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Avoiding sick Mom?

Diesel615Diesel615 member
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Tomorrow is my Mom's birthday, and this was the weekend I was supposed to announce to my nieces that I'm pregnant and we have a big weekend planned with the family. However, I just found out yesterday my Mom has bronchitis, a sinus infection and possibly strep. My Mom's been SO excited to tell my nieces about my pregnancy (my brother only gets them one weekend a month and we won't see them again until Christmas), but I'm really freaked out to be around my Mom. I have never had the best immune system so I've always gotten sick easily and I really don't want to get sick while pregnant, but I don't want to break my Mom's heart. I don't know what to do. She's on antibiotics, but I know bronchitis is a virus and antibiotics don't get rid of it. What would you all do? My husband says I need to stop making my family a priority and make our baby the priority, but it's hard when it's her birthday and our only weekend with the girls for a month. 
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  • NLewis1NLewis1 member
    If you've seen your mom in the last 7-10 days - chances are you've been exposed to whatever she's got anyway. But it's your call!

    Illness is more contagious before the I'll person ever produces symptoms. I have a son in daycare - I know that if someone went home with a fever, my kid is probably going to have it in a few days because sick kid was contagious before he ever got the fever
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  • Atlast111Atlast111 member
    edited December 2015
    If I were your mum, the last thing I would want to do is make my pregnant daughter sick! Birthday or not! I'm sure she will understand. As you said, Bronchitis is contagious and she really shouldn't be visiting anyone until she is better, especially young children and pregnant people. A month of waiting to see your mum is nothing compared to the pain of bronchitis. I had it years ago and it was really awful. She really should understand you not wanting to get ill.
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  • HuskerfanzHuskerfanz member
    I'd probably call the nurse's line and ask them.  Then you can blame it on the dr if they don't want you around her.
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  • hellomommashellomommas member
    Well--- I have had strep, a virus, and bronchitis... Which also included a bacterial infection... this pregnancy so far... And it. Sucks.

    If I were you, I would either go and use hand sanitizer on your mom and you every 10 mins. Haha. OR not go and reschedule... It really REALLY sucks to be pregnant and have these kinds of sicknesses... Esp since a lot of the drugs they normally would prescribe cannot be given to us pregnant folks.
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  • WinniethePoohsPantsWinniethePoohsPants member
    Nope, I'd reschedule.  And lemme just say I LOVE my mom. I'm a little surprised your mom hasn't suggested rescheduling herself.
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  • Diesel615Diesel615 member
    We can't reschedule.....it's the only weekend my brother has custody of his girls until Christmas Eve. It's a family tradition to put up the tree and decorate the house for my Mom's birthday, too, and they rented a van for the whole family to go look at Christmas lights at various places. I just feel so guilty, and I know she'll understand if I don't go, but I know she'll be really hurt. She's been so excited about announcing to my nieces and seeing their reactions (this is their first cousin). I think I might just go for a little bit on Saturday to tell the girls, and bow out from all the other festivities. Just make sure I don't touch much and try to keep my distance and douse myself in sanitizer. I know it's obvious not to go, just not easy, blah! 
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  • lauren0913lauren0913 member
    Maybe have your mom FaceTime you?!
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  • HBamama2BHBamama2B member
    If you want to go- what about asking your mom to wear a mask? Or wear one yourself? With potentially two easily spreadable contagions that can linger on toys and surfaces, I'd say wash hands, don't touch your face and wear masks just to be safe.

    Sounds overkill? (but honestly as much as I love my mom and siblings, I wouldn't go. Then again I'm not traveling this Christmas due to the pregnancy so I may fall into the too cautious category. :))
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  • Diesel615Diesel615 member
    So I called my Mom last night and let her know how I felt and she really poured on the guilt. I felt horrible. I really thought she'd understand, but she kept saying I'm bound to get sick anyways. I was like WTF, really?? I know how much this weekend means to her, but I really thought she'd be more understanding. Now I feel even worse and like a huge a$$. Ugh!!! 
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  • summerfunxosummerfunxo member
    edited December 2015
    Don't feel bad @Diesel615 , I actually walked out of Christmas last year at my mom's house because she lied to me about everyone having a fever so I would come. At the time my son was 4 months old and there was no way I was exposing him to 6 people who were all sick. Thank god we all left to, because they all ended up being very sick for a month after!! I was so mad at her, but my husband was grateful.
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  • Atlast111Atlast111 member
    @Diesel615. Wow....that was selfish of her and a little childish in my opinion! Christmas eve is in 2 weeks approx. I would wait....so not worth it but it's your decision of course. I would hate to have to take antibiotics while pregnant as I think they are pretty risky for baby. I would even go so far as to say she shouldn't see the neices and nephews as if she infects them they will be sick for christmas and could then infect you at Christmas. :-(
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  • HBamama2BHBamama2B member
    @diesel615 I'm sorry she pulled the guilt strings. Please don't feel bad, you have every right to be concerned, and no--it's not like you should assume you'll get sick and therefore put yourself at additional/known risk. Logically, the opposite is true, your immune system is compromised, you should take extra care bc if you do get sick it is possible you would develop a worse reaction than under normal circumstances with limited treatment options. For instance, with a virus--antibiotics won't help. :( Ugh. I hope you don't feel too bad, you aren't having anything but valid concerns.
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  • june2016babyjune2016baby member
    What did you end up doing?

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  • Diesel615Diesel615 member
    I went over for a bit on Sat. to tell my nieces, which were soooo excited. My Mom thankfully didn't have any symptoms and I washed my hands every couple minutes and kept my distance from everyone just in case. I've been feeling fine since.....so let's hope it stays that way. 
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