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January 2016 Moms
HMapel
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Am I ready to be a mommy?
HMapel
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I'm 25 years old and for as long as I can remember I've always wanted to be a mom. I always felt like it was my calling in life to be a mommy. After finding out I was pregnant, I was more in shock than overwhelmed with joy. Now that I am 34 weeks I am still feeling anxious and terrified rather than excited. I had thought that when I was further along my negative emotions would turn into joy and excitement. I don't know if it's because I have always had a fear of change or what. I'm just starting to feel even more overwhelmed and scared that I won't be the mom I always dreamed I would be. Please tell me I'm not alone in my fears. :-(
Re: Am I ready to be a mommy?
I'm 37 weeks now, and when I saw the OB the other day and she told me I was already 1 1/2 cm dilated, it hit me HARD. And now I feel just as scared as I did when I saw that positive pregnancy test. Like, throughout my entire pregnancy I've just been going through the motions, but now holy shit it's REAL. I'm really scared of not being a good mommy and not knowing what to do, but I guess if we didn't have those feelings we wouldn't be good moms
I'm 24, and I always have wanted a baby. But when I found out I immediately got scared and started crying.
My SO asked me how I felt about it and I was like "I'm scared".
I'm 36 weeks and with each day that passes, I get more and more scared.
I'm an awesome baby sitter, but I can give those babies back. How am I going to deal with a baby who depends on me 24hrs a day. Most of the time I'll be alone. My SO works 10-15hrs a day. (Weekdays 9:30a - 8/9pm and weekends 7:30am-9pm)
I'm really scared I'll get fusterated, it won't be my sons fault, but I'm scared it's going to happen anyway.
Plus, being cooped up in the house for 6 weeks after birth will probably kill me!
I'll have to call my mom (who will probably annoy me being at my house 24/7) to take me to x place.
A friend of mine had a baby last week, and it all kind of hit me at once... I'm going to be a mommy soon, there's no way around it.... That's terrifying
"Having, and raising, a baby is the BIGGEST change in your life, and it doesn't really matter when that happens. It will always be the biggest change. Being scared is normal. What counts is that you take those worries and make sure they make you a better mom. Look at what scares you and face it head on. Also, babies are pretty forgiving, and believe it or not, they always think you know what you're doing."
That being said he's TERRIFIED for the teen years lol
HUGS and LOVE from this FTmommy to you because you're doing right what you need to do
No one is ever READY to be a mom. Anyone who says they are is full of you-know-what. There's nothing like it on earth. How can you prepare for something that has no equal?
The other truth?
You can SO handle it. It's weird and it's crazy and it's going to be the biggest, scariest ride of your life but holy cow is it worth it. And you learn so fast. I, too, am alone most days with DD, but I actually prefer it that way- yes, it was terrifying (I've had this kid for two days total and now you're gonna leave me all alone all day with it?!) but it helped us to click really quickly. Our schedules synched and I learned so much about her on those days where it was just us. After all, what better way to learn someone than constantly being with them alone for 12 hours a day?
Anyway, to answer the question in the title, no can't really be "ready" for mom-ing. What you CAN be ready for is to welcome this baby and try your best. And as PP said, the fact that you're asking the question means you got this.
I had my 1st DD when I was 24 , totally unexpected. I was terrified like you, plus the fact that I had no family around to help me or guide me. I too, like you have always dreamt of being a mommy, I knew it was my calling, but that didn't stop the creeping thoughts that I would fail.. I can't explain it but once you hold that babe in your arms your maternal instincts just kick in and there is not one thing you wouldn't do to protect and be the best mommy you can be for your baby.
don't beat yourself up if you make a mistake , it happens to every.single.mom. Just do what is right for you and your baby and it will be just fine:)
It's ok to have those thoughts, totally natural. You'll be great.. your baby will be great. Best of luck