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Stop asking the due date!

DanahQDanahQ member
in December 2015 Moms
Is there a way to tell people to stop asking me the due date or how much longer without being rude? I get asked the same question about 5 times a day by random strangers. It's driving me nuts!!
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Re: Stop asking the due date!

  • dec15mumdec15mum member
    I know it can be frustrating but they're just trying to be nice. Unfortunately I don't think there's a way of getting people to stop asking unless you're not pregnant
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  • BellaM110BellaM110 member
    I think those a questions are inevitable. I dont really think there's a way to keep people from asking. People are just trying to be nice and make conversation.
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  • Gingermom15Gingermom15 member
    When the baby is born you will get 101 more questions. Mainly "aren't you glad you're not pregnant anymore?" But some of these questions are pretty rude and invasive. I guess we should get used to getting asked stupid questions because it will probably never end.
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  • whit3183whit3183 member
    Ha, same! I credit RBF to the reason why I have not received any unsolicited belly rubs from strangers. 
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  • ZoeyRaeJamesZoeyRaeJames member
    I have people ask me all the time as well. My problem is, I'm usually snarky about it. I usually tell them "Well. Between now, and whenever the LO decides to come. Is that good enough?" I get some mean looks sometimes, but I'm use to it. I was this way prepregnancy, too. So I can handle the mean looks and remarks. Lol! But that's just the way I am. Very few people know my EDD.
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  • vanmostudiovanmostudio member
    Tee shirt w all of the applicable info? ;)
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  • kaitykinskaitykins member
    I tried answering "whenever" but people were confused and prodded more. So
    Now I say "0-20 days." Everyday the number shrinks by one and that feels good.
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  • TomekiaBTomekiaB member
    I avoid saying a day unless questioned directly for a number, most of my family didn't ask for the actual date until December (my pregnancy announcement just said December). If other people press I pleasantly say mid-December only 2-3 people have pressed further. I have an unintentional RBF so that probably helps.
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  • holoceneholocene member
    January Harshe (Birth Without Fear) doesn't tell ANYONE her due date. She just says whatever month she's due. She wrote a post about how it takes the pressure off of the mom. I think it's awesome. Luckily with being due so close to Christmas, I can just say "the holiday's" as a vague sort of answer. Only a few a holes have pressured me for an actual date. 
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  • powellgirlpowellgirl member
    LMJL said:

    I don't really mind answering the date, but what I hated was that I'd say 12/12 & so many ppl would say "oh! A xmas baby!" & then maybe make other comments about how that'll suck. I'm like, no it's actually 2 weeks before Xmas & maybe I'm Jewish or something, why is it so bad, anyway? Grumble, grumble

    ^this! I'm due 12/10 and people say the same thing!
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  • merbear32merbear32 member
    I live in a condo building with people mostly over 65.  Some are polite others are rude.  My answer reflects their question, the old lady who said ,"Hasn't come yet? you are really getting big?" got "Not yet or I wouldn't be pregnant"  The sweet old lady who asks if I need a ride to the hospital EVERY day gets, "Whenever G-d chooses but I'll be sure to let you know." I try to remind myself to be nice before I walk out the door. 
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  • cdv2015cdv2015 member
    LMJL said:

    I don't really mind answering the date, but what I hated was that I'd say 12/12 & so many ppl would say "oh! A xmas baby!" & then maybe make other comments about how that'll suck. I'm like, no it's actually 2 weeks before Xmas & maybe I'm Jewish or something, why is it so bad, anyway? Grumble, grumble

    My birthday is on 12/12... it doesn't suck all that much. I may have to share my day with a Christmas party now and then, but is that so bad?
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  • HFjeldHFjeld member
    I was due with my first on at Patrick's day and people all thought they were hilarious for telling me to name them Patrick or Patricia. I wish I had told people a day off just to avoid having that conversation repeatedly.

    This time I was complaining to a friend about answering too many questions about my due date and she suggested I tell people June (it was really December 8).
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  • redfallonredfallon member
    These types of questions don't bother me at all.

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  • blended10blended10 member
    I don't mind ppl asking me but my poor son - he is sooooo over being asked if he's "excited to be a big brother?" "Are you going to protect your baby sister?!" He rolls his eyes now. If it's a stranger he ignores them entirely & they look at me like "ooh - he's mad about the baby?" Um noooo he's sick of being asked about it 30 times a day!
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  • NellieHarringtonCarterNellieHarringtonCarter member
    edited December 2015
    I also don't really mind being asked about my due date. Although I find it interested that in October, random strangers would walk by and say "Any day now, huh?" but now that we are less than 2 weeks away, when people ask when I'm due and I say "the 20th," they reply "Of THIS MONTH!?"

    I hear the whole "Ooh a Christmas baby!" from acquaintances and strangers, but from my family, I'm pretty lucky that we have like 5 or 6 people with birthdays within two or three weeks of Christmas, so it's like they understand not to push that point. 
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  • celainevcelainev member
    edited December 2015
    Even though I'm tired of getting asked the question as well, I really think that people just are trying to make conversation. I'd rather they ask me questions instead of giving me their unwanted opinions or advice. Whenever someone says "Since this is your first one, it'll probably be really late." A lot of the time I just say "oh good! I want baby in there as long as possible!" Because if you even so much as sound like you're ready for baby to come out now, people love to tell you how hard it will be after baby is here! Oh really? Cuz I thought having a baby would be super easy.
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  • smaydavidsonsmaydavidson member
    My original due date and the one I still go by is New Years Eve, 12/31...people CONSTANTLY ask when I'm due and then giggle and say "ha! You really think you'll make it that long? I mean..look at that belly!" Which didn't bother me too much at first but now after gaining 20 more lbs than I did in my first pregnancy, it makes me want to rip people's heads off. Ugh.
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  • blansawblansaw member
    "Any day now."
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  • laurabwalkerlaurabwalker member
    edited December 2015
    I always tell people end of December but people get very annoyed when I don't give them a date, but what people don't realize is only less than 5% of babies come on their "due date". It's an estimate and many things can make the doctor given due date different (esp if you know exactly when you got pregnant). I do not explain this i just leave it at that and walk away. The other day a lady in the grocery exclaimed "oh at that uncomfortable stage!" Lol.... Thanks :/
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  • JmdavinJmdavin member
    I swear, next pregnancy I'm just going to ask them to give me a date range and not an EDD. There's so much pressure from others (and yourself) with the whole "due date" thing when it Really is like a span of a few weeks that you are in the green zone.

    I'm not 40wks yet, but obviously from reading other posts on it, going over the 40wk mark (while perfectly normal) just seems to add so much anxiety and stress when we really need to be relaxed and let our bodies open up and do its thing! Seriously, I'd rather not have an exact date...because it's so not exact!! -end rant-
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  • angetralalaangetralala member
    @redfallon that's where I am right now, 40+6 and shocking people every time I leave the house. Like I'm a walking zoo.
    I was actually thinking about you today! Hope all is well, I haven't been bumping so I haven't seen you around.
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  • ssn109ssn109 member
    kbirchtree said:

    The button that the bump has to click that mocks me and says "I've given birth" is getting on my nerves too.

    Now that I have actually reached my EDD, that button is pissing me off to the extent that I don't even want to get on TB so I can avoid seeing it. Yes, I'm 40 weeks pregnant. Yes, it seems I will be more than 40 weeks by the time I've given birth. No, I don't need to be reminded of that every time I open the app!
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