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Back to work Depression

HandreeHandree member
in July 2015 Moms
I went back to work on Monday and I am feeling really depressed. It doesn't feel natural to be away from my son. I only see him awake for a couple of hours a day and I am so jealous of my mil who is caring for him. My hubby keeps reminding me of all the things to be grateful for and I am very grateful for the positives (income, insurance, baby is in good hands, I got to spend 4+months home, etc). To be honest I don't even feel like I'm his mom anymore. It feels like I had a baby to hand off to someone else and it's killing me. I hope this feeling passes soon.
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  • leelee1112leelee1112 member
    I totally agree with everything you said 100%!!! It just sucks! My MIL keeps my son too & im super grateful he's in good hands, but I want to be the one with him all day everyday. People think I'm crazy when I say I feel like I gave birth, and now everyone else gets to enjoy him (like I'm giving him away).
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  • HandreeHandree member
    Glad to hear I'm not alone in feeling this way.
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  • jusienjusien member
    I feel the same about not spending enough time with my baby girl too. She's in day care now and when I pick her up, she's super tired and falls asleep right away in the car.
    But I am starting off part time this month so I get to spend some days with her myself.
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  • krissyberbkrissyberb member
    Been there! This is my 7th week back. The first week back was by far the worst. It gets easier, but I still get sad every morning when I have to say goodbye. My husband is taking his FMLA leave now and I am jealous. I feel like I was home for the hard parts and my husband gets to enjoy the baby during a really fun stage.
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  • Melis222Melis222 member
    @Handree I went back on Monday too, it's hard. I'm fine leaving & being at work but it will hit me like a wave of sadness that my time staying home with her is done. I'm a STM and it is easier the second time around than it was with my son. I do have moments where I feel resentful towards hubby since I truly feel like we could afford for me to stay home but he worries too much about $ and won't agree to it.
    @krissyberb I feel ya, it annoys me that I'm now missing the fun part and was home for the more grueling newborn stage.
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  • dmd0830dmd0830 member
    I'm glad others feel the same way! Its making me crazy! I was really upset the first week then it got better for awhile and now it's getting worse. I get upset when he experiences anything new without me around. People say, "you get used to it." But I don't want to get used to not seeing my baby every day!!
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  • jewels1029jewels1029 member
    I felt the same way when I went back to work to the point that I looked for a new job and different hours after working 2 months 40+hrs a week since he was 8 weeks. I was absolutely miserable I would cry in the evenings. Id get home at 5 and only have a couple hours with DS.Hubby and I figured out what we could get by with living wise and decided I didn't need to work full time that we would be just fine with me working part time. So now I work a cpl evenings a week. I'll go in at 4 and I feel I'm not really missing out bc LO is in bed by 9. So I have all morning and afternoon with him during his most active times of the day. I know not everyone can do what I did. I am blessed and thankful that we can afford to do so. No one else has to watch him bc he's with mommy during the day and daddy in the evenings when I work.
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  • Knottie1448065635Knottie1448065635 member
    I'm going back to work in Jan and I'm so depressed about it too. I know I'm lucky to have had 6 months with her but I can't imagine what it will be like when I only see her a few hours at night. I get out of work at 5:30 with a half hour commute....she's asleep by 7 so I will literally have maybe an hour with her to feed and get ready for bed. It does sort of feel like she won't be my kid anymore. As crazy as that sounds.

    I think about it every night.
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  • lynnettemtlynnettemt member
    Hang in there moms. I have to believe it gets easier. I've been back a few weeks now and wasn't sure how I would be able to cope but so far so good. I know not everyone has options but try to explore if any flexibilities are possible at work. I had started looking for a job closer to home and to my surprise my boss agreed to let me work from home 2 days a week. My mom watches my LO during the day but it makes a huge difference to me to hear his giggles during the day and to peak in on him.
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  • Jurse1018Jurse1018 member
    Sigh, I know the feeling. I went back to work in Oct and it took a while before I stopped crying or tearing up on my drive in and Monday's are still hard. I keep reminding myself that most of the Mom's I work with and my mom went through this and all of their kids, including myself, are fine. I wish I could be home with my LO but I just try to make the time we do spend together count.
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  • aligmcleanaligmclean member
    I feel the same way. So I work part time, and then I have a job I'm also doing from home to supplement income. It's with essential oils which we love and use. I'm stepping out of my comfort zone to do this, but I believe strongly in my team. If ur interested e-mail me! Ignitewellnesssandiego@gmail.com
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