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Rude people talking about how I look :(

Kara0428Kara0428 member
in January 2016 Moms
Had the pleasure of overhearing someone else's comments about my big pregnant body for the first time today while walking the dog. Couldn't make out the whole thing, but there was definitely an "Oh my word look at her..." and something about needing a bigger coat. Anyone else had this happen? Or have any tips for getting over it? I was fine with how I've looked and i havent even gained that much, but that just hit me a little harder than I expected :(
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  • EbiejayEbiejay member
    I'd hope that most people saying "Oh my word look at her" weren't trying to be mean or rude, pregnant bellies are obvious and interesting to people, and I swear they forget how big a normal late pregnant belly is. That said, I know I'd feel pretty self conscious, however it was meant. And the comment about needing a bigger coat would definitely bother me (though in my case it's definitely true, I didn't want to waste money on a maternity coat so just another month to squeeze into my others). 

    However the comments were meant, it's pretty rude to talk about how people look. Unfortunately most people do it, whether it's about pregnant women or the unusual outfit at Walmart. 

    I'd say you must be rocking your pregnant body, stand tall and proud and know that pretty much everyone out there knows that you are special and amazing for what you are doing, try and ignore the ones who fail at putting it into the right words! 
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  • maddisonwallacemaddisonwallace member
    Listen to her. She sounds more emotionally/hormonally stable than me right now. lol
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  • catgrazcatgraz member
    You know what? You don't care!!!! ... because in a few weeks YOU will be holding your beautiful and perfect little bundle of joy in your arms and nothing those stupid people will be doing in their boring little lives can be as amazing and magical as that!!!!
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  • cali1710cali1710 member
    People are jerks and everything thinks they are perfect. I had someone say "wow you look like youre ready to pop any day, you still have 6 weeks to go?!" Yes thanks for telling me I look bigger then I should. Someone even said "wow you're baby is going to be big". I havent gained a crazy amount. Im pretty on target with what we "should" be, but I'm short so my stomach sticks out more then if someone was taller. Screw you people. And the girl who said it to me gained 70 lbs when she was pregnant.. You wanna play that game lady!? So forget what everyone says. Embrace your baby bump!! Everyone looks different pregnany. People love to talk behind backs. Flip them off and move on!
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  • JNGettinMarriedJNGettinMarried member
    I've been asked if I was pregnant while not pregnant... and when I responded "no", they asked me if I was sure.

    And the twins thing... now that I am pregnant... or that I must be ready to pop any day (I'm going on 34 weeks).

    Some people suck. Screw them.
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  • cali1710cali1710 member
    Ebiejay said:


    cali1710 said:

    People are jerks and everything thinks they are perfect. I had someone say "wow you look like youre ready to pop any day, you still have 6 weeks to go?!" Yes thanks for telling me I look bigger then I should. Someone even said "wow you're baby is going to be big". 

    OMG I get this a lot, people keep saying to me "Oh you're going to have a Christmas baby!". I bloody well hope not, he's not due until Jan 21st! 

    Im due the 21st too!!! So for people to say " you look like youll go anyday now" is annoying!!
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  • rah938rah938 member
    Try not to let people get to you, although I know it's hard! Having twins and just LOVE explaining why my 34 week belly really DOES look like I'm going to pop any day. People are insensitive and stupid to pregnant women a lot of the time--just ignore them.
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  • ccoleemanccoleeman member
    I work with pretty much all men (finance) and even the ones whose wives have been pregnant have NO clue how to talk to pregnant women. I walked into a meeting with my boss whose first comment was "Jesus!". Dude your daughter gave birth 6 months ago, is that how you spoke to her?
    On the other hand, the young sales guys are taking the pretend-she-gained-weight-and-is-self-conscious-about-it route- so every time they see me they go "hey you look great, you lose weight?" Or "you're wasting away to nothing!". It's kind of funny because they're so clueless, but their comments are so far off its almost insulting. I don't need to be told I look skinny, or that I've gained weight. How about "damn your body is growing a human life, that is impressive!"
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  • carlyhammondcarlyhammond member
    People are jerk-faces!
    Everytime I see my mom and grandma it's "oh wow look how big you are getting" my response
    "Uh, there a baby in there. I'm supposed to be getting bigger"
    They then try to cover it up... I know what you are saying (rolls eyes)

    It gets to me, I'm not gonna lie. But, you know what. They can kick rocks. Because when this little butterball thus causing me to look like I ate a butterball comes out, it's all going to be worth it.
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  • deedeecmc79deedeecmc79 member
    I always get it to my face and am asked if I am having twins. I put on a good amount of weight when pregnant but it comes off once the baby is out. The best thing to remember is it comes off and everyone carries differently. Oh yeah and people are a $$holes!
    You probably look great and remember your a mamma in her last month of pregnancy.
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  • ctmamaoftwoctmamaoftwo member
    @ccoleeman thanks for sharing that! Makes me feel much better about what I have gained.
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  • SummerOHSummerOH member
    Ebiejay said:


    cali1710 said:

    People are jerks and everything thinks they are perfect. I had someone say "wow you look like youre ready to pop any day, you still have 6 weeks to go?!" Yes thanks for telling me I look bigger then I should. Someone even said "wow you're baby is going to be big". 

    OMG I get this a lot, people keep saying to me "Oh you're going to have a Christmas baby!". I bloody well hope not, he's not due until Jan 21st! 

    This exactly! I was at Target last week and a random woman said, " Wow, you must be having a Christmas baby!" Said nope, 1/21 EDD. She gave me a horrified look and went on and on (at least in my mind) about it. Seriously? I'm not even THAT big, but DS and DD were both big babies and I'm expecting the same. It's not OK to comment on someone's body, period. It's funny, because the women I work with all think I'm too small and keep offering me treats to "fatten me up."

    DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015


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  • SDaniels19SDaniels19 member
    People are nuts! Just wanted to say I'm so proud of how you ladies are responding to these dumb comments and calling people out, maybe they will think twice before saying something in the future to another pregnant woman (maybe not but one can hope). Keep up the good attitudes despite the general public (and sometimes friends/family) and their inane comments
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  • LIly436LIly436 member
    Majority of comments from other people is just a "small talk" they do not care. Most of you girls commented about how other people look at least ones in you life, so now consider it a payback.
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  • SummerOHSummerOH member
    LIly436 said:

    Majority of comments from other people is just a "small talk" they do not care. Most of you girls commented about how other people look at least ones in you life, so now consider it a payback.

    Actually, I've never made comments to a perfect stranger, much less followed them up and down store aisles yammering on and on.

    DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015


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  • maddisonwallacemaddisonwallace member
    Oh heavens to Betsy....
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  • AchaeAchae member
    SummerOH said:

    LIly436 said:

    Majority of comments from other people is just a "small talk" they do not care. Most of you girls commented about how other people look at least ones in you life, so now consider it a payback.

    You must be speaking from experience based on your responses on TB.

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  • Knottie1452445632Knottie1452445632 member
    edited December 2015
    Op poor you but please come out with some sarky comments in prep for next time. I know it's not very mature or lady like, but my goodness it will make you feel better. I would of said "Excuse me but you know I'm right here and can hear you! Or "you have any questions please ask". I am 34 weeks and I've had the "oh a Christmas baby" and the "any day now" comment and do you know what, I just let them think that and say "yes any day" etc lol
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