a report, takes the fun out of it!

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  • danniellemichelledanniellemichelle member
    edited December 2015
    @christina4436 thank you !! I bet it was nice to just enjoy the holiday ! :smile: congrats to you on being able to be a SAHM as well ... I wish all the moms that wanted to stay home with their babies were as fortunate to do so
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