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SAHM So Lonely!!!

wheresilenceismusicwheresilenceismusic member
in July 2015 Moms
Do any other SAHMs feel like they've developed PPD out of loneliness?  

I've tried everything -- I go to library group (it's for 1/2 hour once each week and the library doesn't offer it in December); I try to organize Mommy meet up walks through Facebook (no one shows); and I am subscribed to Meetup.com groups (but no one hosts events).  

My husband and I are military and so we don't know ANYONE in town.  I called the base to register for the Mommy classes/groups they offer, but they are all full!  We live off base in a suburb.

We will move again next June, so I know there's a light at the end of the tunnel.  It's just So.Goddamn.Hard being alone every single day.  I stopped working in my 8th month of pregnancy and baby is 4 months old now, so I have literally not spoken to anyone except my husband, except for passing conversations in the grocery store, etc., in about six months.

Any ideas appreciated.  Thanks!
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  • Knottie99627423Knottie99627423 member
    I totally get this. No advice, just commiserating.
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  • astraealynnastraealynn member
    same. :/ I don't feel like I'm depressed but certainly lonely. I don't have a solution since we don't know anyone where we live either. hugs to you!
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  • AziaNickAziaNick member
    Yes, I know exactly what you mean! I was in bedrest ending of my second trimester and our daughter was in the NICU for the first month and they didn't recommend taking her out or anything in big crowds. She is 6 months now and we are slowly taking her out, but still not around big crowds. I am also not from here and don't know anyone. Because we have to do therapy with her everyday, there was barely enough time for me to have me time. I just didn't have the energy to go out and do things. I stared focusing on myself and my hobbies. I have a photography business on the side while pursuing my career and i also do painting and writing. So I just surrounded myself with passions. I exercised, created some new recipes, read a book, worked on my art. And what was fun about it was that I could share it with my daughter and my husband. It is hard especially when you try to get involved but sometimes it is just so frustrating and not worth it in the end. I would keep trying to mommy and me classes, join mother get togethers and things like that, but I would also try to consider doing things on your own. I was really lonely at first too, and then I just thought, I'll do things that make me happy with not as much effort haha everyone is different. I might suggest a therapist as well, it is nice to talk to someone other then my husband and daughter. Someone that can help me with my goals and passions. Or you could even take up a new hobby or learn something different :) I took up yoga after the pregnancy, vey relaxing :D Good luck mama!
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  • cls2015cls2015 member
    edited December 2015
    I hear you; I definitely feel super lonely sometimes especially when my husband is on a business trip. I just try to leave the house with her everyday - even if it's just to walk around a store. I feel like just making a point to get out and about helps me. Good luck!
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  • VTomanVToman member
    cls2015 said:

    I hear you; I definitely feel super lonely sometimes especially when my husband is on a business trip. I just try to leave the house with her everyday - even if it's just to walk around a store. I feel like jet making a point to get out and about helps me. Good luck!

    I do the same thing. I get out of the house with her at least once a day to get some fresh air. I get lonely sometimes, too. But, I was getting so burned out at work that I was ready to be a bit of a recluse! I hope it gets better for you. :)
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  • wheresilenceismusicwheresilenceismusic member
    Thanks, ladies.  I try to get out of the house everyday too.  Art projects definitely help.  I try to focus on how lucky I am to share these tender moments with LO.  In so many ways, I feel blessed.

    SAHMs -- feel free to PM me if you want my #, if you ever want someone to talk to.  I take a 5-mile walk with LO every afternoon.  It's a great time to talk on the phone.
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  • n3na94n3na94 member
    I'm also a SAHM! I went online and looked for mommy groups maybe you could google some mommy groups in your area. Also going to BRU or target, I've met a couple of mamas. I also agree with PP taking new projects and learning new recipes helps but I'm mostly just enjoying my baby boy. I've picked up photography and take so many pictures of him lol If you ever do need anyone to talk to you can message me and I will gladly give you my number! Good luck mama! :smile:
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  • caronleehbcaronleehb member
    I hear you! I myself have looked into mommy groups & there was one that I was really interested in but didn't have time since we're moving & I got busy planning our move. The group is called Stroller Strides or Fit 4 Mom. I had a friend who was an instructor & basically it's a group of SAHMs and SAHDs who exercise & socialize. Maybe there is one in your area. Good luck!
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