To groom or not to groom??

Chauntelle1993 · December 2015

I can't shave because I have sentive skin and shaving sticks cause more harm than anything so waxing is a better alternative. However, I've heard you shouldn't get your down there waxed whilst pregnant because it hurts 10 times more and they don't really care anyway.
.it's more for my personal comfort, I know people say you won't care when ur there, but u think I will!!
PLEASE HELP

ncarranza1011 · December 2015

If it's something u want do it. Honestly I didn't care lol I felt to huge to care.

preggoandglowing · December 2015

I've been getting waxed pretty regularly for a few years. In my experience it has actually hurt a lot less since I've been pregnant however I wouldn't recommend if you haven't done it recently, it probably would hurt. Can your SO help trim?

TomekiaB · December 2015

We've discussed this on the board a couple times, I think the general consensus is to groom enough to make cleaning postpartum easier. Lots of people have just used electric razors to trim but not shave bare.

*typo

dec15mum · December 2015

If it'll make you more comfortable then it's worth a shot. Your right your doctors won't care but you need to be a comfortable as possible.
I'm ghe same though I get SO to shave/trim anything I can't reach or see

groovylocks · December 2015

TomekiaB said:

We've discussed this on the board a couple times, I think the general consensus is to groom enough to make cleaning postpartum easier. Lots of people have just used electric razors to trim but not shave bare.
*typo

This. Look, don't groom for vanity reasons before attending an event where you are 90% likely to poop yourself while lying naked on a table. And same goes for comfort, really. There is nothing significant shaving/waxing will do to help that during a force of nature like labor and delivery.

But for aftercare? Its worth doing what you can. I'm just not sure waxing isn't overkill. A trim is sufficient.

Chauntelle1993 · December 2015

Thankyou ladies for responding! I'm a first time mom and new to this app so didn't know you've discussed it before.. Thankyou though I feel a lot less stressed about it now lol!

sarahjulypsu · December 2015

I have been keeping hair short so it'll be easier to keep clean. I stand in front of a full length mirror and trim with scissors. I did shave around the top and edges. I just put a towel under me to catch any mess

rmarie13 · December 2015

A lot of ladies in my pre-labor class asked this and the midwife made a really good point. She said to imagine how itchy/uncomfortable is feels when the hair grows back after waxing or shaving PLUS recovering from birth/episiotomy... No thank you!
I kept up my waxes at first and it was hell for me. It hurt 10x more and I all of a sudden got loads of ingrown hairs so I stopped. I've just been keeping it short (or blindly trying to!) with the Venus bikini razor. I don't care if it "looks nice" I just want to be comfortable.

sdolinsky · December 2015

I was always jut keeping a nice trim down there, but at my 38 week app. my doc suggested that all hair be removed so that it would be easier for stitches. So I got everything waxed! OUCH! I was swollen for 3 days, ended up getting white heads followed by a rash a couple of days after. Everything has cleared up and is better now, but I really don't think it was necessary and wouldn't do it again. I spoke to my gf's after and they never had to get it waxed before having a baby.. Next time I'll just get my hubby to use an electric trimmer down there! Lol.

cedixon2 · December 2015

My DH shaved me the day before I was induced. The funny part happened when one of my nurses had to check my incision and said "oh wow, you have a nice landing strip!".... And then followed it up with "I can see why you have twins now" I was on morphine at the time so maybe I thought it was funnier than it was in reality. I didn't feel the shaving itches I normally would.

LMJL · December 2015

So, I just yesterday asked my man to trim things up a bit. I'd trimmed as best I could myself about a week ago (40+1 today) I'm SUPER sensitive & the few times I've tried to shave or wax in the private area (bikini line, not even actual vagina here) I've broken out in rashes & am trying to avoid looking like I have case of the crabs down there b/c I'm SO itchy. I usually just keep the lady bits well groomed, & trim with a pair of scissors. I actually can't even cut the hair too short, & had to buy a pair of hair cutting scissors for this, b/c when it would grow back in, the ends of the hair would curl in & poke me. Anywho, I read something on here about the stitches & the hair & thought I should trim up a bit more & make it more uniform. My husband was so sweet, but terrified that he would end up cutting my lady bits. Also, I'm standing there in the shower, one leg up, trying to keep my balance, while I have about 40 lbs hanging off my front end & he's snipping away like he's trimming a bonsai or something. I suggested he actually put his hand ON me, or the hair to hold it in place as I'm trying not to sway & now I'M worried that he'll cut my lady bits, but for some reason he wouldn't actually touch me or hold it in place. I finally told him it was good enough. Bless his heart, he tried. I might try to trim myself again, this time I'll lay down with a towel under me & use a mirror. Thanks @SarahJulyPSU for that idea!

ammnam14 · December 2015

You ladies are lucky. My husband refuses to help shave/trim down there lol. I'm trying to do the best I can just so PP healing isn't as gross not so much for the vanity of it all. My doctor also hasn't said anything about not shaving vs. shaving.

kdoak2015 · December 2015

Oh darling you are soon going to have way more things to stress about than a shaved area.
I shaved prior too, it took likely 45min but I think I got it all.

rzaremba · December 2015

I agree with PP, just keeping things tidy should be sufficient...friend of mine shaved the night before her scheduled c section and ended up extremely unhappy the day of her surgery because they put alcohol on the area to sanitize which she said stung super bad.

Praying41 · December 2015

I've shaved since the beginning and continue to do so blindly now. But I had laser done a while ago so I have a lot less hair than normal so it's easier I think. I have a serious aversion to hair anywhere but especially there so I do it for my own sanity. Plus even though I'm sure no one will care, knowing I'm shaved down there will make me feel better. I wouldn't wax now. I've done it before and other like hell and I don't need any additional pain down there.

Alyssaerin996 · December 2015

You are all very trusting to let your SOs down there with a razor or scissors! I would be absolutely terrified! There's a knack to it that I just don't think guys get, but maybe that's just me. I've always been a Brazilian waxer and have kept it up during pregnancy. It's just easier for me to not worry about it and shaving causes crazy itching. Definitely didn't hurt me more to have done when I was pregnant but yeah, it's not FUN. I'll get my last one this week (38 weeks) and then just hope it lasts until the next time I make it out of the house after DD is born!

taysun · December 2015

I unexpectedly was induced and didn't even manage to tidy up. I'm not noticing any problems caused by it during recovery. In fact I imagine it might have made it worse to have hair growing in.

ColoradoHiker · December 2015

I used an electric shaver (with the shortest length guard on it. Being cut with one of those hurts like a biotch). It kept things trimmed without being itchy. I was thankful I kept up with it, when I saw how gross things were for a couple of days after birth.

kellieaw · December 2015

I am a beauty therapist, and there is a scientific reason as to why it hurts more when you are pregnant. Your hormones can make you more sensitive to a lot of things, and accelerated/increased blood flow in the area can cause more trauma. I had a wax myself at 24ish weeks and it was HORRIBLE! For women who are frequent waders though, your hairs will be less thick and rough and therefor easier to wax away. So if you're a frequent waxer, give it a go, it may not be so painful. I wouldn't suggest it to anyone who hasn't waxed or doesn't wax regularly though!

4nnMarie · December 2015

My DH has been in charge of grooming from the waist down. Trimming lady parts, cutting toenails, and he even shaves my legs.

I'm a lucky lady. ❤

BethP321 · December 2015

I bought an electric razor (I've never owned one before so I was in heaven) and had to use a mirror to see what I was doing. I did scuff myself up a bit, but I did it a couple of weeks ago so I'm healed by now. I don't know how I'll feel in labor, I'm sure I won't care, but i just did it.

Gingermom15 · December 2015

I shaved right before being induced and I'm so glad I did. I bled so bad after my c section that any hair would have made it a lot harder on the nurses to clean me up the first few hours when I couldn't do it myself.
The first PP visit though that 4 week? Nope. It was crazy down there, didn't even attempt to shave my legs, but I figured since my OB had seen my insides what's some hair going to hurt.

JackJacktheCat · December 2015

I wish I would have gotten a Brazilian before I went into labor. I had planned on it but LO came early. Luckily I had it somewhat trimmed down there, because it was a mess afterwards. I ended up shaving a few days after I came home just to make it easier to keep clean & make me feel less gross. With all the stitches & bleeding, I just think it's so much better to be clean shaven. When I had even a little bit of hair down there my skin was getting so irritated from all the rubbing. I didnt sleep with undies on before baby came, so afterwards when I had to wear pads & undies 24/7 my bikini line got really irritated & rash-y. I ended up shaving & using some diaper rash cream & it got completely better within two days. I'd say if you can handle getting a wax, go for it! If you typically get a rash or ingrown hairs after waxing, get the wax done ASAP & try to deal with that stuff before baby comes. The hair won't grow back before it clears up, or at least it will be shorter & more sparse.

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