STM+ Nursery Question

SouthernVOL · December 2015

I am so not interested in setting up an adorable nursery for this pregnancy. I want to, but I don't feel like it is necessary at all. I'm feeling a little guilt that I'm not as gung-ho about this pregnancy as my first. I'm still excited, I can't wait to meet my little one but, I'm not rushing to the baby aisle, or browsing adorable baby bedding.

I have all the essential items for a nursery, and DD was in our room until 6-7 months anyway. Anyone else feeling a little less...nesty?

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matthewsdm · December 2015

Definitely feeling this! We're moving both DD's to share a room and make the nursery and I've literally started moving nothing out of the room yet. I'm hoping I'll just get more excited later on!

BPaisley · December 2015

Yeah... not so much. When we had DS2, I got excited about making the big boy room for DS1 and just switched the name on the wall of the nursery to DS2's name. This time, I need to move the boys in together, but I've done nothing. I would really love to re-do the nursery for the third one, but then I'm like... I'm too lazy to even clean my kitchen floor or fold laundry, am I really going to decorate a whole new nursery? Yeah, probably not!

june2016baby · December 2015

Umm yes, I do! I obsess about being pregnant all the time, yet the baby doesn't feel that real yet. I haven't bought anything for the baby. I need to eventually though, since after my last baby, I gave away anything that anyone wanted, and am consequently pretty low on baby stuff.

I think part of my issue, is that if something would happen to this baby, I have already made up my mind that we are done. So I don't want to buy much that may not be needed.

Huskerfanz · December 2015

I'm totally excited to decorate a new room. Probably part of it is because we moved in June so its been sitting there since then. I'm just nervous to pick a theme and regret it. We do need baby stuff too because of multiples which might make a difference, too.

SouthernVOL · December 2015

I saved everything from DD because we knew we wanted more. So, if we're having a girl, we are literally set for everything. We went with gender neutral stuff for the big items, packnplay, swing, car seat, stroller, so if it's a boy, we still only need clothes and blankets. I am so excited for baby but I feel like since I know the nursery won't really be used, aside from storing clothes and using our rocker. I guess I feel like, "What's the point? What's the rush?" I went overboard with DD, the expensive bedding set with diaper holder and matching laundry hamper, the whole 9 yards. I know I don't want to do that again.

PBear93 · December 2015

I am just going to use the same decorations this time, regardless of gender. We did a dinosaur theme last time when we were team green, and we are team green this time as well.

GinnyJ2012 · December 2015

I current have two little boy rooms. DS1 will move into DS2's room regardless of the sex of baby 3. If baby 3 is a boy then I'm all set, if it's a girl then we will need to repaint and buy new pictures/decor. We already have two cribs, but DS1 will need a twin bed. We have a lot of furniture to rearrange either way. I'm waiting until March to bunk the boys I think.

Any suggestions to room sharing success? Boys are 3 and 17 months.

scotten · December 2015

Ugh, I'm with you OP. I'm frankly more concerned about my DD's new sleeping arrangements than about where the new baby might sleep. It's crazy what changes with your second baby!

MillerMama13 · December 2015

I am in the exact situation as you OP. If we have another girl we are set. Other than a car seat since the one we used with DD is expired now. If it's a boy we just basically need clothes. I'm honestly not planning on a nursery at all. Baby will be in our room anyway and we plan to move a few months after he/she is born anyway. And when we move we're moving to another state so we will be living with my parents for awhile until we find jobs and a house. Once we get a house we will set up their rooms all cute. I thought I might be disappointed since we went all out for DDs nursery but I'm really not. She literally got no use out of it and she doesn't remember it. We moved when she was 6 months old so she never even slept one night in her nursery. It was a waste of money imo.

HighFive16 · December 2015

@MillerMama13 We moved state when DD was 4 months. I knew this when I bought the crib but was a softie and got sucked in. Well she never slept in it and we couldn't bring it with us so ended up giving away so much stuff and had to buy it all again when we got our house. So stupid so I agree 100% with your plan.

I feel like this too OP. I am not going to or interested in doing too much besides the basics until baby is here. I know I won't need a crib for8 or 9 months because I have a RnP and pnp with a comfy mattress. The room newly painted yellow so it will do either gender.

Tawny87 · December 2015

Yep! Never had a nesting bone in my body lol. With my girls 8 days after I quit my job (29 weeks) I went on bed rest until I had them at 33. The bed rest didn't help I'm sure, but I'm definitely not feeling very sentimental this time around either.

Emztron500 · December 2015

I know what you mean about feeling "less gung-ho", haha. It's just different. You're not making the huge adjustment of going from a "couple" to a "family" this time. You're already a family and already a parent and just used to it, and that's fine. Doesn't mean your kid will be any less special or less loved.

I didn't set up a nursery the first time and actually just recently set up a room for my toddler. She still doesn't sleep in there (she sleeps with me) but it's nice to have a comfortable place for all her toys and clothes and everything. Does anyone actually use those glamourous nurseries for newborn babies??? I change diapers on the floor wherever we happen to be, put her down to sleep wherever I'm sleeping, etc. New baby will just sleep in my room and his/her "stuff" will go into the soon-to-be-shared kids' room. Whatever. I'm sure permanent room arrangements will be made eventually, but I have zero desire to set up a fancy shrine to the baby just because.

MDKC14 · December 2015

SouthernVOL said:
I saved everything from DD because we knew we wanted more. So, if we're having a girl, we are literally set for everything. We went with gender neutral stuff for the big items, packnplay, swing, car seat, stroller, so if it's a boy, we still only need clothes and blankets. I am so excited for baby but I feel like since I know the nursery won't really be used, aside from storing clothes and using our rocker. I guess I feel like, "What's the point? What's the rush?" I went overboard with DD, the expensive bedding set with diaper holder and matching laundry hamper, the whole 9 yards. I know I don't want to do that again.

Yes! DS is still in our room at just over a year (we're in the process of transitioning but it's so difficult to keep getting up at night right now). I have a friend giving me a crib so everything else will either be passed down from DS or will be bought closer to due date. But I'm not in any rush.

marriedtoadutchman · December 2015

Yes! This is our 4th and overall I feel bad for baby. With Christmas just about here I haven't even thought much about baby or what I will need to get/do. I did buy a cute new maternity outfit last week so I feel a little more 'prepared'

bedinabelinda · December 2015

This is my first and even I'm not all gung-ho about setting something up. It seems too early, frankly (still a lot that could happen) plus I know the baby will be in our room for the first months anyways. I've heard from so many people who bought a bunch of stuff and never used it--seems smarter to wait until I see what I need. My friends who had a baby last year had really only bought a bassinette and car seat before the baby came. They got a lot of clothes at their shower. At the time it seemed crazy to me but now I get it.

likeabel · December 2015

I have no interest in getting the new nursery together this time around but I think a lot of it has to do with having an empty room last time vs. losing my sewing/work room this time. I also think I'm going to move DS into the new room so he'll get all new stuff and this baby will just have hand-me-downs which kinda makes me feel like a jerk but oh well!

aessary03 · December 2015

TOTALLY relate. I have NO desire to paint or anything else. I'm like, we got the crib and are good to go lol.

HeartLikeMine3 · December 2015

@likeabel, I am doing the same thing moving DS to the other spare room and giving him a big boy bed. I am excited about the baby but having a toddler to chase around keeps my mind and energy pretty occupied. With DS he was all I had to focus on and time went so slow. Anyways we shouldn't feel guilty about it just a natural thing that happens for some with #2. Now if I have a girl I may change my mind and go crazy!

catherinekate · December 2015

I'm a FTM but I'm petrified about starting the nursery. It feels like jinxing it somehow. Stupid worry, I know.

Jgar2u2 · December 2015

This is my 3rd but was the same with my 2nd... I think I was over the top with my first and then realized how little babies need. My kids hardly slept in rooms for the first 4 months (or more) anyway. This time baby will share a room so I'm not doing a nursery. Just some nice bedding.

mimi_8607 · December 2015

We set up a nursery last time. We will probably will do the same thing this time just a little more realistic. Not the whole big bedding set and everything. We tried to keep to things we knew we would use. We will be set if we have a boy on clothes and gear. We just will have to get car seat, stroller, video monitor and dresser.

tiggerseattle · December 2015

Our first ended up sleeping with us for 18 months and we plan to cosleep this time (it wasn't planned the first time), so I'm not going to bother with a nursery. Still trying to figure out where to keep all of his/her clothes and things, though.

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