Team Green, Harder than I ever thought.

jennaverhaeghe · December 2015

Team green is getting WAY harder than I ever imagined. I thought it wasn't a big deal, as long as baby is healthy I don't need to know what it is. I was wrong. It is a family tradition to not find out the sex of your baby. I really really want to do a baby chart/pool for everyone to have fun guessing. Plus just the element of a wonderful surprise. For as long as I can remember I always pictured myself giving birth and having my husband by my side and telling me IT'S A ____!!! But the last few weeks all I can think about is, "I WANT TO KNOW WHATS IN THERE" And DH and I decided to wait but now he is hinting he wants to find out too. I guess I'm just venting/looking for support because I hate to break tradition and ruin my dream surprise. But its just really hard. 20 weeks on New years day.

helleebellee · December 2015

I hear you. This time seems to be harder than last time. I've made it through two u/ss without confirmation when asking for it. Now that that's over and I don't know, I'm feeling okay about not knowing. I have an elective 3D u/s to make it through, and then I'm in the home stretch. Finding out at an u/s is really nothing like finding out after birth (I've done both).

Dantzscher32 · December 2015

The hardest part for me is knowing our ultrasound is next week and we COULD know if we wanted to. But I, too, have wanted to be in the delivery room and have the surprise. With my first DS, we had the technician write it down for us to open at a later date. But I cheated! I knew but kept it a secret from everyone that I knew. We had planned to all find out and share the news on Father's Day (two months before the birth.) I hated that I cheated and now I want to go through it really not knowing and having the surprise.I'm really excited for a boy or a girl, and I want to keep that excitement all the way to the end.

gemini2005 · December 2015

Well, we were team green until yesterday at 9:30 am. I just literally could not wait any longer. I had the harmony DNA test done over a month ago and it was killing me knowing the results were 5 minutes away. I tore open the envelope as soon as the nurse handed it to me and I swear I have no regrets. I am very happy and relieved to finally know. I hope you guys do what's right for you even if it means deviating from family tradition. I also had the fantasy of my DH yelling "it's a ...." in the delivery room but I realized that I would enjoy it much more when i have things ready (including my mind wrapped around it!). When the baby is born you are overjoyed anyway! I don't want to talk you out of being team green though- I am extremely amazed that people can wait until the birth and get the surprise of their lives. GL to you!

araecasey · December 2015

Dantzscher32 said:
The hardest part for me is knowing our ultrasound is next week and we COULD know if we wanted to.

This. This is pure torture. I'm ignoring my desire to know, but anytime I feel temptation creeping in I remind myself that there's no "must" reason to find out early, and I love to prove my MIL wrong, who has said from the beginning that I'd cave. Can't wait to hear "it's a _____" right when we meet our baby

2.red.heads · December 2015

Team Green is SO awesome!!! Try to wait if you can! We were team green with our son and then daughter and it really is awesome, having that ooey-gooey baby placed on your chest and hearing 'its a ____!!
This time we are having twins and we decided to find out. When I heard the sonographer tell me one was a boy in the Drs office it was just so anti-climatic! We did a mini gender reveal party with our parents and our 8 & 5 year old. It was fun, but....it's just so different this time.
With my first baby I got SO many useful supplies at my showers. Sometimes I feel bad for moms who get tons of clothes (boy or girl) at their showers. They still have so much to buy! People will still buy adorable outfits after the baby is born.
Anyway, I'm rambling, but stay strong!!! Don't follow the crowd!

and_peggy · December 2015

We were team green, but unfortunately found out by accident. I've come to terms with the fact that I know, and that I wasn't able to really have any moment about it because it was 'ruined'. But I will tell you, if that is really what you want, stick with it. It will be tough for a little bit, but when you have that moment you've been dreaming of, you'll forget about the dreadfully long time you had to wait to find out. I was really upset after accidentally finding out, and I did feel like I ruined everything I wanted to do, but plans change and it's all good. Bottom line, do what you want. Just remember, once you find out, you can't take that back. And it's okay to not be immediately happy or excited, and just to process. That's what happened with me

jennaverhaeghe · December 2015

Wow, thank you so much ladies! This has really helped me and will remember this advise for the next 5 months

It helps that DH and I talked last night and he said he doesn't care if we find out. So at least there is no pressure from him and his opinion is the only one I really care about right now.

Vivian0809 · December 2015

I'll be honest... I've done it both ways. Team Green for my first, and we found out with our second. (This is #3)
Team Green was 100000% more exciting. Just nothing compares to it.. I preferred it so much to finding out, which was cool at the time, then I felt... Just so anti climatic that i knew for the rest of the pregnancy.
I really think everyone should experience not finding out I ton delivery at least once! And your first time is just extra special... Stay strong! I promise it's SO worth it.

TheThornBird · December 2015

I don't know if this will help you, but my SO and I talk about how wonderful it's going to be to find out together after our baby is born. But we're a little sappy and romantic, so our focus during pregnancy/birth (and probably while raising kids, too) is how we can use it to bring us closer together and make our relationship stronger (rather than just focusing on the baby). So framing it as something we're going to do together at one of the most special times in our lives makes it so we're not all "OMG what is it?!" constantly, if that makes sense.

osmama456 · December 2015

it's so hard! we are team green this time too, and believe me, I REALLY want to know as well, but I also REALLY want that surprise at the end! We found out with #1 because we were new parents, had no idea what to expect, what to do, and thought finding out and planning would make it easier. so this time around, since we know what to expect, we're going for the surprise! our anatomy scan is Monday, hopefully we won't accidentally find out.

Dantzscher32 · December 2015

It's getting harder for me. Of who we have told, everyone knows we are waiting to find out. But part of me wants to surprise them for Christmas and find out! They would not be expecting it at all. It could also be a way to break the news to those that don't know. I'm torn now.

somethingbluetoo · December 2015

Is this your first child? It is so much harder if it is, and to us... impossible! We found out for our first two daughters and after being a mom for a bit I've kind of mellowed out on the "must. have. everything. ready. and perfect. NOW!". I can never imagine us not knowing for our first, for our second they weren't as sure but we had a good idea that she was a girl. This time around this may be our last child and I will never have that opportunity to hear "It's a girl! - It's a boy!" again. I keep telling myself that this is a once in a lifetime opportunity and that keeps me from getting anxious about not knowing.
I also have a big family to help out with bringing boy stuff over, generally have "easy" labours and would be comfortable enough to go out for a bit and pick up a few items, if needed. I picked up a bunch of stuff at Carters because they have an awesome return policy. If we don't have a boy I can return it with no problem. We have girl stuff coming out of our ears so that will never be a problem

You can do it!

jennaverhaeghe · December 2015

Yes I am a FTM. I have accepted that it will be worth the wait. I am very crafty and I believe I have good style and color coordination so doing the nursery in neutral colors is going well so far.

Jessabelly · December 2015

We were team green with our daughter and it was honestly the best surprise ever. Both my husband and I were sure we wanted to wait and never thought twice about finding out. Same with this pregnancy- we both had to look away while they did the anatomy scan and would have been SO EASY to peek. If you are having this much stress about wanting to know I would find out! Some people are more planners and like to be prepared rather than surprised. Both ways are fun but it just depends on your preference. It seems to me you should find out or it will drive you crazy!! Lol

janeen1689 · December 2015

I am doing a mini gender reveal party with just my parents and my in laws a week after our ultrasound just because we are going on our babymoon then and want to take a picture in either a pink or blue bikini to reveal the news. however, I am having a gender reveal shower so I don't get bombarded with either boy or girl stuff because I do plan on having more than one child and hopefully of the different sex

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