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abbymccue
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More of a question then a discussion
abbymccue
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I'm 19 weeks pregnant and I'm absolutely misurable I've been having this sharp pain in my belly and everything is coming back normal and baby's perfectly healthy so far. How would I go about getting my Dr to put me on bed rest or medical leave from work ? I haven't been able to work a full shift in 2 and a half weeks it's getting a little frustrating not making the money to cover bills.. please help
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Re: More of a question then a discussion
unless you have a disability policy you won't get paid when you are out.
You will want to talk to your doctor about the pain interfering with your work and see if modifications need to be made or how to manage the pain. For example- do you work in a position where you need to be standing for 8 hour shifts? If so they can probably write you a note that you bring to HR saying that you need breaks to sit.
If it's pain management you need your dr can probably recommend some kind of medicines or other ideas. I have no idea what you are actually feeling but I can say that I find pregnancy very uncomfortable and painful. Last night I was writhering in the fetal position because I kept coughing and it triggered what I think was round ligament pain and then I threw up so violently that I popped blood vessels in my face. As I said I have no idea what is going on with you, but pain is to be somewhat expected.
You can't really ask to be put on "bedrest" and that's a very touchy subject around here, I would put an ETA on your original post to say that you didn't mean actual bed rest but a medical note to excuse you from work- that's just my opinion though. Most people with aches and pains that are put on bedrest say that they get much worse instead of better.
*Kate*
February 2016
I'm sorry that you, like most of us, are having pains associated with pregnancy. It sounds like you may need to find another job that gives you more time to sit, like a receptionist or something.
I am just glad this thread is a Q&A and THEN a discussion.
What did you guys have for lunch? I had McDonalds fries because a coworker brought back McDs and I had tunnel vision ever since.
FWIW OP, women have been dealing with pregnancy basically forever. If your doctor isn't worried about your pain, then he isn't going to excuse you from work. Good luck with the 2nd half of your pregnancy - I hope your expectations of what your comfort levels are going to be adjust accordingly.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
Most of the women here have been or are pregnant and you think NONE of them can relate to you? You literally think that you are the ONLY woman EVER to experience pain during pregnancy? Your doctor isn't worried. Your pain is normal.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
Perhaps OP is banking on STD? However, with 21 weeks to go, and FMLA only protecting a job for 12 weeks ... seems to be another potential issue there.
OP - ditto the others, pretty much if nothing is medically wrong then you aren't likely to be put on bed rest. Talk to your OB about pain management and talk to your employer about job duty modifications.
I'll be honest, I was put on bed rest with DS (pre-eclampsia) and it sucked. I was worried day and night about getting to the next week of my pregnancy. Multiple times a week I was monitored for my crazy high blood pressure, doing blood work, doing NSTs, and doing USs just to make sure that DS and I were okay. I had the aches and pains that, honestly, intensified once I was on rest because bed rest is just that, BED rest. I was on my left side for 5 weeks only getting up to go to the bathroom, eat, shower, and to go to an appointment. I was told to minimize other movement as much as possible - so stretching, walking, changing position to alleviate the aches and pains wasn't really an option.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
Gah! I know better than to try and give the benefit of the doubt and hold back the snark.
Seriously OP. I mean YOU don't know the kind of pain other pregnant women have dealt with, so to think you are something special is ridiculous. Bed rest is not something you ask for. Bed rest is something that you dread. Bed rest is a last resort type situation. Bed rest is to keep mom and baby as healthy as possible. Bed rest is NOT a get out of work card because you can't deal.
you got a few pieces of solid advice instead of focusing on the things that didn't help you maybe you could note the people that told you to:
*get medical modifications for work
*talk to your dr about pain management
*research what your disability policy would pay you for and under what circumstances
*try chiropractic or massage
*noting that bedrest will probably not help the pain but make the pain worse
*trust your dr
OR
*seek a second medical opinion
I took the time to write you quite a nice post sharing information, advice and words of sympathy. I specifically used the phrase "I have no idea what you are actually feeling" and then shared that I felt pain just last night that I wouldn't have thought was normal. I also work in HR and know a bit about disability laws. Clearly getting upset was more important to you than looking for legitimate (and politely delivered) advice.
Since I feel slighted I'll also add in- your probably not the first pregnant person ever to feel what you are feeling so you shouldn't say that none of us could fathom what you are going through. I have a cushy desk job, but there are people on this board who work in manufacturing, retail, construction and food service so it's not impossible to think that someone could fathom the stress and pain your body is going through. People go through cramps, contractions, RLP, kidney infections, burst cysts, ect.
*Kate*
February 2016
Seriously OP, bed rest isn't going to fix the lack of money coming in unless you have the best disability coverage and employer EVER. Your doctor has (repeatedly by the sounds of it) said there is nothing medically wrong with you. OBs spend over a decade of post high school training to do their job, you think they are
a) going to risk losing their license after all that to lie and say you need to be on bed rest and can't go to work and
b) going to lie to you and say everything is okay when it isn't?
I'm sorry you're not feeling comfortable but you've got 21 more weeks to go and the discomfort is only going to get worse. Pregnancy isn't the wonderful joyous time where you feel great and just glow all the time while being a human incubator, it's hard on your muscles and your body in general.
In the end, talk to your doctor and see if they can give you anything to help ease the pain, be it medications, stretches or a referral to a physical therapist of some form. If your pain is interfering that much with your work, then make sure your doctor knows and see if he can write you a note of accommodations that your employer can provide to ease your pain. Otherwise, let them do their job, if they decide bedrest is what you need they'll let you know.
But seriously, so much no. I mean, sorry you are in pain- but you certainly aren't the only one.
Ouch. A twisted vagina... Maybe that's where her pain is coming from...
Well if we didn't have privileged feet we'd know what it was like to walk in her shoes
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